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Hi there, just joined the forum today

i myself do not have Diabetes, but my girlfriend does , Type 1

Can anyone recommend any books? websites? that i can read learn as much as possible about diabetes i have read the diabetes uk website over, but obviously there is so much to learn id rather read about it my self than constantly pester my girlfriend about it 🙂

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Sean
 
Hi Sean and welcome nice to see your care so much you joined here, does your g.f not want to join?

I would reccommend if you have a library near you to try that you will get a mountain of books from there as well as maybe trying a book called diabetes for dummies by alan l rubin or type 1 diabetes at your fingertips by charlie fox and anne kilvert.If you do fancy any of them id reccommend amazon.co.uk usually there prices are very resonable.
 
hi sean welcome i think its great that you obviously want to understand whats happening with your girlfriend 🙂 have agood look around the boards and remember no question here is regarded silly x
 
Hi Steff, she may well be a member already am not to sure, she has been diabetic for about 9 years i believe, but it is a very touchy subject with her.

so im trying to learn as much as i can to try and understand what she is going through

i do infact have a libary near me, and will hunt for them books later today! thanks for the speedy reply 🙂
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
Hi Steff, she may well be a member already am not to sure, she has been diabetic for about 9 years i believe, but it is a very touchy subject with her.

so im trying to learn as much as i can to try and understand what she is going through

i do infact have a libary near me, and will hunt for them books later today! thanks for the speedy reply 🙂
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Thats very nice of you hun , many react in diffirent ways when being diagnosed some pretend like it is not happening and put it to the back of there minds , others throw themselves into it and really try and have tight control, what insulin regime is she on?
 
unstill recently she was on 4 injections a day (excuse my lack of knowledge) one being a Nova rapid? and the other i am not to sure off

Recently changed to , Two injections a day, one she takes 30 minuites before eating her breakfast and the other 30 minuites before eating dinner, hope this helps

to me its like she trys to ignore it, but how i see it is, you really cant it makes her who she is.
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
unstill recently she was on 4 injections a day (excuse my lack of knowledge) one being a Nova rapid? and the other i am not to sure off

Recently changed to , Two injections a day, one she takes 30 minuites before eating her breakfast and the other 30 minuites before eating dinner, hope this helps

to me its like she trys to ignore it, but how i see it is, you really cant it makes her who she is.
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I dont know an awful lot on insulin as im type 2 , but others will throw some names of insulins at you and they may ring a bell.Of course it cant be ignored diabetes simple cannot be ignored as it will come back and bite you on the backside one way or another, does she have a good car team around her?
 
all her family support her fully, and she gets on really well with her nurse, which is a good thing, she has regular checks which i just assume is part of diabetes its self, but from being with her these regular checks seem to just get her down?

is there a way to deal with this? try to speak to her about it? or do i just carry on like normal?
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
all her family support her fully, and she gets on really well with her nurse, which is a good thing, she has regular checks which i just assume is part of diabetes its self, but from being with her these regular checks seem to just get her down?

is there a way to deal with this? try to speak to her about it? or do i just carry on like normal?
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Hi Sean, welcome to the forum🙂 Diabetes gets us all down from time to time as it's hard having to deal with it day in, day out. Maybe her numbers are not as good as she hopes for? It seems strange that she would go from 4 injections to just two - normally it's the other way around as there is more flexibility with 4 injections.

A book I would highly recommend is Type 1 Diabetes in Children, Adolescents and Young Adults by Ragnar Hanas - it will explain everything you need to know.
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
all her family support her fully, and she gets on really well with her nurse, which is a good thing, she has regular checks which i just assume is part of diabetes its self, but from being with her these regular checks seem to just get her down?

is there a way to deal with this? try to speak to her about it? or do i just carry on like normal?
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You could try and talk to her its worth a go, she may react good or bad but you will never know, if nothing else you are trying your best to be there for her .It shows her your showing an interest in her diabetes and you are living with it as well your not the sufferer but your her closest thing to help.
 
i feel like im intruding when i ask her, she said she will sit down with me and go over the website, but she has to be ready for it, like she cant just do it at anytime she needs to be in the mood.

she was having problems with doing her injections so they changed her insulin so there arent as many injections i think, its all a bit personal to her and its not really my place to say on a public forum as she finds it hard enough to speak about it herself.

but if theres anything i can learn from it, then its worth a shot!

ill take out a few books tonight, and read away!

thanks for the help again.
 
