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Probably the most ridiculous thing I've heard someone say

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I overheard a conversation today between two colleagues, H, who is 8 months pregnant and going to have a caesarean, and C, who offered her a cup of tea....

H: 2 sugars please
C: Isn't that a bit unhealthy?
H: Yeah, I'm trying to make myself diabetic so I'll have a bigger baby and they'll have to do my caesarean sooner...

WHAT??? I was at the other end of a very large office so couldn't set her straight on this, but I couldn't get over how many levels she was wrong on!
 
Oh my goodness! And they let these people breed?! Makes you wonder doesn't it? XXXXX
 
1. having sugar wont make you diabetic, gestational or otherwise.......

2. having a large baby doesn't mean you will get your c section sooner......


but I am sure it was just in jest...............😱

I take it C has had a c section already to be able to get the choice again, if not, do they not insist natural births......
 
I know! I think it's ona par with a woman I saw on "Misbehaving Mums to Be" who said she thought her smoking would make her baby's heart and lungs stronger!
 
54 years ago, when I was born, the lady in the next bed to my mum had kept a sticking plaster over her navel for 9 months so her baby wouldn't drown when she had a bath!!!! 😱 I think the conversation you heard today is on a par with that to be honest. XXXXX
 
I'm going to say a word in the lady's defence.

I think it was damned inappropriate of the first colleague to comment on the healthiness or not of someone's eating habits. As diabetics, you must get it all the time: you fancy a treat, you choose a chocolate pudding after your sandwich, it's steamy and gooey and you're just about to lower your spoon in and some ignoramous says:
'shouldn't you be having an apple instead, with your diabetes and everything?'

Similarly, the poor woman wanted two spoons of sugar in her drink. Surely that's HER business and I'm not surprised she turned it into an inappropiate 'joke' (the alternative is surely to defend her choice to have 2 spoons of sugar, which not all people find easy).

Even so, I hope you explained, quietly and politely) later exactly how offensive a comment that was. Don't get me wrong, i'm offended. But it's a bit like racism: people actually thought it was ok before someone explained to them that it wasn't. Difficult to believe, but......
 
The thing that is annoying me is this sounds like a planned C section. I had to have one when my big boy was born and it was done as an emergency because he was a transverse breech. I cannot even begin to tell you how much pain I was in and had it not been done neither of us would be here now to tell the truth of it.
 
They do say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit and I do believe your colleague was being sarcastic in response to a pretty insensitive and intrusive comment from the other one. As for the c-section, perhaps she's already had one, or there may be some other health concern that makes a ceasarian inevitable.
 
Sorry yes, I should probably clarify that she's having a C-section because she had one with her last child.

And yes, C had no right to comment on her sugar consumption, but I would have preferred it if the response was "go away, it's none of your business"!

I just felt cross that she seemed to be implying diabetes was something you could cause, and would want to get in pregnancy, when I know how hard some people on here have battled with diabetes in pregnancy.
 
Yes, I've heard this one too, not related to pregnancy, but someone claimed that her friend was going to get diabetes because she was drinking a bit chocolate milkshake!

The most ridiculous one I have ever heard was someone who claimed that because I was diabetic and he had to wear glasses that we shouldn't be able to "reproduce" because we were defective and by having children we would be ruining the human race. Basically mine is even worse because I shouldn't even be alive because I am relying on human made insulin to survive. He thought that the human race was going to be destroyed because people like me wanted to live and worse still pass on our genes. He was actually a friend of a friend, he is from a much different culture to ours where people with medical conditions even if the need glasses would not be a favourable wife for a man. I don't hold it against him because he wasn't trying to tell me I was wrong but just stating his culture's strange ways 😱
 
Natalie123 said:
Yes, I've heard this one too, not related to pregnancy, but someone claimed that her friend was going to get diabetes because she was drinking a bit chocolate milkshake!

The most ridiculous one I have ever heard was someone who claimed that because I was diabetic and he had to wear glasses that we shouldn't be able to "reproduce" because we were defective and by having children we would be ruining the human race. Basically mine is even worse because I shouldn't even be alive because I am relying on human made insulin to survive. He thought that the human race was going to be destroyed because people like me wanted to live and worse still pass on our genes. He was actually a friend of a friend, he is from a much different culture to ours where people with medical conditions even if the need glasses would not be a favourable wife for a man. I don't hold it against him because he wasn't trying to tell me I was wrong but just stating his culture's strange ways 😱
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With friends like this who needs enemies:(
 
Agree with the sugar consumption thing. What's wrong with two sugars? I use sweeteners in my tea now but before I always put two or three in (sometimes even four if it was a particularly large mug of tea).

I am also desperately hoping the lady was being sarcastic about the Diabetes thing - if not then I agree it's on par with the plaster on the navel story lol
 
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