Olivercromwell - newbie

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Hi, I am a carer to. My husband has been type 1 for 26 years now, and I worry all the time. Only because of the hypos, and the lack of understanding amongst non diabetic people. It has affected his career, and recently a masters degree he has been undertaking. Although very active, it has changed his personality, and he is so scared of the consequences of the side effects of high sugar, he keeps his sugar levels very low. It is so nice to discover a forum, where maybe somebody will understand what I mean!
 
Hi OC, welcome to the forum 🙂 I can personally understand how he feels, as that is how I have felt since diagnosis. Anything in double figures scares me and I'm even a bit worried about readings above 7 or 8 unless they are shortly after eating, like when I am going for a run. Thankfully, I have maanged to learn how to avoid hypos mostly these days, although it does require quite a bit of self discipline. I think that, in the early days after diagnosis, I would inject more than I really needed to allow for snacks later, but now I try and inject the right amount and forego the snacks.

Looking forward to hearing more from you, and of course your husband is welcome to join too! 🙂

p.s. I moved your post to its own thread so it wouldn't get lost in the other one 🙂
 
olivercromwell said:
Thank you Northener 🙂 I was going to join a support group, but I think this is great! There is so much information.
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Please ask any questions you may have - nothing is considered 'silly' and there is usually someone around who knows the answer or has been wondering the same thing! 🙂 Or if you just want ot have a good old rant or moan, that's acceptable too!
 
hello

i am a newbie too - a couple of days old thats all!. my husband type 1 - i have been watching and caring since 1975 so Oh Yes, i know how you feel. Sometimes, i think we care a little too much, maybe thats a naughty thing to say? Unlike your caree mine has been naughty in other ways - choosing to ignore it - hence leaving it up to me to manage!! But we all manage dont we?And we make mistakes .... and even when we think we have all the bits of the equation under control, sometimes diabetes reacts contrary to all the rules. Anyway, just to let you know you are far from alone AND that i agree - lots of great welcoming people on this site. OK?
 
Welcome olivercromwell (unusual name for someone with a husband, by the way, so, being nosey, have to ask what's the back story?)
Just to pick up on one thing you mentioned - your husband's masters degree. Most degree awarding institutions are pretty helpful with making reasonable changes to accommodate the issues reaised by diabetes eg extension of deadlines, extra time in exams to allow for time used in blood testing, eating etc. If any of that applies, then do ask here or perhaps he already has sorted it out?
 
tiddlywinks said:
i am not really sure what a moderator is? can you help?
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A mod is some one who looks out for bad language, bad behavior,brings peace hopefully to any situation that get out of hand, theres a few on here there usually easy to spot they will have moderator under there username.
 
Hi Tiddlywinks, Copepod. Oliver Cromwell was my favourite study in history, I tend to use it as a user name, as its never duplicated!

He is in his second year, and during registration had a hypo. He couldn't complete the application form, and kept repeating the same questions over and over. The lecturer didn't recognise this for what it was, the other students became very alarmed. He emailed an apology the following day, however they advised him that due to his aggressiveness and strange behaviour, he was not welcome. He has since fought this, and is now continuing with his studies, thankfully. But it seems to be one thing after another! He doesn't accept how different his behaviour can be when his sugar is low, and doesn't get how alarming it can be.

It is so lovely to be able to share this Tiddlywinks, and I so know what you mean.
 
Thanks olivercromwell - just being nosey, as during my MSc year I lived in a Cromwell Rd in London and Belfast and now live near Huntingdon, so always notice the name.
Hope his masters continues more smoothly - I guess it must be pretty alarming for fellow students to witness aggressive behaviour brought on by hypoglycaemia. I can't really suggest much, as I'm lucky that I don't experience that, and my partner has never needed to intervene - although he did once try to get a glucose gel into my mouth instead of the sweets I was trying to reach in the night, and couldn't understand why I was being unco-operative, so he tasted the gel, realised it tasted disgusting and helped grab the sweets off the windowsill behind the bed headboard! I did let my MSc university know that I might need to eat some sweets during 3 hour exams, but actually didn't need any, but knowing I could have done so if needed, was a help.
 
Hi olivercromwell.

Welcome aboard. It's amazing how much you can learn from fellow diabetics/carers as opposed to clinicians. And of course, it's a good place to find empathy and an understanding ear or two. 🙂

Rob
 
em, thats nice!

thank you - nice to have a thanks.
Em, dunno about you but as mine doesnt recollect how hypos affects him - doesnt believe it - so i feel/get shirty cos i am human and so want him to say Thank You for all that!! even after all this time!
So if any of you Ds are looking at this - well, i am just hinting that you ought to show your appreciation sometime. Prob. 99per cent of you do - and i know i am wrong to tar with only one brush. Nonetheless - it may be a timely reminder.
Oh dear, am i gonna get shouted at? x
 
i LOVE your username :D I'm a bit of an english civil war buff myself :D
 
Hi Tiddlywinks, Silent Assasin

I was sorry when my course finished, it wasn't a chore, I enjoyed every minute!

My husband remembers nothing after a hypo! I did something really awful once, I was so at the end of my tether, I took pictures, but felt so sorry after I had done that, and I deleted them. We don't go out with company much, as I get so worried, I continually watch him, and I get so stressed, and I can get very resentful! Before he was diagnosed, I thought a somebody with diabetes just couldn't eat sugar, I never realised the effect on the person with the condition.

I promise I am usually a very upbeat person, I don't usually moan for Wales!!
 
hi oliver cromwell welcome to the forum ....🙂
 
hi oliver cromwell,
It is so nice to hear from other carers. I am a mum of a 21 year old diabetic, and pretty much the same story. I think you are right, we can care too much! and it appears like a nag. I agree that most people who dont understand diabetes just think you need to have sugar sometimes, when we all know that that onkly touches the surface, but it is hard to explain just what it involves without appearing too dramatic.
 
Hi, welcome to the forum.
 
Hi

Welcome to the forum, I think it's discusting that they told your husband he wasn't welcome to carry on his degree because of the hypo and his behavour. I'm glad they reconsidered though. x
 
Make sure he carries some hypo resolve, I use jelly babies.......

Doeas he know when his hypos are happening?
 
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