I spend a lot of time hypo too - I quite often have 2 or 3 in a day, and sometimes they last for ages. I'm not having the emotional struggle with it you both are though, and I think it's a really good idea to talk to your DSN or GP (whoever is likely to be most helpful and sympathetic) about the psychological as well as the physical side of things. Swinging blood sugars can effect your mood as well as making you feel rubbish physically, and it's not good to try to struggle with that alone.
Are you both on Lantus? I found that Lantus really didn't help when it came to having hypos - it's supposed to give you a level basal, but I'm not the only one who found it actually gave me a roller-coaster ride of ups and downs. Apparently it's not so stable in low doses, and I was only on 4 units. I switched to Tresiba, which has been a bit better for me, but (until I manage to get a pump) I'm actually thinking of asking to switch to Levemir next time I see a DSN or consultant as I suspect that may be better still, as I still swing up and down a lot. It would mean an extra injection, but is supposed to make blood sugar more manageable as it lasts for a much shorter amount of time in your system, so it might be something for you to discuss with your DSNs.
Do either of you have a Libre? If you don't and you're testing more than 8 times a day (I know
@Imstillme is, and it sounds as though you might be too
@freesia ) you may qualify for one, so ask your DSNs about it. Although they're not completely reliable, and you still have to do some testing with them, they do cut down on a lot of the extra testing you do when you think you might be hypo, or you don't know whether you've got over the hypo yet, or whatever - and the arrows showing the direction your blood sugar is going help to head some of the hypos off at the pass. It may also show you when you're over-treating the hypos or over-correcting the spikes, which is easy to do, and just causes more swinging from hypo to spike to hypo again.
I hardly ever do a correction dose - my blood sugar would have to be about 15 for me to correct - because I know that no matter what I do my blood sugar goes up after meals and then comes down again with a crash. There is a rare condition called Reactive Hypoglycaemia which causes blood sugar to do this (I know about it because my partner has it) - it's not something you'd expect a type 1 to have normally but I wonder whether I might because I've been having this spike and plummet pattern for a really long time. For you two though, it's more likely to be that you're still in the "honeymoon period" and that your pancreas is still putting out a spurt of insulin from time to time - in which case, it should resolve itself after the first few months of being diabetic, so this constant yo-yo-ing and hypo-ing shouldn't last. I mention RH because the treatment for it is to eat like a type 2 (ie as low carb as you can); to always combine carbs with fat/protein, never eat them on their own; to eat lots of small meals rather than three big ones; to get plenty of fibre; and to always eat something fatty (like a yogurt or cheese and biscuits) before bed to stop overnight lows - and eating like this might help you both to stabilise your blood sugar a bit more. I think this is more or less what
@rebrascora did when she was diagnosed, so she may have other ideas.
@freesia - the changes you've seen in your blood sugar lately may also be related to the weather, most of us find we need to change our doses every time the weather changes, so you wouldn't be alone in that.
And you are not alone, either of you - everyone on the forum has been through problems with diabetes, and we're all here to support you.