Fiona
@FiLee, my sister ended up with an emergency ileostomy several years ago, after her GP failed for a full 12 months to pick-up any of the classic bowel cancer symptoms. Her double whammy was the stoma of course and the chemotherapy - which was almost continuous for most of those years; she is now at an oncology 12 month remission point. But her stoma continues to challenge her.
After the surgery her Hospital in Staffs had negligible stoma support; she found a stoma specialist nurse who retired shortly after and then someone else in Manchester. Meanwhile various blockages made her life pretty miserable with frequent hospitalisations, her most recent was last month. You will wholly understand it all makes her reluctant to eat out, particularly where the menu is unknown to her. She is also still ultra cautious about hygiene practices, anywhere not "at home" and having a decent, clean, surface to put her kit on; not just a narrow window ledge!
Her diet has evolved by trial and learning, plus chats on a website (I'll ask her where that is). I think (hope) you should be able to reconcile your stoma needs and sensible diabetes management. Low carb, NOT no carb, is probably your best start point. You at least know (from hard learning!) what foods to avoid. As
@dannybgoode has already asked, what is your HbA1c and how much change is going on with that over the last months (years). Knowing that could help you determine if a few tweaks only or a more fundamental diet and lifestyle review are needed. Although how much more lifestyle change is possible for you is a challenge in itself!
I'm not a big fan of social media, but Fiona have you tried looking for a Facebook group? I reached out to a T3c FB group after I was first diagnosed; that was useful initially, but I did eventually start to feel drowned by the flood of contradictory and dominating comments. I used a different browser uniquely for FB, which allowed me to subsequently step back and reduce the FB interference.
@everydayupsanddowns, yes, I should have commented on the speed of response, as well - which I also agree with. I don't notice speed with mashed potato so much, but I am generous with butter and cream when I make our mash; mash is my first carb source of choice, I found using a value of 15% in my carb count is very reliable for me - some other potato processing (eg roast, chips, chunky chips, chunky triple cooked chips etc) are pretty vague in the carb counting for me. I felt that speed wasn't so relevant to the thread and
@FiLee at this moment. As perhaps now an aside, I'm pretty confident that liquidisers also macerate fibres and this allows them to be digested, where they would otherwise pass through and help clean our colons as they go. I'll try to find the written reference source. Before my Whipple's Procedure I had been in the habit of drinking smoothies and do know from shortly after the HPB dietician told me to avoid them because of both confusing BG counting and losing the "bowel benefits". [Almost TMI].