Hi, apologies for a sensitive subject - my partner is a type 2 diabetic (diagnosed last August) and is in a pretty bad way with advanced retinopathy and nerve damage - and has ED for the last 4 years which he ignored as he was single. We have now been waiting 9 months to see a specialist as oral medication does not work. Does anyone have any experience where this has been resolved? We are both in our mid 40’s and it’s pretty important to us. We can’t seem to get an answer if there is hope or if it’s game over with regards to sex. Thanks so much.
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brisr949
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My husband has type 1 diabetes we have been married for 14 years and we have not been able to make love for over 6 months we have tried medication but nothing is working . We tried Viagra the other night but nothing any ideas
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Thank you. We have tried viagra and cialis and no success. I’m guessing that as it’s been an issue for so long the nerve damage is permanent. We are waiting to see an ED specialist. My partner refuses to try any pumps.
Is it a common issue for the ED to be irreversible?
Is it a common issue for the ED to be irreversible?
trophywench
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What a nice selfish man you have there - he refuses to try any pumps - WHY? Just because he has lost the ability to get an erection by automatic means - absolutely does NOT affect his ability to achieve orgasms! Even if he never ever wants another orgasm - don't you?
brisr949
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I cannot understand why he would refuse to try a pump, if the sildenafil didn't work for me it would be the next obvious thing to try as its non invasive and looks really easy to use, if he cared about you and your love life he should be bending over backwards for a solution. Does he give a reason why he wont try a pump?
Thank you. We have tried viagra and cialis and no success. I’m guessing that as it’s been an issue for so long the nerve damage is permanent. We are waiting to see an ED specialist. My partner refuses to try any pumps.
Is it a common issue for the ED to be irreversible?
Is it a common issue for the ED to be irreversible?
i think he is afraid that if the pump doesn’t work it’s game over.
I think it’s fear that if it doesn’t work he has nowhere to go.... but yes I agree... it is selfish
trophywench
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Ever heard of Caverject?
AndBreathe
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Whilst I could see that fear is in the mix, but whilst "....he is afraid that if the pump doesn’t work it’s game over.", what if the pump worked, and you didn't need to consider anything more invasive?
Just turning his fear on it's head.
Obviously easy to say......
trophywench
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It can't NOT work, it's basic physics. Pump blood into a very confined space, trap it there very tightly. Do not allow it to escape ,,,,,,
brisr949
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I will add on the subject of sildenafil, some people think it gives a guaranteed erection but it just doesn't work that way, you still have to be in the mood and stimulated. Im not sure how long you tried tablets for but if your OH has a mental block because of confidence/thinking he was going to fail its a pretty good chance he would..plus i found i had to take 100mg instead of the 50 but the best advice i can give you is to try to relax as much as you can and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't, next thing you'll know is it has happened..so maybe revisit that if you only gave it a couple of goes.
P.s mine could work hours after taking so maybe don't take it just before bed, take it, relax, watch some tele then fool around on the sofa maybe, anything to try to take the pressure off.
Adam.
P.s mine could work hours after taking so maybe don't take it just before bed, take it, relax, watch some tele then fool around on the sofa maybe, anything to try to take the pressure off.
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Sorry to hear that you and your partner are having difficulties with your sex life @Goody
Hope your partner feels able to try the pump at some point and it proves to be a fulfilling and workable solution for you both.
This member who only posted once, had experience of various different meds failing, but ultimately found that a pump system was the thing that worked for them.
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Hope your partner feels able to try the pump at some point and it proves to be a fulfilling and workable solution for you both.
This member who only posted once, had experience of various different meds failing, but ultimately found that a pump system was the thing that worked for them.
Erectile dysfunction
I am 72 and was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes 20 years ago. Despite controlling my blood glucose levels well - I am on Humalog and Lantus insulin injections - I suffer from erectile dysfunction, which has got progressively worse over that time. To those of you who also suffer, I extend my most...
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Martyn Howe
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Hello, all.
I am type 2 and also I had pyronies I had the op at Calow hospital a few years ago. I now have ED used all the meds available ie viagra and had the injections and tried the pump to no avail. I have want to ask if anyone has had a penile implant done on the NHS and how did you go about it. TIA Martyn.
