Help!

[BlueArmy]

That’s harsh. Sobering indeed.

Nicki just to help you with expectations as well, I was diagnosed in early december and for christmas well meaning and loving family members brought me diabetic cookbooks and diabetic chocolate - the chocolate went in the bin and it took me 6 months to look at the cookbooks (now i have 6 and use them daily!).

He needs some getting used to it time, blokes are pretty lame emotionally or at least expressing that. I suspect inside he is devastated in his own way. I’d ease back for a few weeks if he has not
long been diagnosed- honestly, the headaches, need to oee all the time and tiredness will eventually force him to face up to it. Its not somethinf you can ignore and it get better, it only get’s worse.

 

[Nickibb]

Yes I have just heard that a friend who I though had well controlled diabetes can now hardly walk because of pain in his legs, sobering thought.

I only drink red wine socially so I could try to encourage him to do that , he drinks plenty of water too but has been complaining with knee pain. I think I will bring everything up
At his next appointment he might listen if it’s from a professional. Thank you so much everyone so helpful x

 

[BlueArmy]

Your diabetic nurse/professional should also refer him to a Desmond course they invite partners to attend l- its supported by diabetes UK. Its helpful, I’d go along if offered, or,’google it and try and sign up for one, they are free

 

[Nickibb]

That’s harsh. Sobering indeed.

Nicki just to help you with expectations as well, I was diagnosed in early december and for christmas well meaning and loving family members brought me diabetic cookbooks and diabetic chocolate - the chocolate went in the bin and it took me 6 months to look at the cookbooks (now i have 6 and use them daily!).

He needs some getting used to it time, blokes are pretty lame emotionally or at least expressing that. I suspect inside he is devastated in his own way. I’d ease back for a few weeks if he has not
long been diagnosed- honestly, the headaches, need to oee all the time and tiredness will eventually force him to face up to it. Its not somethinf you can ignore and it get better, it only get’s worse.

He was diagnosed in January and I know he is struggling with it and I know he is having a hard time processing everything but he won’t talk to me . He is my life but he needs to talk so we can do this together . I’m frustrated just like him but he snaps I try not to snap back but I guess i will have to carry on supporting him the best I can until he talks to me about it . Thank you for finding the time to message.
nicki

 

[grovesy]

Your diabetic nurse/professional should also refer him to a Desmond course they invite partners to attend l- its supported by diabetes UK. Its helpful, I’d go along if offered, or,’google it and try and sign up for one, they are free

Not all areas provide the Desmond Course.

 

[Nickibb]

Not all areas provide the Desmond Course.

I will check thank you
Nicki

 

[Leadinglights]

Not all areas provide the Desmond Course.

But there probably is something similar in your area if not.

 

[grovesy]

I will check thank you
Nicki

Some areas offer course with differnt names.

 

[Nickibb]

Yes I have just heard that a friend who I though had well controlled diabetes can now hardly walk because of pain in his legs, sobering thought.

That’s awful

 

[Nickibb]

But there probably is something similar in your area if not.

Thank you

 

[Ditto]

Thank you , do you get easily frustrated ( you don’t have to answer) sorry to be personal.

Did you mean me? I get frustrated because I can't get a handle on my eating or anything at all really. Been at the end of my tether this last fortnight, just going to have to koko, keep on keeping on! 🙄

 

[Nickibb]

Did you mean me? I get frustrated because I can't get a handle on my eating or anything at all really. Been at the end of my tether this last fortnight, just going to have to koko, keep on keeping on! 🙄

Yes my husband seems to get frustrated a lot x

 

[Drummer]

If it is plain ordinary type two then a few weeks of lower glucose levels should start to make a difference - making cauliflower cheese rather than something with pasta, cauliflower rather than rice under a curry, meat and fish without breadcrumbs or other coatings, steak with mushrooms and other low carb stir fry, rather than chips - the low carb options are, in my opinion, the better ones.

 

[Nickibb]

If it is plain ordinary type two then a few weeks of lower glucose levels should start to make a difference - making cauliflower cheese rather than something with pasta, cauliflower rather than rice under a curry, meat and fish without breadcrumbs or other coatings, steak with mushrooms and other low carb stir fry, rather than chips - the low carb options are, in my opinion, the better ones.

Thank you I will make those changes

 

[everydayupsanddowns]

Glad to see you feeling so positive @Nickibb - and he is lucky to have you supporting him.

I am another who gets very grumpy and frustrated with high BGs.

Hope he manages to open up to you about things really soon.

 

[Nickibb]

He has never been a great conversationalist but I’m hoping he starts because this dosnt just affect my husband.
I don’t think he has mentioned it since diagnosed in January . I’m getting to the stage where I don’t say anything about anything because I don’t want my head bitten off . Monitor arrived today and I’m not sure how he will react to that either. I guess time will tell .
Thank you for your support it’s comforting to know that as the partner of someone with this condition I too can get support. Thanks again