Let people do what they’re comfortable with

[AJLang]

There is so much love and support on this forum and it’s wonderful. BUT we can only guide people, they have to make decisions in life that they’re comfortable with, which may not be the same as how we do things but hey, they could be even better. But most importantly they have to be what each person feels comfortable with. It’s also important to realise that we all think in different ways, sometimes a lot differently and sometimes a little differently. Please support and respect the different views. Apologies to anyone who doesn’t like my comments but as I said we all think differently.

 

[Pumper_Sue]

There is so much love and support on this forum and it’s wonderful. BUT we can only guide people, they have to make decisions in life that they’re comfortable with, which may not be the same as how we do things but hey, they could be even better. But most importantly they have to be what each person feels comfortable with. It’s also important to realise that we all think in different ways, sometimes a lot differently and sometimes a little differently. Please support and respect the different views. Apologies to anyone who doesn’t like my comments but as I said we all think differently.

Obviously a dig at a post I made.
I do not do aww lovey dovey just practical advice. I gave my opinion on the use and profile of Fiasp and suggested if the OP wants to carry on eating the way she is then to try an older insulin...………….. So why the dig?

 

[AJLang]

Sue my post was a general one based on a number of comments that I’ve read recently by a number of people. We only know a part of what’s going on in anyone’s life so we need to be careful how we phrase what we say. It wasn’t a dig at you. If it was a dig at you I would have reported your post and not posted my more general comment. But I didn’t do that.

 

[Kaylz]

I couldn't agree more Amanda, this was a lovely supportive place when I first joined but a few of the members now come across as far too judgemental and if they dont like what your doing then they hold it against you and keep that grudge, there is just no need to judge people or tell people how they should livezl, you however have always been a great support to everyone like I hope we have been to you in your times of need xx

 

[AJLang]

Thank you Kaylz. Yes you and lots of people on this forum have been a tremendous support for me and I don’t know what I would do without that support. I just feel guilty that I don’t post more but my health limits what I can do xxx

 

[nonethewiser]

this was a lovely supportive place when I first joined but a few of the members now come across as far too judgemental and if they dont like what your doing then they hold it against you and keep that grudge

Not experienced that or witnessed it happening, that's not to say it doesn't happen as don't read all subjects on forum, shame you've experienced it though and felt need to mention it, generally find forum inclusive to all and friendly supportive respectful.

 

[Kaylz]

Not experienced that or witnessed it happening, that's not to say it doesn't happen as don't read all subjects on forum, shame you've experienced it though and felt need to mention it, generally find forum inclusive to all and friendly supportive respectful.

I have experienced it on a few occasions from certain members, one only after a month of being diagnosed blaming my macular oedema on myself as I'd eaten carbs, that isn't very supportive at all and led to me developing an eating disorder, many others have had it too from same members, it isn't anywhere near as friendly and supportive as it was 3 years ago xx

 

[nonethewiser]

I have experienced it on a few occasions from certain members, one only after a month of being diagnosed blaming my macular oedema on myself as I'd eaten carbs, that isn't very supportive at all and led to me developing an eating disorder, many others have had it too from same members, it isn't anywhere near as friendly and supportive as it was 3 years ago xx

Best course of action is to ignore those people and don't let em spoil your enjoyment of forum, again shame you've experienced it. Take care Kaylz.

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

I have experienced it on a few occasions from certain members, one only after a month of being diagnosed blaming my macular oedema on myself as I'd eaten carbs, that isn't very supportive at all and led to me developing an eating disorder, many others have had it too from same members, it isn't anywhere near as friendly and supportive as it was 3 years ago xx

It’s a real shame you feel that way Kaylz

I think the forum is a very supportive place, and I haven’t seen an overall change in mood myself. There have been times when some members (who no longer frequent the forum) have stirred things up and caused upset, but that hasn’t happened for a little while.

It is important that everyone feels free to express their feelings and experiences in their own way, and the user guidance to be supportive and respectful of differences of opinion are there for good reason.

