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My very irritating friend (Deidre my Diabetes) is being an absolute pain

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SB2015

SB2015

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It is tempting to hide away when things become too much. However it may help others to know these blips happen to others and that they are not alone. Also I know that I have come out the other side before, with the help and support that is readily available on here.

@trophywench helped me last time by getting me to think of my Diabetes as a very irritating friend who just wont go away. Well at present she is being VERY irritating, failing to behave as expected, and it has once again got me down.

I need to revise the strategies I used before for managing burnout, which I have not needed recently. As a consequence I have ignored them for a while. I shall look out the link that I put on here to them again.

I can’t even pinpoint why I feel so fed up about it all. No obvious trigger just very tearful a lot of the time when my meter slaps me in the face ‘for getting it wrong’. No logic is working, and I know that the tears are of no benefit, and I know that I just need to accept that it is here to stay. Just now that does not seem to be helping me. I had reached a more relaxed approach for a while, but then Deidre started playing up and all the work on changing basal rates and checking ratios that I had done has gone to pot.

Counsellor has suggested a bit of a break from the forum, but I thought I would just explain my lack of postings, and it is good to know that you lot are around.
 
Deidre may just be more than a tad hacked off cos you can't spell Deirdre? LOL She can be spiteful whenever she feels like it as we know too blooming well - so sometimes she just throws all her toys out of the pram. Well I have sympathy TBH - cos I don't like being ignored or taken for granted either.

Nihil carborundum illegitimae (or something similar) - don't let em think they've won in other words. Each of us has to find our own way through the maze cos it's not a matter of keep turning left like a normal one.

Eventually I usually find, equally as accidentally as anything else, what the rules are again.

Until the next time …….

{{{Hugs}}} SB.
 
Sorry you’ve hit a rough patch (((hugs))). Do you think this is one of the drawbacks of a pump? I know there are plenty of advantages, but I sometimes wonder if one swaps the frustrations of not being able to achieve the control one would like with MDI, for the frustrations of working hard to get the ideal settings only to see it all change and having to go back to scratch. I think I'd have to keep reminding myself how frustrated I feel on MDI, or I'd be tempted to throw the pump out of the nearest window on occasion.
 
Diabetes can be frustrating condition to live with, we can call agree on that.

Thing is not to get hung up by blips in control, they happen, the journey ahead is always going to be bumpy ride as diabetes is unpredictable condition, that is why burnout happens as it's never goes away & always on the mind.

Nobody gets it right all of the time, anyone who says otherwise is one big liar, its impossible to be in range 100% of the time as so many factors effect bg control, many unforeseen & cant be accounted for, just do your best that is all we can do.

Good luck my friend.
 
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Hugs from me as well. I am sure that you will find a way through.
When thing get out of line like this it can help to remember that many trees loose their leaves every year, but they still stay tall, wait for better days to come as they know their leaves will come back in the spring.
 
Well I don't ever see my diabetes as a snag really though having to stop ignoring it (by which I mean just being completely relaxed and not worrying, rather than actually ignoring it) is when I have a succession of too many blips and my A1c shoots up.

I hate and loathe basal testing so put it off and put it off as long as I can, too long. There again I have never been a person who has ever beaten themselves up about anything in my life because I simply don't expect too much of myself. I'm very lazy, all round and that's the truth.

I'm therefore very relaxed about other people's blips, cos that's all I see most of them are, in the world of T1. Whilst in a perfect world we'd all know instantly what our next A1c is likely to be - things like 'time in range' 'deviation' and suchlike - I don't have a clue and don't feel the need to attempt to find out. If I do shedloads of blood tests today that only tells me about today so why bother?

Clinic lent me a CGM the once, years ago with an algorithm on the download to adjust it to meter readings (no info available until the download on that machine) that bore very very little resemblance to the blood tests I actually did, and showed no patterns - I had a Libre temporarily about for a month a while ago (the first type) and that was the same so I never bothered to invest in one.
 
(((HUGS))) @SB2015. Sorry to hear you’re struggling. I try to be as objective as possible with my diabetes, but it can still trip me up ev now n then. I hope you bounce back ASAP.🙂
 
Thanks for your post @SB2015

I'm sure it will help others who may hit a rocky patch. It’s good to know we aren’t alone, and that however much effort and careful tweaking we invest to approach BG perfection and optimum strategies at one point, Deirdre Betes sometimes just gets the hump and plays havoc by completely changing her own fickle and infuriating rules.

Dig deep take several deep breaths and just do what you can to keep her happy until she’s calmed down and becomes more agreeable again.
 
Thank you all. I so value your support and understanding.

I have found that whilst Deirdre Betes (I like that @everydayupsanddowns. Correct spelling @trophywench might put her in her place) is playing havoc at present, I find it useful to focus on other things that I CAN organise. Preparations for a Folded Secrets book making course, weaving, and playing music.

Getting there.
 
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(((HUGS))) @SB2015. Sorry to hear you’re struggling. I try to be as objective as possible with my diabetes, but it can still trip me up ev now n then. I hope you bounce back ASAP.🙂
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Objectivity and logic just seem to fly out of the window sometimes!
Need some draught excluders in our windows perhaps!!
 
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Our windows don't tend to get droughts to speak of, these days, well, not since 1976 when Dennis Howell was appointed Minister to try and co-ordinate what needed co-ordinating because of the unrelenting hot weather, though admittedly we do sometimes get draughts if we don't fully close them …..

Sorry SB, I seem to just be the Spelling Police for you on this thread!
 
trophywench said:
Our windows don't tend to get droughts to speak of, these days, well, not since 1976 when Dennis Howell was appointed Minister to try and co-ordinate what needed co-ordinating because of the unrelenting hot weather, though admittedly we do sometimes get draughts if we don't fully close them …..

Sorry SB, I seem to just be the Spelling Police for you on this thread!
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Yes but you do make me chuckle.
 
SB2015 said:
Thank you all. I so value your support and understanding.

I have found that whilst Deirdre Betes (I like that @everydayupsanddowns. Correct spelling @trophywench might put her in her place) is playing havoc at present, I find it useful to focus on other things that I CAN organise. Preparations for a Folded Secrets book making course, weaving, and playing music.

Getting there.
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Ohhh, book making course sounds fab.
Unlike Deirdre - what a pain she is! When I got down I had good advice too and decided on the back of it to take a break. I envisaged a few days (at the time I was visiting daily)... a week later I came back... it helped.

I think I have seen you posting so hoping you are feeling better.
 
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Ohhh, book making course sounds fab.
Unlike Deirdre - what a pain she is! When I got down I had good advice too and decided on the back of it to take a break. I envisaged a few days (at the time I was visiting daily)... a week later I came back... it helped.

I think I have seen you posting so hoping you are feeling better.
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Just dipping back in now and then.

Book making course was with Ruth Smith making Folded Secrets Books.
Worth a look online. I shall post a photo in the thread Procraftination.
 
I also hate basal testing sooooo much I don't do it and I am not condoning my own behaviour either. You are probably feeling physically and emotionally exhausted because Dierdre is 'winding you up' and I can relate to that.

My diabetes is a small, over weight and invisible terrier with a high pitched bark dragging me up a hill......It's a fat one with a lampshade on its head and the image in my mind when it reaches a lamp post is more than amusing so I start to laugh at it.

Sometimes, seeking a second opinion on your bg results from a DSN is all it takes, but the choice is yours.
 
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