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Remission!!!

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Tomra

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Relationship to Diabetes
In remission from Type 2
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I first posted my story on the thread:

https://forum.diabetes.org.uk/boards/threads/1st-post-diagnosis-test-today.117085/

Anyway, I had another HbA1C test yesterday, and it came back at 40. The last one was 44 three months ago, and I have never taken any drugs, so I guess that means I am officially in remission! The gloss is somewhat tarnished because my wife thinks I have become overly obsessed with my health and wants a divorce. Have doubled down on my exercise routine, and now walking ca. 20,000 steps per day, which is also helping me keep positive thoughts.

Many thanks to all those who have shared their inspirational stories, it really helps make things seem more possible.
 
Many congrats on your normal HbA1c result and remission achievement. I wasn't sure if that comment about divorce was a flippant one but from the tone of your post I am thinking perhaps not. I would guess that there may be other factors in her decision and perhaps your focus on your health is the last straw, but it is important to find a balance with managing diabetes and life in general. If the restrictions/limitations you are imposing are impacting her lifestyle too then perhaps you need to find some sort of compromise. I am not saying that you should compromise your health but there will be ways to balance things better. It may take some extra effort on your part to figure out how to do that but if you value the relationship then it is worth it. If not, then I wish you health and happiness moving on with your life. Exercise certainly helps with mental health as well as physical health so well done pushing on with that.
 
Congratulations on your terrific results @Tomra

Sorry to hear it has put some pressure on your relationship :(

Hopefully you can work through that and find a middle ground.
 
Thanks Barbara, It wasn't a flippant comment about divorce, it really is happening. You are right that life must be a balance. In reality, I had long been unhappy in the marriage, and this was a big factor in me finding refuge in food and losing my general health. So trying to save the marriage would be the wrong thing for me, and I am just looking to find ways of having a long healthy, happy retirement.
 
It is good that you can look at it in that perspective and that you have a focus in keeping yourself healthy to see you through the divorce, which I know from experience is a horrible process. Hopefully life has better things in store for you just around the corner and you will be able to look back on this whole situation as a turning point for the better for both of you. There is little point in either of you muddling along in an unhappy relationship and it sounds like your diabetes has in some ways perhaps just brought that into focus.

Very best of luck with your new healthier life.
 
Well done @Tomra and welcome to the club. Time to update Relationship to Diabetes in your profile?
 
Thanks Martin! It gave me great satisfaction to do that! I feel very fortunate to have caught it soon enough that I was able to turn things round, but nobody should give up hope. It's amazing what can be done when we set our minds to it.
 
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Thanks Martin! It gave me great satisfaction to do that! I feel very fortunate to have caught it soon enough that I was able to turn things round, but nobody should give up hope. It's amazing what can be done when we set our minds to it.
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I caught mine soon enough, too. Symptoms appeared in February 2019, diagnosed 3 weeks later. They do say that the earlier it's diagnosed the better the chance of remission, if you do the right things. My focus since has been on maintaining it.
 
I agree with the focus on maintaining. I am certainly not intending to slacken my routines. Perhaps if I reach a 'normal' weight and have a succession of HbA1Cs in the low to mid thirties I might ease off a bit .......
 
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