I am type 2 and also I had pyronies I had the op at Calow hospital a few years ago. I now have ED used all the meds available ie viagra and had the injections and tried the pump to no avail. I have want to ask if anyone has had a penile implant done on the NHS and how did you go about it. TIA Martyn.
SB2015
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Sorry not to be able to help with your specific question, but just wanted to welcome you to the forum.
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Hi @Martyn Howe
Welcome to the forum. Have you discussed the possibility with your urologist? I don’t know much about the NHS process for accessing this treatment but that would seem like the best place to start. If you are not currently seeing a urologist then getting a referral from your GP to see one specifically to talk about this procedure should be fairly easy to arrange.
trophywench
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Someone we knew had one, but I'm talking 20 years ago and we don't know him now. He always told us it 'did the job' OK but not being personally involved with him I can't comment further.
This is going to sound perhaps a bit completely batty - but my husband as I have already said had Prostate Cancer - so is there anything on Prostate UK's website or have you thought of ringing their helpline, cos they are professional specific Prostate nurses manning it.
This is going to sound perhaps a bit completely batty - but my husband as I have already said had Prostate Cancer - so is there anything on Prostate UK's website or have you thought of ringing their helpline, cos they are professional specific Prostate nurses manning it.
I have had Type 2 diabetes for 15 years and have had ED since this time without any erections - iI have tried most of the ED drugs and pump ( found it difficult to use - maybe better ones these days) is there still hope after all of this time or should I give up.
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I was at a conference of diabetic people earlier this year and one of the subjects was ED an options, we were a group of 7 patients and 4 or 5 diabetic practitioners in my local diabetic hospital here in Germany.
I was surprised at the options they were talking about, the usual tablets, pumps and injections, I have had a go at them all being a diabetic man of a certain age and tablets didn’t really work very well, the pumps were fun with my wife but not long lasting, the injections happened once and never again “from a mans point of view” regardless of how man needles you have stuck in yourself over the years, sticking one in your “Micky” is not fun, however the most interesting option discussed was an internal pump and bladder closed loop device, sounds bad but they pulled out one of these and it’s very small, and discreet, you squeeze the pump a few times which fills the bladders and then when your done, 30 seconds later! You squeeze a valve in the pump and which releases the pressure from the bladders, the whole thing is installed with a very small incision 2 stitches and done under local anaesthetic. I’m researching it a little more and will follow up with more once I go see my doctor, spontaneous and no Ill effects appeals for this delicate subject, was joking about the 30 seconds by the way, more like a minute 😉
I was surprised at the options they were talking about, the usual tablets, pumps and injections, I have had a go at them all being a diabetic man of a certain age and tablets didn’t really work very well, the pumps were fun with my wife but not long lasting, the injections happened once and never again “from a mans point of view” regardless of how man needles you have stuck in yourself over the years, sticking one in your “Micky” is not fun, however the most interesting option discussed was an internal pump and bladder closed loop device, sounds bad but they pulled out one of these and it’s very small, and discreet, you squeeze the pump a few times which fills the bladders and then when your done, 30 seconds later! You squeeze a valve in the pump and which releases the pressure from the bladders, the whole thing is installed with a very small incision 2 stitches and done under local anaesthetic. I’m researching it a little more and will follow up with more once I go see my doctor, spontaneous and no Ill effects appeals for this delicate subject, was joking about the 30 seconds by the way, more like a minute 😉
Have you considered the possibility that your partner is losing interest in physical sex?
My wife and I gradually lost interest in our forties as well. After more than two decades of shagging and three kids later, it just lost its appeal amd we found other more interesting things to do.
This is a problem a lot of couples face at that age. The fear is that without sex, there is no romance and without romance, they are afraid that there is nothing else holding their relationship together. That worry alone is a real passion killer. You describe sex as still being very important to you and you also describe him as being selfish in another post. You should be very sure that you are not pressuring him into doing something he may feel has naturally become less important to him.
The reason for asking about this is because if even Viagra isnt working, it seems an obvious next thing to talk to him about.
Losing interest in sex in your forties is perfectly normal amd natural. He may be afraid to admit it to you. I have to say that using words like selfish is really not appropriate here.
Losing interest in sex in your forties is not normal to me or the majority of adults I am sorry you lost your love of the joys of sex at such an early age.
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