The most awkward bit.

[Caroline]

It is a tricky one Andrew. I work full time so hubby cooks most of the meals during the week.

We have made compromises, simply because I do the all shopping and he has to cook what I buy, but if he did the shopping it would be normal pasta and normal rice.

I have find a diet plate helps as a visual aid for him as it shows what a normal plate of food should look like, although at around ?15 they are an expensive way to make a point.

Is it possible that you cook some meals the way you would like them? Then the pressure is off her a bit. It is difficult if it appears you have to cook a couple of different meals, and equally difficult to be the only one who has to eat differently.

 

[Andrew]

Shopping- cooking -

Hi

I like your comment on the shopping - cooking

I am working 3 days a week so I tend do much of the shopping (apart for the Veg box) and as my work takes me near shops in the day. (I am driving to london but have free time from 9.30 ish to 4.30 ish ) I have found a big tesco where the reduced bin is impressive, Osterley park near heathrow - I get there 3 days a week-- as for the cooking I guess we share it,
Sam does chinese style - I do Indian and cooked breakfast when it happens (with out the cream styles now - most seem to involve tomatoes) the one I posted is typical - we both do Italian (given up on cabonara ) and english meals -- but 2 lots of rice - pasta --
Breakfast when I run out of weetabix I will have to change - I have used the ALSI breakfast drinks as a treat a few days.

It is a tricky one Andrew. I work full time so hubby cooks most of the meals during the week.

We have made compromises, simply because I do the all shopping and he has to cook what I buy, but if he did the shopping it would be normal pasta and normal rice.

I have find a diet plate helps as a visual aid for him as it shows what a normal plate of food should look like, although at around ?15 they are an expensive way to make a point.

Is it possible that you cook some meals the way you would like them? Then the pressure is off her a bit. It is difficult if it appears you have to cook a couple of different meals, and equally difficult to be the only one who has to eat differently.

 

[Caroline]

I should have added hubby is retired and because he has osteoarthritis finds shopping difficult, so I shop on line.

It is difficult to accomodate everyones needs, especially as my grown up son often pulls a late shift where he works and doesn't have dinner until much later in the evening.

 

[Natalie123]

Hi Andrew, its rather hard isn't it, I guess I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have been diabetic for longer so he hasn't had to change much, he also lived off an appalling diet before I started cooking and now he has become really keen to cook better. I guess showing your wife that healthy food can taste good would be a good way to start. I have tried to improve my diet recently and so my boyfriend and I often cook one dish together that we both eat and then he cooks something else to go with it, sometimes he eats the same as me and other times we cook completely different food - generally because he hates salad and I will want to eat a large salad for dinner sometimes!

 

[KateXXXXXX]

It's a tricky one...

Even before he was diagnosed, the GMNT would rather have had nice nutty brown rice than boring white stuff, but both my menfolk prefer white bread to any form of brown... We are at one on wholemeal pasta: it is anathama to us! We'd rather eat the cardboard box.

Meat is a hard one: thye are both unreconstructed carnivores, and I have to watch the meat intake...

But they know the Weight Watchers style of diet suits their Type 1 and my peculiar inability to process fats properly, so we have. over the years, come to a working compromise, and will occasionally cook and eat separate meals or separate components of meals (I'll have low fat sausages or a chicken breast, or a low fat venison burger rather than the high octane versions), and most of what I cook they are very happy with.

 

[Tumble]

I have to cook seperate meals for me and my partner as I have cut down a lot on my carb intake and don't expect him to do the same. I think it's really unfair that your wife has put in that position. When I had poor control my partner was quite hard on me and made me see that the damage that I was doing (long term) would probably mean that he would end up being my carer in the future. I don't want him to be my carer I want him to be my partner and it was enough to give me a kick up the bum!