Hi, I'm a teenager with diabetes myself and I have to say I've had phases of going through similar emotions to your son. But equally I've had phases where it hasn't bothered me at all that I have diabetes and I have just taken it all in my stride so to speak. I realise I'm not a Mum but I hope that my perspective on the situation can maybe help you a little bit. I, personally sometimes find it really hard - emotionally - to have diabetes. This usually comes about during, or just after periods of illness or stress or other times when my diabetes has proven hard to control despite me really trying my best. It feels to me at these times that I am weighing everything I eat and carb counting for nothing because it's not working anyway. This becomes increasingly frustrating to me and makes me feel down about the whole experience. The past few months have been particularly difficult for me as I have had a series of small illnesses (tummy bugs, colds, etc.) which seem to of had a major effect on my diabetes. I went from having between four and seven hypos a night, to having a bad allergic reaction to one of my insulins (getting a very nasty rash that covered all of my left leg), to being hospitalised and then having high blood sugars which do not seem to come down, regardless of me taking extra insulin. At points of this experience I have felt really down because I have felt quite physically ill. I am getting a little bit more regular control at the moment but have a major problem with ketones - which is what brought me to this site. But I find that as I am managing to regain more of a normal life, and find myself more able to join in with my peers again, the bad feelings I once felt associated with my diabetes are fading. I know this probably didn't really help that much but I just thought that since I have experienced something similar I would stick my opinion in , just in case it did help a mini bit. I think that the most important factor for me in reducing and preventing bad feelings about my diabetes is doing things that I enjoy. For me this is usually cosmetics or shopping. That may sound really random and I realise that your son most likely does not use cosmetics lol. But my point is that regardless of how my blood sugars had been, or will be or are at the moment I can still "put my face on" and play with my makeup, and well it just makes me feel a whole load better. I'm not saying this would work for everyone, I'm just saying that it helped me, because it gives me something nice to focus on and makes me happy. 🙂 I think what I'm really trying to say is that, sometimes for teenagers not wanting to be diabetic is inevitable but doing other things that are positive and enjoyable will take the focus if you do them often enough and instead of focusing on the bad emotions connected to not wanting to be diabetic anymore there is more good feelings and general happiness associated with generally enjoying life.
Hope your son starts to feel a bit more positive soon
Best wishes xx
