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General offloading - sorry

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Hi everyone,

Haven't been on the board since May - seems I only come on when I have something to complain about and want to offload in a random and pointless manner.

I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes in March, and it took me until about mid May to come to terms with it, and I cruised along for a couple of months and now I'm finding it really hard again. I lost about 3 stone all told, got myself down to 11 1/2 stone, and I'm managing it with diet and exercise. I felt I had moved on, changed my life and everything seemed back on balance until the last couple of weeks. I'm guess I'm getting bored of the diet, family and friends are less conscious of what they eat in front of me now, it feels such a challenge to have to stick to low fat and low sugar. I'm even getting ratty with people that compliment me on my weight loss because I'm finding it hard to maintain and didn't "choose" to do it, if you know what I mean.

I'm not sure why I'm suddenly so sensitive again. I'm even finding myself back-tracking to the denial phase - saying to myself maybe it's LADA and not type 2 because I'm only in my early 30s and the anti-bodies tests is only 80% accurate so maybe I was one of the 20% that is missed and this is just my honeymoon? The clinic wouldn't do a C-peptide when I asked in May because "we don't do those". When I have well-managed Type 2 and no complications, why I am wishing something more complicated on myself?

I feel I've slipped back a few months in coming to terms with things and just want to curl up and feel sorry for myself again. Then I get get frustrated with myself for not dealing with it better and it's a bit a vicious cycle.

Anyway, sorry for the random offload,

Alan
 
It takes a while to come to terms with things, and we all seem to have set backs and retrograde steps from time to time.

Many of us find it helps to come here to off load and share our feelings. I hope you find us helpful and supportive and you feel better.
 
Hi Alan, it is brilliant that you have got your weight down, try to take people's comments as compliments, do you feel any better for having lost the weight? More energy?

It is very normal to feel the way you do for both type 2 and type 1, it is very hard to keep motivated if people around you are not encouraging and eating things you "can't have" while you are around. Do remember though, that allowing yourself a treat every now and again is ok and you shouldn't feel bad about it. You are still newly diagnosed and it is hard to deal with, could you discuss your feelings with your doctor or nurse? they might be able to refer you to a counsellor, it helps to talk to someone regularly about how you feel and getting emotional support is really important when something as life changing as being diagnosed with diabetes happens.
 
Hi Alan, sorry you seem to have hit a bit of a wall :( I think this happens to all of us, especially when we have made that first tremendous effort after the shock of diagnosis, so you're certainly not alone in feeling like this. After 3 years I still have my off weeks, or even fortnights, but I do come round again - and I think the main reason I do is because I get fed up being a 'bad diabetic'! The 'wrong food' starts to quickly bore me, I start to feel lethargic and my moods take a dive, and I feel I want to get back to how I felt when I was being a good diabetic 🙂

We all need a break from the grind every now and then. You should allow yourself a little naughtiness, and you may be surprised how much your tastes have actually changed and the type of decisions you are now making about what you eat. For example, on my birthday I decided I would have a non-diabetes day and eat food that I had avoided throughout the year - yet even with no pressure on myself to eat healthily I still found myself checking the packets and putting things back if they were too high in sat fat or sugar!

In time, I hope you will experience the same kind of change - an instinctive desire to act and make healthier choices - with the odd indulgence because you've earned it 🙂
 
You're doing well Alan, even if that's not what you want to hear. We all feel like that now and again and as the others have said, a little treat makes all the difference. I was a chocoholic before DX, so now I allow myself one small square a day eaten after my lunch and I find myself looking forward to it, LOL. Sad aren't I!
 
KateR said:
You're doing well Alan, even if that's not what you want to hear. We all feel like that now and again and as the others have said, a little treat makes all the difference. I was a chocoholic before DX, so now I allow myself one small square a day eaten after my lunch and I find myself looking forward to it, LOL. Sad aren't I!
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Defo not sad.
You are just normal like the rest of us.
I love my chocolate too,just don't have as much as i used to.
I'm the world champ timewise for how long i can suck a sweet.:D
 
AlanMarson said:
Hi everyone,

Haven't been on the board since May - seems I only come on when I have something to complain about and want to offload in a random and pointless manner.

I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes in March, and it took me until about mid May to come to terms with it, and I cruised along for a couple of months and now I'm finding it really hard again. I lost about 3 stone all told, got myself down to 11 1/2 stone, and I'm managing it with diet and exercise. I felt I had moved on, changed my life and everything seemed back on balance until the last couple of weeks. I'm guess I'm getting bored of the diet, family and friends are less conscious of what they eat in front of me now, it feels such a challenge to have to stick to low fat and low sugar. I'm even getting ratty with people that compliment me on my weight loss because I'm finding it hard to maintain and didn't "choose" to do it, if you know what I mean.

I'm not sure why I'm suddenly so sensitive again. I'm even finding myself back-tracking to the denial phase - saying to myself maybe it's LADA and not type 2 because I'm only in my early 30s and the anti-bodies tests is only 80% accurate so maybe I was one of the 20% that is missed and this is just my honeymoon? The clinic wouldn't do a C-peptide when I asked in May because "we don't do those". When I have well-managed Type 2 and no complications, why I am wishing something more complicated on myself?

I feel I've slipped back a few months in coming to terms with things and just want to curl up and feel sorry for myself again. Then I get get frustrated with myself for not dealing with it better and it's a bit a vicious cycle.

Anyway, sorry for the random offload,

Alan
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Don't worry about off loading Alan, things like this happen to alot of people and your only human feeling that way. Hopefully in time, it will be a bit easier and more managable for you. Don't be to hard on yourself, you have done so well. Give your self a big pat on the back, you certainly deserve it. Take care and best wishes Sheena
 
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate each of you taking the time to respond.

I have to admit I popped to the shops on the way home and bought a 100g bar of 85% cocoa chocolate and polished off about half of it. I also ate 4 penguins one after the other as well. . . but eventually that seemed to do the trick!

I guess it's just ups and downs and knowing I'm not alone feeling like this from time to time. I'm back on the wagon - save the rest of the bar for another time and been sensible today so far!

Thanks again,
Alan
 
AlanMarson said:
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate each of you taking the time to respond.

I have to admit I popped to the shops on the way home and bought a 100g bar of 85% cocoa chocolate and polished off about half of it. I also ate 4 penguins one after the other as well. . . but eventually that seemed to do the trick!

I guess it's just ups and downs and knowing I'm not alone feeling like this from time to time. I'm back on the wagon - save the rest of the bar for another time and been sensible today so far!

Thanks again,
Alan
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Any time you need a boost to your motivation Alan, just holler! 🙂
 
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