Stress and not eating, depressed then hypo!

[Ditsy daisy]

Hi I was really struggling earlier with a situation involving me and my carer/ family member. Not sure how much to say here but here goes... we were talking about my ibs and that the laxido isn't working. She suggested something but I said that doesn't work she said same thing again I got frustrated then shouted. Then she got frustrated coz she couldn't help me. Then I was talking about what a mental health dietitian had suguested to me about eating. This stressed out my carer straight away she said I was making waves which I hate her saying it just sounds awful like it's my fault but I wasn't saying I've got to eat that cooked stuff I was asking what to eat instead of cheese and tomatoe everyday. But my carer family member got so stressed she said things like you are being unreasonable. This again hurt me so I gave up trying to explain and wept and couldn't eat anything even though done novorapid. I ate something in the end even though I had a hypo. This situation has been going on for years now. We are both ill with the situation. I think she needs help fast. She's had carers assessment and down for counselling but it's taking too long.

 

[Ditsy daisy]

She was stressing about something but I wasn't saying that. she misunderstood what I was saying then I took what she said to mean it was my fault. But what we were really both trying to say was I'm stressed I can't cope don't adjetate me. The thing is I find it hard to keep my problems to myself I look to others for reassurance and to help me all the time coz I can't cope myself. She is a domestic abuse survivor so am I. It's so hard when we can't just talk it always turns into a stressfull argument coz we misunderstood eachother.

 

[Thebearcametoo]

That sounds like a tough situation for you both.


Is there a way you can discuss it not in the heat of the moment and agree a meal plan or something that works for both of you? She can call MIND which may be a way to get some support while waiting for the carers support. You can come here and offload to us as a way to pause and let the situation move along without it escalating.

There are aspects of food and diabetes that can trigger domestic violence survivors as there are elements of control around it so I’m sure it’s difficult for both of you.

 

[trophywench]

I'm not quite sure what you are asking advice about?

 

[Ditsy daisy]

That sounds like a tough situation for you both.


Is there a way you can discuss it not in the heat of the moment and agree a meal plan or something that works for both of you? She can call MIND which may be a way to get some support while waiting for the carers support. You can come here and offload to us as a way to pause and let the situation move along without it escalating.

There are aspects of food and diabetes that can trigger domestic violence survivors as there are elements of control around it so I’m sure it’s difficult for both of you.

Yes she tells me the only thing she can control in her life is the home and stuff around the home. You have good insight. I tell her to get help but she's scared of getting help. It's hard for both of us. There are so many things I can't talk about to her about it makes her panic. So I'm trying to keep out of the way for now.

 

[Ditsy daisy]

I'm not quite sure what you are asking advice about?

I'm not really asking advice just worried and need a listening ear. It's hard and stressful just don't know what to do. Sometimes it's good to just talk.

 

[Ditsy daisy]

That sounds like a tough situation for you both.


Is there a way you can discuss it not in the heat of the moment and agree a meal plan or something that works for both of you? She can call MIND which may be a way to get some support while waiting for the carers support. You can come here and offload to us as a way to pause and let the situation move along without it escalating.

There are aspects of food and diabetes that can trigger domestic violence survivors as there are elements of control around it so I’m sure it’s difficult for both of you.

We've decided on sandwich fillers lunchtime but why I'm worried is it happens all the time about lots of different subjects I'm scared to mention anything now incase I make her panic

 

[MrDaibetes]

Hey, this sounds very hard on both of you. Do you have a care plan in action so you can both see what should be done, and what care you need?