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In denial I guess

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AnnW

AnnW

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Hi, I've not been on the board for a short while... I keep cheating , eating the wrong things, ice cream, chips (occasionally) and even a choc biscuit the other day.
I've got a bit down about it all to be honest, and I seem to suffer from the people who say ' oh you eat lots of sweets do you?' ( that was in a doc's queue in the waiting room) and ' you can have some of this , it won't kill you, it's not sugar '
I feel that my diabetes is obviously not that important .
I am exercising every day , swimming, and walking lots but I then call in at a nice little pub on the way home from a 2 mile walk and have a glass of wine :(

I am going to see my dietician tomorrow and I fear I have put a bit of weight on 😡So.........

Not really feeling that happy to be honest :(

And .... I don't think anyone really cares :(

Sorry .
 
Don't apologise - you are feeling down and it won't be helped by the lack of support you have been getting locally.

Of course people care - your lovely daughters do and no one here wants you to be feeling so down.

I hope that your post above has helped you let off some steam.

Take care of yourself

{{{{Ann}}}}
 
Don't apologise Ann! Your diabetes is important and you are doing much to help manage your condition. I'm sure that you are much more informaed and conscientious about things than the majority, so please just ignore comments born of ignorance! Treats should be a matter of judgement and should be enjoyed, so enjoy yours without guilt! You have a lot of people here that do care, even if others closer to you don't appear interested - they simply don't understand what it all means.

Keep posting, however you are feeling, it is better than bottling things up and you know you will find lots of friendly support here 🙂 Hope things go better than you expect with the dietician, let us know how you get on 🙂
 
Hi Ann, Don't feel you need to appologise, you clearly aren't getting the support you need and you are feeling very down at the moment. I wish I could sort everything out for you, if I could, I would. If there is anything I can do (on anyone else for that matter) please let me know. Like Margie said, people do care, we do, your daughter's obviously do too.

Don't beat yourself up about your diet or if you put on a bit of weight, I have done recently too, and I keep eating cake because I have been down too. Now that I am getting my life back on track I am looking to improve my lifestyle one step at a time - starting with the cake addiction! You are doing lots of exercise so well done on that one. and a glass of wine is not the worst thing to be having - just be careful it doesn't become more than a glass!

I would say that you need to get the emotional support you need before you will feel able to tackle the rest of life. When you go to your appointment be honest about your diet, exercise and explain that you feel very down. It does help to talk to someone and your dietician might be able to refer you to someone who can help.

Getting over my depression has been a real struggle but I feel I am getting somewhere now and things seem to be looking up in many ways. This was all thanks to people I have met recently through volunteering and church - something I only recently started to explore. People have really picked me up and I feel like a new person now, most of those people probably don't even know how much they have helped. I tried counselling and see a psychologist but they just haven't helped and some of the things I have been called has been shocking - I have been told that I am needy, selfish and emotionally unstable, this was after saying that I enjoy helping people, it was twisted around to explain to me that I am not doing it for others, just for myself!

Sorry this is a bit of an essay, I just hope that you feel better soon xx Hugs xxx
 
I know how you feel

Hi Ann, it's hard sometimes, isn't it?

I'm only recently diagnosed but have been overweight for ages - have 6 stone to shed and the first half stone comes off easy then goes back on even easier, time after time 😱.

All you can do after a bad day is forget it and resolve to have a good one tomorrow. Like Natalie (and so many diabetics), I also suffer from depression and know that feeling unsupported can make me turn to the calorie-laden comfort blanket of "treat food". The only way I can get through it is to take control and get information which is why I wondered if you keep a food diary? I've been doing one for 10 days or so and was quite appalled by the number of things I picked at between meals. At least it made it obvious what the problem was!

That said, whatever your regime, the occasional (single) glass of wine should be able to fit in there: after all, what's the point of surviving if you stop living? 😉 Mind you, saying that, the other day I had my first beer since Dx and felt very strange indeed 🙂

Best of luck, here's hoping tomorrow goes better than you fear - after all, one good day is all you can achieve in the next 24 hours. 🙂
 
No need to apologise be as frank about your feelings as you want. I can empathise as I try and keep active and am cooking really healthy meals, taken medication etc but then I go out and have a cream tea, cake and coffee or yesterday for e.g I bought a chocolate toblarone. My will power has been slipping lately and yesterday I just thought sod it I really miss chocolate so I bought some. I'm just trying to show that you are not alone. My eating gets worse when I'm anxious. You sound like you are possibly despressed or feeling low could you speak to your GP? I hope you are able to get the support you deserve and you can off load to us lot anytime. x
 
Thanks for your fab messages , it does help to know that I am not the only one who falls off the boat !
I had put a few pounds on but she's not worried , she said I had lost a bit too much , so , just trying not to put any more back on. I am trying not to snack too much , that is my downfall I think. I am depressed on the whole but things a bit better recently . I went to see my fab preggie daughter and husband today , they are both teachers ( staff room romance) and we went to the school fair , watched some school rugby he was umpiring , lunch and shopping 🙂 lovely .
I have my gorgeous daughters , a son in law and a fianc?e who I love so I must focus on them 🙂
Hard work to ignore the hatred from a step daughter , but I 'm trying - just wish she'd go :(
Thanks everyone 🙂
 
Good to hear from you AnnW. Things are a bit quiet just now, as people are travelling back from Manchester Meet.
 
Err, my take on it is Sod Em All ! - I'll show ya!

If you can resolve to do summat - eg I won't snack today till at least X o'clock - and then do that - anything! - to prove to yourself that you can do it - would that strengthen your resolve?

Step-rellies can be difficult - I have a lot more of them than blood rellies and I was tentative at first - esp with the very young! but now I just do or say exactly what I would if they were mine and the important thing is - my husband backs me up. OK afterwards he might criticise but he has the same take on kids (even the 40 yo ones) as was drummed into me - you back one another up 100% in front of them and don't show any cracks until you are without them. We have also had and still have trouble with some of them but its us that have it, not me. Had it not been 'us' against it Ann - I just wouldn't be here in this house with my husband now.


{{{Hugs}}}
 
Hi AnnW

Really lovely to hear from you. Don't worry about falling off the wagon occasionally, it's climbing back on that counts.

Hope you feel better soon
M
 
Thanks for ideas, I may well try the 'no snacks until X o'clock' she says sitting in Starbucks 😱
My step ch prob is difficult as the daughter 25 lives here and we hate each other, haven't spoken for months, and the 19 year old comes and stays every weekend.
My other half is weak and never backs me up so I don't interact with the sone if I can help it.... I'm very low on the pecking order :(
The other 2 live away and only visit like normal people !
I have to cope... And ignore the fact that I live there, I make my own life now... Sad but , there it is .
 
Hi Ann, It sounds like you are feeling a little better but you still have some things that are getting you down. I really hope that the 25 year old finds a job on the other side of the country and leaves soon x Your husband really needs to back you up, I know that you love him and things are ok when you are alone, but that seems to be quite rare at the moment, so he needs to support you. Does he know how you are feeling? Being "weak" is no excuse for not helping you, he is their father after all and they should respect him. Have you tried relationship counselling? It might help you if you put aside an hour a week to talk through your problems with your husband and someone else.

All the best, you stay in my thoughts and prayers xx Hugs xx
 
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