Hi, I'm Johnsgirl. I have been with John for over 30 years and he had Type 1 diabetes when I met him. Over the years the hypos have always been a problem. We are in our late seventies and my partner is blind and deaf.
I am being accused of something - I'm not sure exactly what but my partner has turned against me after one of his daughters said that I should have called an ambulance for him sooner than I did.
On Sunday evening he was ok and he put our meal on the table at about 9.0 pm, sat down and was immediately into a hypo. He couldn't eat much and couldn't check his blood sugar. He was very confused and I couldn't get the testing kit to work either. He kept falling asleep, and at some point I did manage to get him to take two glucose tablets (he hadn't given himself any insulin). Then his mobile rang and he answered it. I assumed it was a cold call as he kept saying "sorry?" as often cold callers are not clear, and he was clearly having some problems. He was on the phone for nearly ten minutes and then the call ended abruptly at 9.40. The landline rang and it was one of his daughters (No. 3) who said that No. 4 had been speaking to him and had rung for an ambulance! I was horrified because the implication was that I either was not there or else I was incompetent. I had asked him if he wanted an ambulance and he had said no. The outcome was that her ambulance was cancelled and after further tries with testing (he pushed me away), I called the ambulance myself and they arrived quickly about 10.30. His blood sugar was stubborn but after a glucose injection, and some snacks, he quickly came round and was chatting away while I gave him some toast and jam. The paramedics left at 1.30.
Yesterday, Tuesday, I urged John to ring No. 3 to tell her that he was ok and the good news he had just received about getting an appointment on Friday to have a pump fitted. I couldn't hear the conversation but heard my name mentioned several times. At the end of the conversation he looked stern and I asked him what had transpired. He asked me if I had called the ambulance and told me that No. 3 had said he should have had it much sooner. Both those daughters are also Type one and No. 3 is a nurse. I don't think either of them was aware that he was about to eat and was attempting to test. I am usually able to bring him round without the need for an ambulance and you have to try everything you can before getting one. We lost precious minutes with those calls. I suspect No. 4 was drunk when she rang (she has been having very recent marital problems), and she had had all day but left it until 9.30 to do so.
He is still looking grim and has accused me of controlling him. I suspect there is also some dementia also at play here. Am I to blame? I am not going to have anything to eat until this cloud is lifted off me. I have no-one to turn to.
I am being accused of something - I'm not sure exactly what but my partner has turned against me after one of his daughters said that I should have called an ambulance for him sooner than I did.
On Sunday evening he was ok and he put our meal on the table at about 9.0 pm, sat down and was immediately into a hypo. He couldn't eat much and couldn't check his blood sugar. He was very confused and I couldn't get the testing kit to work either. He kept falling asleep, and at some point I did manage to get him to take two glucose tablets (he hadn't given himself any insulin). Then his mobile rang and he answered it. I assumed it was a cold call as he kept saying "sorry?" as often cold callers are not clear, and he was clearly having some problems. He was on the phone for nearly ten minutes and then the call ended abruptly at 9.40. The landline rang and it was one of his daughters (No. 3) who said that No. 4 had been speaking to him and had rung for an ambulance! I was horrified because the implication was that I either was not there or else I was incompetent. I had asked him if he wanted an ambulance and he had said no. The outcome was that her ambulance was cancelled and after further tries with testing (he pushed me away), I called the ambulance myself and they arrived quickly about 10.30. His blood sugar was stubborn but after a glucose injection, and some snacks, he quickly came round and was chatting away while I gave him some toast and jam. The paramedics left at 1.30.
Yesterday, Tuesday, I urged John to ring No. 3 to tell her that he was ok and the good news he had just received about getting an appointment on Friday to have a pump fitted. I couldn't hear the conversation but heard my name mentioned several times. At the end of the conversation he looked stern and I asked him what had transpired. He asked me if I had called the ambulance and told me that No. 3 had said he should have had it much sooner. Both those daughters are also Type one and No. 3 is a nurse. I don't think either of them was aware that he was about to eat and was attempting to test. I am usually able to bring him round without the need for an ambulance and you have to try everything you can before getting one. We lost precious minutes with those calls. I suspect No. 4 was drunk when she rang (she has been having very recent marital problems), and she had had all day but left it until 9.30 to do so.
He is still looking grim and has accused me of controlling him. I suspect there is also some dementia also at play here. Am I to blame? I am not going to have anything to eat until this cloud is lifted off me. I have no-one to turn to.