I would remind members of Northie’s ‘It takes all sorts’ thread from a while back, which reminds members to try to put themselves in other’s shoes and consider how their posts might make others feel before posting - including posts on this threads!

importantly I would also remind members to use the report function if they have any concerns over a post or the conduct of another member so that the moderators can consider the matter and review whether the user guidelines have been contravened.

Keep being lovely folks - you make the forum what it is!

 

[grovesy]

Best course of action is to ignore those people and don't let em spoil your enjoyment of forum, again shame you've experienced it. Take care Kaylz.

If you ignore someone, sometimes a thread does not make sense.

 

[Sprogladite]

There is so much love and support on this forum and it’s wonderful. BUT we can only guide people, they have to make decisions in life that they’re comfortable with, which may not be the same as how we do things but hey, they could be even better. But most importantly they have to be what each person feels comfortable with. It’s also important to realise that we all think in different ways, sometimes a lot differently and sometimes a little differently. Please support and respect the different views. Apologies to anyone who doesn’t like my comments but as I said we all think differently.

Completely agree @AJLang and it's a large part of why I don't post much these days. Although I still lurk during the week lol 🙂

 

[Kaylz]

Completely agree @AJLang and it's a large part of why I don't post much these days. Although I still lurk during the week lol 🙂

Me too! xx

 

[Stitch147]

There are certain threads I stopped posting in as I didn't want the comments that I thought I would get. We all have to live with this condition (or how every you want to refer to it) and you have to find a way that works for you. I've only been diagnosed for a few years and this forum has helped my tremendously in that time and I have made some fantastic friends a long the way. Some people might not agree with some of the things I eat, like carbs, but I am living with diabetes it's not going to rule me, I'm going to rule it!

 

[Jodee]

I agree its good to hear peoples different ways they manage their diabetes.

There is an option to block people any one that may irritate, but I also agree that if anyone is not respecting the right of another individual, they should be reported. I've not seen anything recently but maybe I already blocked them

 

[Jodee]

If you ignore someone, sometimes a thread does not make sense.

you can temporary unblock to view if you wish and reblock after you have read comments to make more sense of things 🙂

 

[grovesy]

you can temporary unblock to view if you wish and reblock after you have read comments to make more sense of things 🙂

Yes I am aware of that.

 

[Lucy Honeychurch]

Hear hear @AJLang! Each to their own. Generally if I'm looking for advice I use the search box instead of posting directly.

 

[ianf0ster]

I think the forum would be better if there was an option to block individual posts. At the bottom right of each post there is a 'Like' and 'Reply' option, I think there should also be the option to 'Block' individual posts. I have blocked several annoying posters completely, and probably miss out on their occasional gems, but blocking is all or nothing: that is the way the forum is designed.

No offense meant to anyone, just my point of view:
Excuse me, but I don't a see the point of blocking individual posts. Surely once you have read it emotional damage is done - so why would you ever re-read it?
Admittedly, I'm an unsensitive fairly thick skinned individual, here to give and receive advice based upon experience and learning, rather than emotional support. So I don't understand why anybody would block even an insensitive, even an aggressive individual if they occasionally shared valuable experience.

 

[Andy HB]

I would block 'Offensive or No offence to anyone posts' on a post by post basis rather than than ignoring all their content.

I don't see the point of that either. In order to block a post you don't like, you have to have already read it. Then, what's the point?

Anyway, on reflection, my opinion about blocking people or posts, it is like going "la la la" whilst sticking my fingers in my ears. It feels a little juvenile and very 21st century! Well, that's how I felt when I indulged in blocking one or two people (now since unblocked).

 

[Sally71]

I don't bother to block anyone either. If I think a particular thread is getting a little heated or going in a direction I don't like then I just stop looking at it. I think occasionally (hopefully not recently) I have also fallen foul of sounding a little harsh or abrupt on here, simply through poor choice of words rather than actually wanting to be nasty, so that does make me more aware now of trying to make my input sound as friendly as possible all the time. So I like to think that if other people sometimes come over sounding a bit less than friendly, they are probably also only trying to help and maybe it came out wrong. At the end of the day, if anyone doesn't like what I’m saying they don't have to take any notice of it 🙂