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As Dave has said, how can we help you help your mum Ian? How long has she been diagnosed, what meds is she on and what do you see as the main issues with her diabetes? Is she unwilling to comply with the right kind of diet or just struggling whatever she does?

Please share more to allow people to advise and support appropriately.
 
I was just wondering if this is the right place for me to come. She unfortunately hasn't bn very compliant with diet. I have advised her numerous times of a diet plan. She has bn in hospital for 4 weeks now and each time they tell her she needs something else removing. She now just wants to go home and I'm wondering if there is any alternative
 
I assume she is in hospital due to complications with diabetes?
 
Ian Bennett said:
I was just wondering if this is the right place for me to come. She unfortunately hasn't bn very compliant with diet. I have advised her numerous times of a diet plan. She has bn in hospital for 4 weeks now and each time they tell her she needs something else removing. She now just wants to go home and I'm wondering if there is any alternative
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Certainly, Ian, this is a great support group for you & your Mum.... The members have a lot of experience in managing diabetes or caring for loved ones with diabetes.

I don't have any background in this area but I know there are members who do. It would help if you gave a little background/history about your Mum's condition
 
She's called Maria

T2 dx 2003
Metformin
Glycercide x 2 she also suffers heart complications and has had 2 heart attacks and a mini stroke 2 years ago.

She let her house fall in to disrepair and hid from us how bad it was. This has Al caused her anxiety and depression and I am overwhelmed with it all
 
Hi Ian,
I am sorry you and your family are having such a tough time at the moment, I can imagine how frustrating this must be for you but I can also imagine how scared your mum must also be. I also have heart disease and have recently been diagnosed type 2 diabetes. I only share so much with my children, I know they mean well but the more they lecture me the less I listen :(
It may be that mum is struggling to come to terms with the changes her health has brought on her, perhaps her way of dealing with it is to try and ignore it? Try to be careful when you talk to her not to show anger, this is likely to make her pull back more. Talk to the nurses taking care of her, share your concerns with them.
There is no quick solution here, your mum needs professional help and lots of love, understanding and support from you x
 
Hi Ian
You could contact your local council and find out about local organisations that can support your mum and yourself as a family carer. There are numerous orgs depending where you live in the UK.
Regards
 
Hi thanks for all Your replies. The doctor has spoken with her this morning and they need to now remove all toes. Does anyone have any experience with this
 
Ian, ask the Ward if the hospital social worker could come and speak with your mum and do an assessment on her needs going forward. She’s going to need medical and social support and she sounds depressed. Good luck, it must be hard for you.
 
Sending a hug Ian-I have no advice but a hug is always free.
 
Ian Bennett said:
Hi thanks for all Your replies. The doctor has spoken with her this morning and they need to now remove all toes. Does anyone have any experience with this
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I have no personal experience of this other than I saw our local news program interview a local man (with diabetes) who had all his toes removed a few weeks earlier and he was walking about with the aid of sticks but he was more concerned about the wait for the operation. I remember also the lady in the next bed to my partner a few years ago was waiting for her toes to be amputated, they had turned black and she was OK afterwards. The store manager where my daughter works has recently had both his lower limbs amputated through diabetes complications. He whizzes about in his wheelchair and is awaiting artificial legs and knowing him, the ones with springs, nothing seems to faze him. Married last year and now a father. Admittedly younger than your mum Ian, but people face these obsticales with all the courage they can muster. They hospital has a duty of care towards your mother and they will do the best for her. Regards Dave
 
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