Welcome to the forum
@Msjardine
Gosh what a dreadful introduction to your diabetes experience
It's quite common to feel a little overwhelmed and emotional to begin with so be kind to yourself. Diabetes is a serious condition, but it’s also one that can usually be managed well with a few changes and adaptations - it’s something that you can learn to live well with, and it shouldn’t stop you doing things you enjoy. Try not to be disheartened about your diagnosis, many people on the forum later reflect that their diagnosis became a catalyst which prompted them to make positive changes towards a healthier and more active life. Perhaps changes that they had been intending to make for years, but never quite managed to get around to. More than one forum member comments how much 'healthier' and more energised they feel once they begin to make changes to manage their diabetes following diagnosis.
One of the biggest questions when trying to get to grips with your diabetes is often ‘what can I eat’ and while there are obvious things like cakes, biscuits, sweets and sugary drinks that you will want to cut out straight away, you might be surprised how much *all* carbohydrate affects your BG levels, including rice, pasta, potatoes, bread, pastry, grains, cereals and many fruits. That doesn't mean that you have to avoid all of those things completely (which would be very difficult, and not very balanced), but getting the portion sizes right for your individual body, and choosing the sources of starchy carbohydrate that suit your body best can have a very positive impact on your diabetes management.
Many new members find it can be really helpful to keep a brutally honest food diary for a week or two. Note down everything you eat and drink, along with a reasonable estimate of the total carbohydrate content (not just 'of which sugars') in your meals and snacks - it doesn’t have to be gram-perfect, the nearest 5-10g is fine. It might sound like a bit of a faff, and will involve weighing portions, squinting at the fine print on packaging, and possibly looking up things on the internet, but it will give you a really good idea of which foods are the main sources of carbs in your menu.
Once you can see which meals or snacks are your ‘big hitters’, and where carbs might be unexpectedly lurking, your diary might suggest some likely candidates for swaps, portion reductions, or using lower carb alternatives (eg celeriac or swede mash, or cauli ‘rice’).
Don't feel like you have to drop everything all at once. There are so many suggestions about 'healthy eating' that if you aren't careful you can feel like you literally cannot eat
anything! Instead, it's better, as Arthur Ashe once said, to "start where you are, use what you have, do what you can".
Making a sequence of moderate and sustainable changes is less likely to result in burnout and you feeling like giving in.
One step at a time
🙂