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Where about's in Essex are you? sound's like a very similar story to a woman on here who lives very near to me. I think joining this site would definately help her if you could presuade her to. It's good to see that your trying to find out all you can to help her, were always around if you need help with anything.

Emma
 
hi emma i live in grays, my girlfriend is 18?

i recently mentioned getting her a diary to write in as reading through the site many people do this, she seemed up for it so thats a plus 🙂

just got a text saying she is sad atm, and when i asked why she replied when she has all the appointments and all the speaking about it gets her down, any advice?
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
hi emma i live in grays, my girlfriend is 18?

i recently mentioned getting her a diary to write in as reading through the site many people do this, she seemed up for him so thats a plus 🙂

just got a text saying she is sad atm, and when i asked why she replied when she has all the appointments and all the speaking about it gets her down, any advice?
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send her a big hug from us all xx
 
It's not the same lady then. You live fairly near to where I do though. Diary sound's like a brilliant idea, do you think she would be willing to show it to her care team? Have you suggested councling to her? It sound's like she's never fully accepted she's diabetic and need's some help coming to terms with it.
 
i think she would find it easier to write it down and then allow somone to read it,

she recently went into hospital (skipping injections, not eating properly to lose weight)

so after all the hospital a very horrible doctor in my eyes who seemed to have no time said (if you dont do your injections im just going to send you home to die)

which i dont think is very helpful she came out and told us about her problem and he just didnt help, at the moment we are awaiting instructions on the next step, a specialist is meant to be coming up with a solution councilling or going into a clinic to help her get into the routine, but has been over a month and the last call was to say they hadnt come up with a solution. which is where i come in 🙂 when we are together you wont ever see her sad, but soon as we are apart its when she becomes down.

i dont want her to feel like she has to live a lie when she is with me and just put on a smiley face, im not going to judge her
 
Check out circledrocks.co.uk it's group for people with diabetes aged 18-30 to get support from each other. The meetings are in Gravesend so from Grays would take around 30 minutes I think, so might be doable.

I would imagine that she has had trouble with not taking all the injections needed so thats why she has gone onto only 2 a day. Which is good in terms of not having so many injections but doesn't have the flexibility and level of control that 4 a day does.

It's good that she has a good relationship with her nurse, is she under the adult team or the childrens team still?

Much respect to you for signing up her and trying to find out information to support her.
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
Hi there, just joined the forum today

i myself do not have Diabetes, but my girlfriend does , Type 1

Can anyone recommend any books? websites? that i can read learn as much as possible about diabetes i have read the diabetes uk website over, but obviously there is so much to learn id rather read about it my self than constantly pester my girlfriend about it 🙂

Thanks

Sean
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Hi Sean, its great thats you care so much about ure gf, I had this book when diagnosed 7 years ago and I now work for the people who wrote it! It's broken into manageable chunks 🙂

http://www.successfuldiabetes.com/component/virtuemart/?page=shop.browse&category_id=1&vmcchk=1
 
Sean.Lawrence said:
hi emma i live in grays, my girlfriend is 18?

i recently mentioned getting her a diary to write in as reading through the site many people do this, she seemed up for it so thats a plus 🙂

just got a text saying she is sad atm, and when i asked why she replied when she has all the appointments and all the speaking about it gets her down, any advice?
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Hi Sean, do you think it would help if she could come to a meet up to meet others with type one? I run a group (www.circledrocks.co.uk) and we meet in Kent (Gravesend area) and grays isn't far away at all...it's for 18-30's...

We have a meet up next month, and you would be more than welcome to come too...

I really feel for her....let me know if I can do anything to help.xxx
 
i think it would, but whether she would go is another thing, it has taken all these years to come out and tell us her difficulty, i think one step at a time is how well have to take it.

she seems keen on the diary idea, so maybe once the ball is rolling she will be up for more ideas, she recently passed her driving test aswell (crazy driver) so will be able to get there easily.

ill defo have to get her on this site, as im not even diabetic but the amount of help ive recieved in the pass hour is amazing!

the main problem i know is weight, she is not a big girl atall she is beautiful!

am i right in beliving insulin makes you gain weight?
 
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