Sharing life with a non diabetic

[sakinaga]

I have been in remission but am advised that my nemesis may have returned. For me the hardest thing is living with someone who can eat all the things that are forbidden to me. Will power helped me last time but I am quite frankly resentful and yet guilty for feeling this way.

 

[sakinaga]

I have been in remission but am advised my nemesis may have returned. My greatest problem is being resentful that my Hero can eat all the things that are forbidden to me...and does.

 

[grovesy]

Well I usally try to eat what the family does but minus the bits that are not suitable for me.

 

[trophywench]

Well don't buy it then! - we can all probably do with cutting down on how much 'rubbish' we eat!

 

[sakinaga]

he does the shopping for safety's sake in the current crisis. What's more I feel guilty if he has to suffer my dietry restrictions. I have always been a veggie but cooked meat meals for him and our sons when they were at home.

 

[Maca44]

I have been in remission but am advised my nemesis may have returned. My greatest problem is being resentful that my Hero can eat all the things that are forbidden to me...and does.

Just one of those things I'm afraid, my family eat many things I can't and used to enjoy but it really doesn't bother me at all simply because I know I would feel c**p again so I just do a normal family shop and just keep my tasty food in my own part of the fridge.

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

Sorry to hear you are finding this difficult @sakinaga

What things are you really missing? And have you thought of other options you could enjoy which are more BG friendly?

Do you have a meter to see what happens when you have a small amount of the foods you are seeing as ‘forbidden’?

I think partly this can be a mindset thing. Ultimately you have the choice whether to eat some of those things or not. My resentment built when it felt like I was being told what I shoild and shouldn’t eat, or made not to eat them by some other force.

It felt quite different when I just decided to not eat them for me.

 

[sakinaga]

Thank you for your very understanding post. I do have a meter but have only used it before eating in the morning. In remission I only did occassional checks. You are quite right it is a mind set thing and I did it once before and I'm sure I can do it again. Forbidden to me is coffee and cake, tea and biscuits!!! In lockdown my source of solace!! Otherwise I observe a low carb veggie diet on the whole with the occassional slip into a slice of Pizza or a slice of wholemeal bread! makes me sound like a paragon of virtue! Writing this has made me feel better about the issue already Thank you.

 

[AndBreathe]

Thank you for your very understanding post. I do have a meter but have only used it before eating in the morning. In remission I only did occassional checks. You are quite right it is a mind set thing and I did it once before and I'm sure I can do it again. Forbidden to me is coffee and cake, tea and biscuits!!! In lockdown my source of solace!! Otherwise I observe a low carb veggie diet on the whole with the occassional slip into a slice of Pizza or a slice of wholemeal bread! makes me sound like a paragon of virtue! Writing this has made me feel better about the issue already Thank you.

Hi there - I live with someone not T2, with amazing A1c numbers, whilst eating a very varied and mixed diet, including any carbs he wants.

We eat together, always (when we're both at home), and it is rare indeed that we will eat different things. (One exception being is he has fish and chips, I might snaffle a few of his chops, but need to swerve pretty much anything else in the chippie, due to being gluten-free). On those evenings, I'll usually airfry a piece of chicken, or something like it.

Early on, I informed myself firmly that my sugar dysregulation is my dysregulation, and therefor it's my issue to sort and maintain, not his. When we eat, we have the same things, but I just avoid the big carbs he chooses to have.

I've always been lucky not being a biscuits/cake person, and my OH isn't really big on those either. In fact, he's still working his way through a 6-pack of mince pies from Christmas. (All that sugar, I swear they could keep forever!).

I'm afraid a lot of the longer game is a mind game, with only one player - yourself. I can't really tell you how to "get in the zone", as we all have different drivers and goals, but I do hope you can get there. Once the mind is settled, I find it much easier to cope with whatever life throws my way.

 

[sakinaga]

Thank you for your reply. I will set my mind!!