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Thoroughly fed up with it all

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AnnW

AnnW

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I have tried hard to sort out this silly illness, but I am getting so fed up with the comments I get all the time. . . 'it doesn't matter, a bit of fat won't hurt you' ' gosh don't you eat a lot of lettuce' ' you've just got to get on with it haven't you? ' ... Implied that I am not doing so.

I get the feeling it isn't in the slightest bit important, just get on with eating what I like ... Chips, cake, biscuits... It doesn't matter at all. That's ok by me.
I am just a complete nuisance.

I feel so loved and cherished.
 
Hi AnneW ..

Sorry to hear you feeling fed up.

Take no notice of what people say in there comments, wether you are type 1, type 2 or other, its hard work and we do give it all 100%. It is easy for people to pass comment on things they dont understand, until they live with it 247, they never will.

There is nothing wrong with having crisps, chips etc as a treat, as they say a little of whay you fancy.

You do and are working hard at it, and yes it is important and does matter.🙂

Heidi
xx🙂
 
AnnW said:
I have tried hard to sort out this silly illness, but I am getting so fed up with the comments I get all the time. . . 'it doesn't matter, a bit of fat won't hurt you' ' gosh don't you eat a lot of lettuce' ' you've just got to get on with it haven't you? ' ... Implied that I am not doing so.

I get the feeling it isn't in the slightest bit important, just get on with eating what I like ... Chips, cake, biscuits... It doesn't matter at all. That's ok by me.
I am just a complete nuisance.

I feel so loved and cherished.
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Dear Ann,

Is the problem with your immediate family? Mine is! Have you chosen your diet because you honestly believe that it will help with you battle against big D? Try taking them aside and saying to them that they should respect your decision, after all its not them that will have to suffer the long-term complications.

Warmest Regards Dodger
 
Hi Ann, sorry to hear that you are being plagued by ignorance from those around you :( If you had a broken leg would they suggest you go for a walk, just a little walk, or if you needed an astham inhaler you could just give it a miss, just this once wouldn't hurt. In our case, what we eat is how we manage much of our diabetes control and try to avoid the dreadful consequences of this dangerous disease. Diabetes is not trivial and for people to belittle or mock your efforts is despicable.

Treat them with the disdain they deserve should the topic arise again. If you can make it to Brighton you will meet lots of people who understand and that can be such an empowering and comforting experience - we'd love to see you there 🙂
 
I slightly different because I do eat normal carbs, but I don't eat large amounts of carbs and my meals are fundimently small..

So I get the 'that won't keep a sparrow alive' or 'a sparrow would think it's on a starvation diet' etc...

And why do I have to have an afters/pudding to fit in:confused:

In most cases I can ignore comments, used to them and let them float over my head...

But for some strange reasons, my hubby has started to monitor what I am eating, says I don't eat enough... Which I must admit is quite bugging being asked what I have or haven't ate when he comes in from work😡
 
AnnW said:
I have tried hard to sort out this silly illness, but I am getting so fed up with the comments I get all the time. . . 'it doesn't matter, a bit of fat won't hurt you' ' gosh don't you eat a lot of lettuce' ' you've just got to get on with it haven't you? ' ... Implied that I am not doing so.

I get the feeling it isn't in the slightest bit important, just get on with eating what I like ... Chips, cake, biscuits... It doesn't matter at all. That's ok by me.
I am just a complete nuisance.

I feel so loved and cherished.
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Ann so sorry you are feeling bad, ignore stupid comments, for that is what they are. Their the ones with the problem. Take care Sheena
 
I dare say the majority of people including myself (before the Big D raised its head) do not have a clue about what Diabetes entails. So the next time someone makes a comment that aggravates you, let them know how misinformed they actually are.

Keep the chin up!!
 
Thanks everyone , it's just so depressing - not only having D but having to cope with being basically called a fuss pot :(

Not my husband, he doesn't quite understand , but tries - it's others .
I do sometimes have crisps and a few chips but at a measured 'treat ' time not all the time !!

I'll no doubt feel better soon .. I hope it 's a passing phase !
 
I think we all go through these ups and downs Ann, where we are perhaps a bit more sensitive to what others say or imply. Do what is right for you and remind yourself that they would all be coming straight to you for advice should it ever happen to them (not that I would wish it on anyone, of course)
 
i too know the feeling, being questioned for what i eat, mainly by my sisters, bless them they mean well, the other day 1 of my sisters said "wow thats a lot of salad" are you allowed that"😱
i just laughed, or i get can you eat that", i just reply i am not stupid i know more about diabetes then you, and its me thats lost 22lbs, it usually works!!
hubby is very good he knows me by now, never question what i eat, gggrrrrrrr lol
 
I think it is because people don't understand. My last manager used to nag me if I treted myself to a bar of chocolate, then one day I got angry with her in front of the whole office (fair game since she nagged me in front of the whole office) and she didn't do it again...
 
Hi Ann

Hope it does pass. I guess from the 'outside' is must look bewildering because it's never as simple as 'never' and 'always' with D. Hard and fast rules like that are much easier for others to get their heads around. The more complex, "I choose not to have that today, tomorrow and the next day because that's better for my health long term but I might have a little of it a week next Tuesday (subject to a spot BG test beforehand) as a little treat to keep me sane" is never really going to be easy for others to understand.

What grates, I suppose, is that people who don't understand, or worse still dont understand but think they do feel compelled to tell you what to do.

I suppose you could be brutal and ask them if they would still fancy eating it if medical evidence showed it could very well make them blind/heart disease/lead to kidney failure/mean living with the pain of neuropathy etc etc etc. I wonder, for instance if they eat cereal/spreads/yoghurts (or whatever) because they've heard it's 'good for the heart'.

Chin up chuck. You're doing well. Keep at it.
 
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Hi Ann Sorry that you're having a difficult time with this. I hope that you can start to get people to understand soon or are able to stop letting the comments upset you - but I know that is easier said than done. The people I work with are really lovely but when I developed my eye problems I knew that they were tending to forget that I can't read things properly unless I've got magnification so I just kept reminding them and now life is much easier.
 
Thanks all of you, you are great !! I just start thinking I'm a misery and making life awkward for everyone and I don't like that. I am asthmatic and a veggie too so they already think I'm 'special ' 🙂

Tonight, because of a family event that I have opted out of for all sorts of stressful reasons , I am treating myself to a meal and ..... My apple crumble... It is SO nice and I've not had it for a fortnight so.... What the heck ?!

Thanks again 🙂
 
Hi Ann.

It sounds like you're in a very toxic environment still. But don't blame diabetes. It's the people sadly, who are making you unhappy.

Wish I could tell you a simple solution, but can only sympathise.

Rob
 
You are right. I just wish above all else that my adult step daughter would leave the house and my other adult step children would stop bullying my husband and me , life may just improve...
 
It was great Northerner 🙂 , and, because of trouble on 2 buses getting back including a young man swearing and thumping on the driver's cab , I walked about 2 miles back and feel very good for it !!!!
 
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It was great Northerner 🙂 , and, because of trouble on 2 buses getting back including a young man swearing and thumping on the driver's cab , I walked about 2 miles back and feel very good for it !!!!
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It's an ill wind...! 🙂
 
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