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Hi everyone, after four weeks of type 2 diagnosis and ten pounds lighter, loads of books and reading am totally fed up now. It just seems that there will be no end to any of this and unfortunately nothing to look forward to. I don't know how people live like this.

Sorry feeling sorry for myself. Is there a glimmer of hope or do we just wait until it all packs up.
 
Hi Senco. I've moved your thread to the general forum so it will be seen by more members.🙂

I'm sorry you seem to be struggling with the diagnosis. As you'll have seen, there are many people on here from all backgrounds who have probably felt as you do at some point but rest assured, it does become routine and you'll find that life can be a whole lot better in the future.🙂

Which aspects are particularly troubling you ?

Rob
 
senco1 said:
Hi everyone, after four weeks of type 2 diagnosis and ten pounds lighter, loads of books and reading am totally fed up now. It just seems that there will be no end to any of this and unfortunately nothing to look forward to. I don't know how people live like this.

Sorry feeling sorry for myself. Is there a glimmer of hope or do we just wait until it all packs up.
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Hi,

I think most people get upset about their diagnosis and it is quite normal. There does not seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel. Until you are prepared to accept it then you will stagnate. It is not all doom and gloom though as you will become healthier than you have ever been and you will be able to do all you did before and more. The only thing that is going to change is that you will eat healthily and exercise more.
I am posting a link to an article that should help you.

http://www.diabetesexplained.com/diabetic-emotional-issues.html

Be sure to read the next page as well, The 5 Stages of Grief, because most of us to grieve for the life we had before.
 
Senco

It's 100% perfectly normal to feel as you do! Being diagnosed with any chronic condition whatever it is, is actually traumatic. It compares to a bereavement in its effects on the system. We all go through it to some extent, either early on or later.

You have to give yourself time to get over it, in this case you can't ignore it whilst doing this though. And ignoring it does you more harm than good anyway, because it will just come back later and hit you even harder.

It really helps to have a support group though, and that's where forums like this can help - come on here and have a rant instead of trying to bottle it up and keep it down. You don't have to explain because we already know.

{{{Hugs}}}

The only glimmer of hope? - these feelings do actually subside, then mostly go away and you learn to live with it.

For what reason have you 'nothing to look forward to' ? What is it exactly that you 'have been forced' to do or 'forced to' give up now that you don't want to do?

I still look forward to the same things I always did, eg a couple of new books I want to read; the Antiques Roadshow on the telly, Xmas and seeing our great-grandson opening his pressies, next year's holidays, seeing my friends and my DSN, enjoying going out in my husband's very recently acquired bright red MGF with the hood down. Next year's Moto GP series. How will our grandson and g/daughter fare in their GCSE's. Diabetes can't change any of that, can it?

What things do you like to do?
 
If you believe all what you read we doomed indeed.. And do like to constantly remind of this pending fact..

And yes my thoughts about my future was pretty similar to your 23 years ago when I was diagnosed with T1 my future was somewhat doomed and not a lot I could do about it.

Glad to report 23 years on I'm well without any complications, and diabetes has tagged along admittedly sometimes it done so screaming and kicking it's feet.. But I'm here without any complications that I was lead to fear all those years ago..

Try not to focus on the future with diabetes too much, learn what you can do today to tame those blood glucose levels, the more you learn and understand how you can manage your diabetes daily the brighter the future all becomes..

The old saying you can't change your past, but you can change your future by what you do today..
 
Sorry to hear that you are feeling so down.

I suspect that part of the reason is that you have been reading about all the complications that can develop. But note its can develop and not will develop. If you control your blood sugars then the chance of any complications reduces considerably.

We all feel fed up with Diabetes from time to time and as was said earlier being diagnosed with it can be a bit like a bereavement. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to adjust and if you still feel like you are struggling see if you can get counselling -some diabetic clinics will point you in the right direction but if not ask your GP.

{{{{Hugs}}}}
 
Hi senco1,

I'm fortunate that i've never really been down in the dumps about my diabetes although there have been times where I wish things were different.

I was diagnosed at 16 which was 4 weeks after starting at college. This for me is one of the worst times of a life to get such a diagnosis. But i had a lot of support which helped me through.

I do remember though that back in 1996 doctors said in 10 years they'll have a much better way to administer insulin than injections and in 20 years hopefully a cure! Stupid thing to say to a 16 year old. Anyway, in 2006 i was 26 and it had been 10 years. Yes there are insulin pumps around, but nothing has changed for me, in fact I do more injections than i did when i was diagnosed.

Another 5 years have passed, i'm now 31, still doing the same thing. According to those doctors in 1996 we should have a cure in 5 years, like I said stupid thing to say to a 16 year old.

I hope that you don't get too down in the dumps about it. It has only been 4 weeks for you.
 
Welcome Senco1 - and congratulations on your weight loss. Always bst to concentrate on what you have already achieved. As others have said, with good control, there's no reason to assume that future problems are inevitable. In fact, many people diagnosed with type 2 diabetes find that their improved diet, excercise and weight means they have more energy and enthusiasm for life.

The key is to regard life as a marathon, not a sprint - so alow yourself a treat once in a while 🙂
 
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Welcome Senco1 - and congratulations on your weight loss. Always bst to concentrate on what you have already achieved. As others have said, with good control, there's no reason to assume that future problems are inevitable. In fact, many people diagnosed with type 2 diabetes find that their improved diet, excercise and weight means they have more energy and enthusiasm for life.

The key is to regard life as a marathon, not a sprint - so alow yourself a treat once in a while 🙂
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I fully agree!

Richard
 
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