Something's been on my mind

[Darren w]

I think for this one I will ask everyone but I think only the men will understand what I'm feeling ,
Here goes .
For a few years I've been very lethargic , not wanting to wake in the morning or do anything till the afternoon , I know why I was feeling like that because on the onset of what we have , but that isn't what I want to talk about ,
I've said in previous posts that I am very thin and want to put weight on ,
This is my story .....
In August 2010 my girlfriend and her son lived with me in my two bedroomed house I have three of my own my youngest stays weekends and holidays . I had a good job that bought in a hell of a lot of money . So spoke to my eldest son one day and asked him what he would like as a gift from me .
Being a typical teenage lad he said a gym , somewhere we can work out together . 5 days later I had my brothers remodelling my house and converting the loft into a second story 25'6"x 18'6" I desided to go one better and turn it into a cinema aswell . My son new nothing of what I was doing as he was staying with his mother . I was very happy with what I was doing but at the time was getting more and more ill , to the point I could hardly stand threw agony . ( I had pancreatitis ) the more ill I got the more my gf turned her back on me . Eventually she couldn't stand seeing me in so much pain and left .
My son saw what I built for me and him and loved it , he even moved in with me again for a while bragging to his pals what he had .
After a while doctors found out what I had but the hypos scared my kids so much my son moved out and went bk to his mom ... Loosing my lad was bad enought , then one day social services got involved and said I was a danger to my youngest because of my hypos .....
Thankfully for me my ex wife know the kind of man I am and ignored what the social services said knowing I would never put my child in danger and I arranged to have a emergency service intercom put in my house with a pendent round my neck all the time , in the last year I would say my hypos have become less and less frequent but there is always that worry I will go into one when my youngest is here with me , she is 13 by the way . I'd like to know if there is a way I could get my son to see that it no longer has to be scary or worrying to stay with me . I think his mates take the Micky out of me and that's why he doesn't come anymore and am dreading my little one will do the same soon . If any men have been threw that please tell me how you coped with it so I can look at it from a different angle . Thanks daz.

 

[robofski]

Daz, I've not been through this in anyway shape or form, but I do have two young children (9 and 12 when I started on insulin). Hypos were a big worry for me but thankfully I rarely get them and have never had a bad one (touch wood). What I did though was to get my kids very involved in my diabetes so they understood what it was all about. I've been on insulin almost a year now and the girls are still very much a part of my treatment! They understand how to count carbs, how to prepare my injection and how to test my blood and feel very comfortable around it all.

I don't know that there are any lessons for you in my tale but I think education is the key. You obviously want to be the best dad you can be for your kids and it must be very upsetting that they feel uncomfortable around you because of your condition. Dan

 

[megga]

First i would get them involved, let them understand whats going on. Make some light hearted jokes about your condition, if his mate have a laugh, join in, its not much fun for them after a bit if you have a laugh at it as well. My son takes the pee out of me all the time. Let his mates come round, and them see your normal. As for hypo's, its not a god thing to have too many, so this you need to get under control. Start with the basics, carb counting, bother about nothing else untill you have that part under control, then start to look at the GI of foods, do it one step at a time. Then look at drink, how it affects you, then fats. Sounds a lots, but doing it a bit at a time you will get there. Sounds like your ex wife is on your side, so a big plus, and good luck of the GF pieeing of, you dont need people like that in your life.

I know it feels like your on your own, but most on this form, including me do understand and feel for you, were there for you and happy to try and help.