Hi All...
Following on from Mike's emotional side of diabetes thread...I thought this may be helpful as well...Its taken from My Bible..by Dr Ragnar Hanas.. Its quite long so will post it in to parts...🙂
THE ONSET OF DIABETES:
When a child, teenager or adult develops a long term chronic illness, the situation for the whole family is always a difficult one. Adjusting to a new life poses challenges and takes time. Most people go through the same stages when faced with crisis:
1: Shock Phase
2: Reaction Phase
3: Repair Phase
4: Reorientation phase.
SHOCK PHASE:
During the shock phase, it is difficult to think clearly. Thoughts will whirl around in your head. Everything seems unreal. This cannot really be happening, it can't be true. Maybe it will all turn out to have been a dream? It is common to experience a sense of walking around in a haze. You cannot take in information. You see the doctor, you watch the doctors body language and see just how serious the situation is. You listen out for hope, consolation, belief in the future, but shut out all the details of the condition, its likely progression and treatment, all the accompanying practicalities. You want to ask questions but find it difficult to keep your thoughts focused, or see a way forward. The doctor should listen, you think, the nurse should listen, everybody should LISTEN to your inner thoughts of what is most important right now.
"You cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying over your head - but you can stop them from building a nest there."......Chinese Saying
REACTION PHASE:
A reaction of sorrow with tears, sleeplessness, aggression and bitterness will also take time. Consolation is important but you should be honest, not hearty and unrealistic. "You need not feel sad" seems false and "You should not be said" feels like a punch in the face. Why should'nt one feel sad? Everybody has the right to be sad in this situation. It is only natural to feel sorrow, bitterness ans disappointment. you grieve for the healthy person you used to be, and life seems so unfair. It is always unfair when someone is stricken by a chronic condition/disease, but the sorrow will eventually fade away. You will feel better. You have had no part in developing the condition, it is not your fault. We must have the strength to listen, to face up to reality, to allow ourselves to acknowledge grief and fear.
Heidi
xx🙂
Following on from Mike's emotional side of diabetes thread...I thought this may be helpful as well...Its taken from My Bible..by Dr Ragnar Hanas.. Its quite long so will post it in to parts...🙂
THE ONSET OF DIABETES:
When a child, teenager or adult develops a long term chronic illness, the situation for the whole family is always a difficult one. Adjusting to a new life poses challenges and takes time. Most people go through the same stages when faced with crisis:
1: Shock Phase
2: Reaction Phase
3: Repair Phase
4: Reorientation phase.
SHOCK PHASE:
During the shock phase, it is difficult to think clearly. Thoughts will whirl around in your head. Everything seems unreal. This cannot really be happening, it can't be true. Maybe it will all turn out to have been a dream? It is common to experience a sense of walking around in a haze. You cannot take in information. You see the doctor, you watch the doctors body language and see just how serious the situation is. You listen out for hope, consolation, belief in the future, but shut out all the details of the condition, its likely progression and treatment, all the accompanying practicalities. You want to ask questions but find it difficult to keep your thoughts focused, or see a way forward. The doctor should listen, you think, the nurse should listen, everybody should LISTEN to your inner thoughts of what is most important right now.
"You cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying over your head - but you can stop them from building a nest there."......Chinese Saying
REACTION PHASE:
A reaction of sorrow with tears, sleeplessness, aggression and bitterness will also take time. Consolation is important but you should be honest, not hearty and unrealistic. "You need not feel sad" seems false and "You should not be said" feels like a punch in the face. Why should'nt one feel sad? Everybody has the right to be sad in this situation. It is only natural to feel sorrow, bitterness ans disappointment. you grieve for the healthy person you used to be, and life seems so unfair. It is always unfair when someone is stricken by a chronic condition/disease, but the sorrow will eventually fade away. You will feel better. You have had no part in developing the condition, it is not your fault. We must have the strength to listen, to face up to reality, to allow ourselves to acknowledge grief and fear.
Heidi
xx🙂
