Hi Emma,
I’m so sorry for all the stress and anxiety you are going through at the moment.
It seems that some diabetes doctors seem to have bypassed any sort of people skills training! I am currently 23 weeks pregnant. Slightly different to you, but at around 9.5 weeks (so I already knew I was pregnant), I was diagnosed with T1. It came as a massive shock and I still don’t think I have really come to terms with it. Add to that the worry of the effect on a new pregnancy and it’s pretty overwhelming! I too had a horrible appointment with the diabetes consultant - after reading in my notes that I had lost a baby last year, he then launched into a speech about how my glucose levels meant there was a 1 in 10 chance of a major abnormality and that some women decide to terminate. Again, like you, I knew he obviously had to make me aware of the risks but I think the way he presented the information was really insensitive and caused me a lot of stress and tears! And although he didn’t outrightly say that I should terminate, I felt that he was heavily implying it.
I had already had an early scan at 7 weeks (due to my own anxiety, before I knew about the diabetes). I then went on to have a scan at 12 weeks, 17 weeks and 21 weeks and everything (fingers crossed) seems to be okay so far.
I know that every pregnancy is different but I just wanted to let you know I can understand some of how you must be feeling. I really hope it goes well at your scan next week and I will be thinking of you. There are so many lovely people on this forum and they will all be here to support you.
Sending you lots of good wishes.
Mandy
{{{HUGS}}}