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When does the denial stop ??

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I was diagnosed in February. I had my appt with the diabetes nurse and came away with my results which weren't too bad. At first I was taking several blood glucose readings a day and was determined to lose weight and control things myself without medication. I seem to have 'lost the plot' - I just can't seem to get myself together and don't know where to turn. I haven't taken readings for a couple of weeks and I haven't lost a pound. I feel I am floundering and I don't know what to do. I understand the consequences of leaving my condition unmanaged and untreated but I just can't seem to shake myself into action :confused::confused:
 
I must have been a bit wierd because from day one I was very motivated to sort myself out!

That's not to say that quite often since I have found myself munching through packets of biscuits or other some-such 'forbidden fruit'! I think it's simply human to fall off the rails every now and then.

Anyway, where I am now (pretty fit and healthy and med-free) to where I was 4 years ago (overweight and unable to walk too far without often feeling like 'death'), it is pretty easy to keep motivated. I never want to go back there again!!

So, for you, it should be wanting to start feeling better as soon as possible!

Go for it! You won't regret feeling sooo much healthier!!

Good luck,

Andy 🙂
 
I would recommend setting yourself a little goal. At the moment it sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed with everything and don't know where to start because there seems to be so much you should be doing, and you're feeling guilty because of that which is making you feel worse about everything. How about picking one meal a day and testing before and two hours after, and recording what you ate and the readings? Don't worry about what they are, just do the tests and write them down. This way you will have made progress, and each little step forward will feel like an achievement. You'll be doing something, however small it may seem right now, and that should remove some of the guilt and paralysis you've been feeling and hopefully motivate you to do more.

You can do it! Let us know how things go and we will do our best to support you 🙂
 
Yep, totally agree with Northerner.

I knew it would take me a long time to get where I wanted to be (in some ways I'm still not there!). I never beat myself up when I didn't meet a target though. After all, they were only self-imposed targets and were often movable.

What I never did and what I will never do, is give up!

Andy 🙂
 
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I echo Northerner too. I was a very bad D when younger - dx aged 8 my mum handled most of it until I went to boarding school aged 12.....i completely ignored/denied it all (eating several chocolate bars a day, just giving a set dose of insulin, not bothering to eat healthily, monitor my levels etc) until i was about 21 and leaving uni.

it is all a lot to handle so try and take it bit y bit. don't look at the whole thing as it will all be too much. lots of advice and friendly folk on here to help with questions!
 
Hi, don't be too hard on yourself. You've had great advice already to just take things slow and steady. I'd also add that you shouldn't worry about what you've not done over the last couple of weeks (never worry about what you can't change!), focus on the future and achievable goals. 🙂
 
Hiya, like you I took it all very seriously at first, lost a load of weight so that my levels improved and then slowly lost the plot. I got away with it for longer than most... it was 8-9 years before I had to start medication. That was what scared me back into action.

In the last year, I've lost nearly 6 stone and my sugar levels are back in non-diabetic range. My choice of support group has been Slimming World (their Original plan is low-carb and D-friendly), but some people prefer Weightwatchers. I find that without the weekly weigh-in and group support I'm lost, and temptation sets in.

Good luck with getting this thing under control!
 
LeeLee said:
Hiya, like you I took it all very seriously at first, lost a load of weight so that my levels improved and then slowly lost the plot. I got away with it for longer than most... it was 8-9 years before I had to start medication. That was what scared me back into action.

In the last year, I've lost nearly 6 stone and my sugar levels are back in non-diabetic range. My choice of support group has been Slimming World (their Original plan is low-carb and D-friendly), but some people prefer Weightwatchers. I find that without the weekly weigh-in and group support I'm lost, and temptation sets in.

Good luck with getting this thing under control!
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Six stone in a year! that's muddy marvelous, well done! Keep up the good work!

(I'm jealous really):D I wish I had your self discipline.
 
Modingle said:
I just can't seem to get myself together and don't know where to turn. I haven't taken readings for a couple of weeks and I haven't lost a pound.
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It depends on your starting point. I, like Andy HB Anyway, "(overweight and unable to walk too far without often feeling like 'death')", also found it "pretty easy to keep motivated." Many people however are diagnosed a long time before they are so out of condition and they are bound to have all sorts of doubts.

The biggest change I made was in diet. I enjoy my food and was determined to continue enjoying it. I have spent a lot of time learning how to cook and where to source good ingredients from and using my meter to monitor the effects on my blood. I eat a lot, but I am careful and spend a lot of time preparing stuff.

My theory is that the usual foods lack so much in taste or texture, commerical producers add lots of fat and/or sugars to give the food a 'hit'. Often at home one goes for the crisps or the biscuits or even toast and marmelade or a bowl of cornflakes because one craves a certain crunch, bite or taste. You have to have that something that modern processed foods lack.

Preparing your own food restores the balance, but you can control what is in it. There's a good book out called Three Good Things on a Plate which is available at WH Smiths for only ?7.49. It has combinations of 3 foodstuffs which go well together and makes a good introduction on food combinations.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/series/hugh-s-three-good-things-on-a-plate

I have lost a lot of weight and my blood sugar levels are in the normal range but, you have to spend time learning, planning, preparing and cooking.
 
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