Welcome to the forum
@Looloo
Sorry to hear you are struggling
You aren’t alone - lots of people new to the forum are finding things difficult, or overwhelming - and there can seem to be so much conflicting information that it can be hard to know where to start.
One of the big reasons why things can feel so confusing is that diabetes can be very individual, and there is no one simple answer that works for everyone. It’s very much a case of experimenting, and trying things for yourself, to see that works best for you, and what you can sustain long-term.
The two main approaches to diabetes management are weight loss, and trying to eat in a more blood-glucose-friendly way.
One of the biggest questions when trying to get to grips with your diabetes is often ‘what can I eat’ and while there are obvious things like cakes, biscuits, sweets and sugary drinks that you will want to cut out straight away, you might be surprised how much *all* carbohydrate affects your BG levels, including rice, pasta, potatoes, bread, pastry, grains, cereals and many fruits.
Many new members find it can be really helpful to keep a brutally honest food diary for a week or two. Note down everything you eat and drink, along with a reasonable estimate of the total carbohydrate content (not just ‘or which sugars’) in your meals and snacks. It might sound like a bit of a faff, and will involve weighing portions, squinting at the fine print on packaging, and possibly looking up things on the internet, but it will give you a really good idea of which foods are the main sources of carbs in your menu.
Once you can see which meals or snacks are your ‘big hitters’, and where carbs might be unexpectedly lurking, the diary might also suggest some likely candidates for swaps, portion reductions, or using lower carb alternatives (eg celeriac or swede mash, or cauli ‘rice’).
Good luck, and let us know how you get on
🙂