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Tootsle

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New here, experiencing poor care, body shaming texts from DN, declining mental health and motivation. Anyone else ever feel like giving up?
 
Welcome aboard @Tootsle 🙂

I'm afraid that you are one of the unlucky ones in the lottery postcode that is diabetes care. Levels of care vary hugely in different surgeries. I'm fortunate that my DN is incredibly supportive and encouraging, which actually makes it easier to stay on the straight and narrow.

Stick with this forum. You'll get nothing other than positive support and help. No question is considered silly and they are a lovely bunch of people with masses of experience between them.

And yes, I think we all feel like giving up at some stage. This is why I visit the forum, to get positive reinforcement about my diabetic journey. Fire away with any questions you may have
 
Hi @Tootsle welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear you are not getting good support, as someone else has mentioned diabetes support can be patchy dependent on where you live. I think any unsupportive environment can have a materially negative effect on an individual and can lead to a feeling of why bother.

Hopefully you will find this forum more supportive and helpful in dealing with your diabetes. There is a world of knowledge here from people who have all been through the ups and downs of dealing with diabetes.
 
Hi Tootsle, when faced with that kind of "care", spite can be a powerful motivator. I had a patronising "stop eating cakes, you diabetic" phone call and used the fury to make diet changes, stick to them and learn so I could go in with better information and progress than they could offer. Nurse was very red faced at our first face to face meeting and a lot less patronising by the end.

Your DN sucks, but you show them you can do this in spite of them. Giving up only harms you, not them.
 
Hi @Tootsle and welcome to the forum! I'm so sorry to hear you're not receiving appropriate care. As Vonny said, it is indeed a lottery in these matters, but do know that the forum can be here to support you where you need to. If you're unsure about things or have any questions, fire them away down here or you can always call our helpline too (0345 123 2399) - they're a friendly bunch with all the right answers and can discuss things with you when needed.
Would you like to tell us a bit about yourself if you're comfortable with it? Relating to your diagnosis or not at all. We have a diverse group of people, interested in many different things <3
 
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New here, experiencing poor care, body shaming texts from DN, declining mental health and motivation. Anyone else ever feel like giving up?
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I hope you will be able to glean some information and helpful ideas that will assist you in being in a better place with your diabetes management.
Your DN sounds as if she needs some personal skills training as that is appalling. I would put in a complaint to the practice manager.
It is brilliant that you have made the move to come here and I'm sure people will be able to help with any specific questions but it will help to be able to give appropriate suggestions if you say a bit about how you manage your diabetes, what medication, diet and what your HbA1C is if you are willing to share.
 
Hi Tootsle
Very sad to hear what has happened to you, I must admit I have a supportive DN and it must have been very upsetting on what was said to you. As most of the replies tell you it’s a very good forum for information, as I found out a few years ago when I was diagnosed and felt my life will never be the same. I have thought of giving up too at first, no eating chocolate or cakes but as my dietitian said eat less and I must admit you get used to it. Welcome to this great forum and it’s satisfying to be part of a fantastic group.
 
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New here, experiencing poor care, body shaming texts from DN, declining mental health and motivation. Anyone else ever feel like giving up?
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Hi Tootsie ....welcome
Lots of support on here and hopefully you'll meet new friends.
I would report her to the practice manage in writing or face to face via an appointment with him/her...that is just unacceptable and not necessary.
 
Can you print out the messages?
If so I'd advise putting the printouts in an envelope addressed to the practice manager and ask if he feels that sending such messages is appropriate behaviour for a member of his staff.
 
Welcome to the forum @Tootsle
Sorry that you have not been getting the support that you need at present. Very pleased that you have found the forum. There is loads of experience to tap into on here. Any questions that you have - Just ask. No questions are considered silly on here.
 
Hi @Tootsle welcome to the forum, like others extended a warm welcome to the forum
You’ve found the place that can help
another member has probably been going through what you are
you will soon find that out for yourself
 
Hi @Tootsle, welcome to this Forum where you'll get nothing but friendly help and support. It's not great that your diabetic journey has been fraught with negative comments when all you need is support and empathy from your DN. I assume she/he is not diabetic and so does not appreciate how complicated, challenging and frustrating the condition can be. Glad you joined this Forum, we're here for you 🙂
 
Welcome to the forum @Tootsle

Sorry to hear you’ve been left demotivated by the contact you’ve had with your GP Surgery so far :(

Is there another practice you could move to?
 
Hi @Tootsle and glad that you have found this forum. Managing diabetes is challenging enough without negative comments, especially from your healthcare team. Please don't give up. Share whatever issues you are having if you feel comfortable. We won't judge and hopefully some of our members have had similar issues and can provide some help and support. Vent if you need to. We all have times when things are not going well. I found it very helpful talking to people who really get it, living with or caring for someone with diabetes.
 
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