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am64

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'I have found it really interesting reading everyones comments and at first tried to comment on some but then suddenly realised it might be really irritating for you all to have someone like me commenting when I have absolutely no idea what it feels like - just what it feels like being a parent'


following this comment in another thread i really wanted to say that one of the things about this forum is that " we are all in this together" so please feel comfortable with posting on comments on threads despite not necessarily being in their 'category'😉
we all have experiences/skills/abilities that can provide 'support' and the wonderful thing about this place is its here for Support x
 
I felt like that being a newbie, but everyone was so friendly I thought I would just join in. So thanks for making me feel comfortable..🙂

Now I'm like a rash:D
 
If I need help it's just nice to know that others care even if they don't know the answer.
 
This forum is brilliant ? just wish I?d found it sooner!

Reading all the posts from parents has really got me thinking about my parents and my diabetes. I was nearly 12 when I was diagnosed and quickly took responsibility for my own diabetes. I?ve always pushed my mum away regarding my diabetes, even now in my late 20s! I can talk to anyone about my diabetes, but not my mum, even though I get on really well with her. If she asks me how the pump?s going or what my latest HbA1c is, the answer will be ?ok? or ?better, thanks? with a quick change of subject. I know she always wants to ask, but is scared of the snappy answer. It?s only reading parents posts on here that has made me realise I do this and how hard it must have been on her when I was diagnosed, as a teenager and even now. The ironic thing is now I would love her to understand the daily struggles and look over my results. I?ve never had good control, and although I?ve never completely gone off the rails, I really regret not allowing help from my mum when I was a teenager. I really pushed her away, I suppose because I always felt like a diabetic failure (still do!). Even the other day, I felt uncomfortable about telling her I was going to meet some of you guys in Manchester in a couple of weekends ? I hadn?t told her I had found an amazing forum which is the best thing since sliced bread. Don?t know why, but anyway, thanks to the parents for making me think from my parents? perspective and I think I need to have a good heart to heart with my mum 🙂
 
Nicely put Am, i sometimes find when im replying to a parent or a type 1 "what use am i to them" but sometimes just a freidnly reply or a nice hello does enough.
 
Julia said:
This forum is brilliant ? just wish I?d found it sooner!

thanks to the parents for making me think from my parents? perspective and I think I need to have a good heart to heart with my mum 🙂
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I think that sounds a lovely idea. I am sure your Mum will be really touched.
 
That's one of the best things about this forum. It doesn't matter if you are Type 1, 2, 1.5, a carer, a parent or whatever. Everyone joins in and everyone is welcome. I know I was glad to be welcomed by all when I first joined and I value everyones point of view.

I sometimes feel a bit out of my depth reading threads about pumping, bolus testing and ratios etc because I don't have experience of these things myself. I do read with interest though and comment where I can. I don't know if I will ever need these skills myself. In a similar way I don't always know what to answer to comments from parents with children with diabetes because my children don't have it. I can sympathise and support though, and pass on my love and admiration.

We are all together in the fight against the dreaded D whatever our connection with it and no one should feel that their comments aren't valid or welcome. As I said in a recent thread, we may not have all the answers but we do understand the questions. I hope the person who posted the comment quoted at the top of this thread has read this and now knows we certainly do not feel irritated by anyone's posts. XXXXX
 
This forum is brilliant, never feel afraid to make cooments. SOmetimes just having someone say I hope you fell better, good luck or well done makes a difference.

Everyone here has diabetes or is related to someone who has it, and it is nice to get different ideas. We are all different so different things work for different people, so please keep making suggestions and sharing ideas, it helps all of us.
 
Friendly replies show that people care and that can make the world of difference when you are facing challenges
 
Julia said:
This forum is brilliant ? just wish I?d found it sooner!

Reading all the posts from parents has really got me thinking about my parents and my diabetes. ....................................I think I need to have a good heart to heart with my mum 🙂
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Thats one of the best things I have read on this forum. 🙂
 
I hope you have that heart to heart with your mum as soon as poss Julia, as a parent, I know its devastating to be pushed out - not that I'm attaching any blame on you I hasten to add xx
 
slipper said:
Thats one of the best things I have read on this forum. 🙂
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me too !! x

today i used some info i gleaned from this place and asked the eye testing folk if i needed to have the drops for my latest photo session 😉 no was the answer 🙂 so i was in and out in 10mins ! and didnt need the shades 😎
 
I have always been a loner; never had a best girl-friend (just the way I've always been ; ) those I hold dearest to my heart are my husband; son and immediate family but since joining this forum I like to think I have gained a second family; a mass of friends and joining is one the best things to happen to me....

The thing I like is knowing there are those on the other end of a keyboard who understand; empathise; want to share; offer support and ask for very little in return -

I'd like to share my favourite saying with my new friends....

"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand" 🙂
 
Newtothis said:
I have always been a loner; never had a best girl-friend (just the way I've always been ; ) those I hold dearest to my heart are my husband; son and immediate family but since joining this forum I like to think I have gained a second family; a mass of friends and joining is one the best things to happen to me....

The thing I like is knowing there are those on the other end of a keyboard who understand; empathise; want to share; offer support and ask for very little in return -

I'd like to share my favourite saying with my new friends....

"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand" 🙂
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I agree - it's great to be able to talk 😉 to folk who understand.
 
Newtothis said:
I have always been a loner; never had a best girl-friend (just the way I've always been ; ) those I hold dearest to my heart are my husband; son and immediate family but since joining this forum I like to think I have gained a second family; a mass of friends and joining is one the best things to happen to me....

The thing I like is knowing there are those on the other end of a keyboard who understand; empathise; want to share; offer support and ask for very little in return -

I'd like to share my favourite saying with my new friends....

"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand" 🙂
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I understand everything you have written and concur with you as well. Beautifully written 🙂 Sheenax
 
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