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Lisa4343

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Hi, I’m Lisa and a mum of 15 year old with Type 1 who got diagnosed in Aug 2021. She’s doing amazing but I’m still struggling and have become ‘worry mum’ but I want to stop worrying. So spoke to a lovely lady on the support line who advised joining this forum xx
 
Hi Lisa and welcome to the forum.

Do you have any specific things that you're worrying about?
 
Lisa4343 said:
Hi, I’m Lisa and a mum of 15 year old with Type 1 who got diagnosed in Aug 2021. She’s doing amazing but I’m still struggling and have become ‘worry mum’ but I want to stop worrying. So spoke to a lovely lady on the support line who advised joining this forum xx
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Hello @Lisa4343 ,

thank you so much for joining our online community and its understandable that you are worried about your teenager. There are a few people on the forum who are parents to children affected by diabetes. If I may ask, do you remember the person on the support line you have spoken too? I would love to pass the feedback to them.
 
Welcome @Lisa4343 🙂 It’s a mum’s job to worry🙂 There are other parents of teens here. @stephknits is one.

What are you worrying about in particular? Hypos? Nighttime blood sugars?
 
Welcome, I have a now just 18 Yr old, diagnosed at 16. Its a difficult time to be diagnosed as they are just starting to become more independent.
What sort of things are worrying you?
 
Josh DUK said:
Hello @Lisa4343 ,

thank you so much for joining our online community and its understandable that you are worried about your teenager. There are a few people on the forum who are parents to children affected by diabetes. If I may ask, do you remember the person on the support line you have spoken too? I would love to pass the feedback to them.
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No I’m so sorry I didn’t catch her name at the beginning, but she reassured me about my worries of my daughter going out and being more independent, communicating less with me, the worry I have of her wanting to go travelling when she’s older and the fact that I’ve been so worried watching the Ukrainians fleeing their country and how would we get medical supplies. Basically I have just worked myself up this week and just needed a calm logical person to speak to.
 
Inka said:
Welcome @Lisa4343 🙂 It’s a mum’s job to worry🙂 There are other parents of teens here. @stephknits is one.

What are you worrying about in particular? Hypos? Nighttime blood sugars?
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I did worry about night time sugars at first but have been reassured over the year as they are good. But she’s now started going to parties (1 month off 16) and staying over at her friends. She says she’s sensible and doesn’t drink much but I do worry, yet don’t want to stop her being a normal teen. Since going onto the pump her sugars have gone higher more than before but her team are happy that it’s settling down. I’m really bad at maths, graphs and ratios so it’s a different language to me. Because she has taken it all on so well and manages with corrections and changing ratios etc I’ve not felt as involved as wanted to be but that’s how she wants it as it’s her thing to manage and her team say she’s doing well. She was my independent happy go lucky middle child who I didn’t worry about and now all I worry about is her and her future.
 
stephknits said:
Welcome, I have a now just 18 Yr old, diagnosed at 16. Its a difficult time to be diagnosed as they are just starting to become more independent.
What sort of things are worrying you?
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Yes it’s a tough time for them at that age. How are they doing? My daughter has dealt with it so well. I’ve felt really in the dark about it at times but relieved I’m not totally responsible for managing a younger child with type 1. I’d be so rubbish as I struggle with the maths side of it all, cooking was tough at first but I’m better now, although she cooks most of her own dinners now as she knows exactly how she likes her food and there’s no worry of her not liking something. Basically I worry about her leaving home to go to uni which she wants to do and go travelling and I know I shouldn’t treat her different to any other young adult, I was terrible from 16 onwards, but life seems so much scarier out there now. I actually was never as much a worrying mum as I am now.
 
Lisa4343 said:
I did worry about night time sugars at first but have been reassured over the year as they are good. But she’s now started going to parties (1 month off 16) and staying over at her friends. She says she’s sensible and doesn’t drink much but I do worry, yet don’t want to stop her being a normal teen. Since going onto the pump her sugars have gone higher more than before but her team are happy that it’s settling down. I’m really bad at maths, graphs and ratios so it’s a different language to me. Because she has taken it all on so well and manages with corrections and changing ratios etc I’ve not felt as involved as wanted to be but that’s how she wants it as it’s her thing to manage and her team say she’s doing well. She was my independent happy go lucky middle child who I didn’t worry about and now all I worry about is her and her future.
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Does she have a Libre? The alarms on that should reassure you a bit. I think it’s natural that she wants to take control herself, but I totally understand your worry. It’s a hard line to tread - caring but trying not to nag. It’s good that she’s confident doing things herself. That bodes well for going to uni 🙂
 
Sorry to hear about your daughter @Lisa4343 - and it’s perfectly natural for you to worry, but I think you are doing just the right thing allowing her to take the reins and do the majority of the management, while you offer support, encouragement and any practical help you can.

It can be very hard to know how to express your worries, check-in on how things are going, or offer suggestions without it feeling like you are nagging or fretting. This ‘diabetes etiquette’ guide offers some practical tips about ways to have open and positive conversations about her T1 management and any worries you have.

 
everydayupsanddowns said:
Sorry to hear about your daughter @Lisa4343 - and it’s perfectly natural for you to worry, but I think you are doing just the right thing allowing her to take the reins and do the majority of the management, while you offer support, encouragement and any practical help you can.

It can be very hard to know how to express your worries, check-in on how things are going, or offer suggestions without it feeling like you are nagging or fretting. This ‘diabetes etiquette’ guide offers some practical tips about ways to have open and positive conversations about her T1 management and any worries you have.

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Thankyou so much for this resource its great and really has helped me see things better from her perspective
 
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