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Struggling

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cazscot

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As the title suggestes I am really struggling at the moment... I am just not coping very well. There has been nothing specific that has happened just a build up of stuff (infertility, migraines, sore shoulder, uni work etc) but nothing that I souldnt be able to cope with! I don't know why I feel like this nobody is dying I have a husband and family who love me so why do I feel so down? I went to doc on Friday (about something unrelated) and broke down in front of him. He was great and gave me leaflets and the phone number of our local councilling service (will phone on Tuesday, Monday is a bh up here). I don't know what else to do. I have been in tears for most of the weekend. I have piles of uni work that I sould be doing but I just can't motivate myself but more to the point I just don't care about it and that's not like me...

Sorry for the moan and I apologise for Birmingham I souls have madeira of an effort to speak to everyone.
 
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Hi Carol you were great at Birmingham so certainly shouldn't be apologising. I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling down - life has a habit of throwing lots of things at us that eventually get too much and we feel down for a while. Hopefully it will only be temporary and you will soon nr back to feeling strong and positive. With regard to your uni work do you have a personal tutor that you can speak to for advice about extensions etc? Lots of hugs for you x
 
Just one suggestion - make sure you speak to someone at uni, too, after BH, as there should be practical help such as work extensions, if you're struggling for health reasons, whether mental or physical.
 
cazscot said:
As the title suggestes I am really struggling at the moment... I am just not coping very well. There has been nothing specific that has happened just a build up of stuff (infertility, migraines, sore shoulder, uni work etc) but nothing that I souldnt be able to cope with! I don't know why I feel like this nobody is dying I have a husband and family who love me so why do I feel so down? I went to doc on Friday (about something unrelated) and broke down in front of him. He was great and gave me leaflets and the phone number of our local councilling service (will phone on Tuesday, Monday is a bh up here). I don't know what else to do. I have been in tears for most of the weekend. I have piles of uni work that I sould be doing but I just can't motivate myself but more to the point I just don't care about it and that's not like me...

Sorry for the moan and I apologise for Birmingham I souls have madeira of an effort to speak to everyone.
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Sometimes things catch up with us when least expected and then we can't explain why we feel the way we do; it might just because because you have so much on you're plate and you don't know which way to turn. The first thing to do is to calm down; have a good cry; then scream, shout; throw something; get it out you're system and then re-evaluate, whipe yourself down and start again. I'm a newbie on here and I've read the posts you've put on and you're doing brilliantly; in fact you're one of my inspirations. You're not moaning you're expressing how you're feeling and we are all entitled to that. Throwing you a big hug; {{{{{}}}}} Amanda x
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Hi Carol and I'm sorry to hear you sounding so down, but please don't be hard on yourself. Sometimes we all get a bit like that and there's not always an obvious reason. Don't feel that you need to apologise either. I hope you do get the help you need, but mainly you need to be kind to yourself and give yourself some time. I agree with Amanda too, you are an inspiration to many people on here. You have worked so hard and done so well, and you will continue to do so once you're over this blip. Take care. XXXXX
 
We all feel down from time to time, so there is no need to appologise. Sometimes it feels as thoe we have the weight of the world on our shoulders then it passes. I hope telling us has helped and I hope you feel better soon.
 
Ah Carol - big hugs for you.
I am so sorry you are feeling low - it does sound like too much on your plate sweetie.Talking to the counsellor and to Uni and hubby should help you prioritise things and make more time than you already have.
Have you been testing your bs? Are they higher than normal by any chance which could be making you feel tired etc?

Please pm me if you want to have a good chat. I am there for you as always🙂
 
Sorry to hear you are feeling down at the mo Carol.

Hope it passes quickly and you feel yourself and on top of everything very soon.

M
 
Hi Carole,

Periodically, we all get down and there's no need to apologise. Sometimes, problems just have a habit of stockpiling up on top of us and we need some sort of release.

When we're feeling out of sorts, it can get depressing and it's good to speak to someone even if they can only listen, a problem shared and all that.....

You have done fantastically and you should be proud of your achievements.

Donna 🙂
 
Sorry to hear this Carol, hope you're feeling back to your usual self really soon 🙂

Sending hugs xx
 
Sorry you're feeling a bit down. I hope you will feel better soon.

I chatted to you in Birmingham and I didn't notice you were not your happy self. It was lovely seeing you again 🙂
 
Sorry you are feeling "off" and hope things resolve themselves soon even though you don't know what is really bugging you.

You are wise listing all the things that are great in your life but also recognising there is still something nagging at you. Don't know if this helps, but one doc once described depression/feeling down as frustrated ambition. Talking to a counsellor could help you voice whatever is lurking and niggling.

there again, could be something medical like thyroid or diabetes etc.

I get so much from your posts and hope you are soon back to being the wonderful person who is so helpful on here.

Best wishes, Margaret
 
Hi Carol, so sorry you are feeling so horrible. I know what you mean because I've had times like that when I think "well why am I so down?" Life is difficult though and the build up of things that you mention is plenty to cope with! We take so much in our stride that we become hard on ourselves when we feel like it's all too much - instead we should be kind to ourselves and accept that we are not superhuman! Did you ring the counselling helpline? I do hope that you have found some help to alleviate your low spirits or at least to be a step in the right direction. Take good care of yourself and don't worry about Birmingham, it's hard to get to talk to everyone at such events and nobody would hold it against you. I felt the same actually - that I could have made more effort! What are we like eh? Don't be so hard on yourself.xx
 
oh yes, Birmingham and Flutterby - I only managed to say hello and goodby to Flutterby😱
 
Thanks everyone, I have booked myself on the next course of Stress/Relaxation classes recommended by the GP. I haven't managed to get an appointment with any uni councillors yet as the phones were constantly engaged but I have all day tomorrow to try and go and see them.
 
Carol, sorry things are hard for you at the moment. Glad you have got the relaxation classes booked. Hope things start to look brighter again for you soon.
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