feeling abit down.

[Steff]

Unusual for me i know as im normally so bubbley and happy , but god today is one of those days when i just cant get out of a lull, my son came up to me this morning and said mum whats the matter your not smiling i picked him up sat him on my knee and hugged him , he knows when im down you see and always manages to pick me up.One reason i think im down is in the last 2 weeks i have fell out with 2 really good mates of mine and im beginning to think it must be me im a really rubbish mate , 1 is bad enough but losing both of them is abit of a coincidence,1 gal i will never speak to again as she has really really hurt me bad but the other she is the one i really miss she made me laugh out loud with her charisma and beaming smile, I dont know what it is but i pushed them away and now im stuck on my own, sometimes i need to hear a freindly voice but ive gone and buggered that up now , im lost and i feel really alone.. what do i do ?😡

 

[RWJ]

Sounds like you've got a great loving son at least. If your friends are really friends they'll hopefully realise that somedays we do get down and things we say can hurt, but usually we don't mean it. Chin up and if they don't come back were they really as good as you thought. All the best

 

[Northerner]

Hi Steff, so sorry to hear that you are feeling down. I hope that whatever it was that caused the fallout with your friends becomes ancient history soon, and that you are back supporting each other through thick and thin, as true friends do. You're a lovely, sensitive young lady, full of good cheer and support for everyone, but you're bound to feel down in the dumps at times. Try to look at the positive side of things and not to dwell too much on things that cause you heartache - easier said than done, I know.

 

[Caroline]

Hi Steff, I hope you are feeling better. It is rotten when the blues strike and your son sounds an angel so enjoy a big hug with hime when you can.

I fell out with one of my friends too, but I bit the bullett and wrote her a nice long letter explaining things and we made it up. Perhaps the same would work for you? We all fall out with people and good friends make up again.

You also have all of us here, and we want you to feel better.

Silly question (or a personal one?), do you feel worse in the run up to your period?

 

[AlisonM]

My chum Is and I fight like cat and dog, we're both thrawn, carnaptious and strong willed women. But we also have a deep core of friendship that I truly believe nothing can destroy. Like any other relationship though, it took work and a lot of years to get here. Above all we're honest with one another. I'd be lost without her.

You need to decide how much that friendship means to you and what you're willing to do to keep it. Without knowing details, I'd say if you want to keep your friend, say you're sorry if you upset her, you value her friendship and ask if there's a way you can fix things between you. Clear the air and start again.

((((HUGS))))

 

[coldclarity]

Oh Steff, I'm sorry you're feeling so down I really hope things get sorted out between you and your friend soon and you feel better.

(((((Steff)))))

 

[Tezzz]

Hi Steff,

Please don't feel down.

Here are a couple of hugs.....

 

[bev]

Steph, sorry your feeling down. I supect your friends are missing you too - friendship isnt just a one-way street! Why dont you write a letter to the friend your missing? If she cares about you - she will appreciate it and will be very happy that you have held out the olive branch! Your little boy sounds lovely - you have obviously done a great job at teaching him empathy and understanding - well done. I hope this blows over and you get back to your normal cheerful self.🙂Bev xxx

 

[katie]

Hi Steff.

Sometimes when these things happen you have to be the one to give in, be the bigger person and talk to your friends to try and make things right 🙂

Hope you feel better soon xx

 

[Hazel]

Steff - this may be of little comfort right now - but you have been a good 'buddy' to the many people on this forum and we need you

You son sounds like a wee gem

Hope things improve for you soon

God bless

Hazel

 

[Caroline]

having read through all the replies I also feel better too, so I hope Steff is feeling better.

We all get down and work our way through it. It is good to come and get support, and we are a great team here, whether you think of everone as friends or an extended family!

 

[Steff]

ty everone as ever your here and all full of great advice, as for my son oh aye he is a lilttle champ, always around to brighten up my day.I just think sometimes katie that i always am the one who makes the first move and gets it thrown back in my face ,

caroline not this time my period has passed now , ty for the letter idea bev and caroline shall try that one i think if i can get my writers head on

thanks everyone else for best wishes x everyone of you has cheered me up

 

[am64]

ty everone as ever your here and all full of great advice, as for my son oh aye he is a lilttle champ, always around to brighten up my day.I just think sometimes katie that i always am the one who makes the first move and gets it thrown back in my face ,

caroline not this time my period has passed now , ty for the letter diea bev and caroline shall try that one i think if i can get my writers head on

thansk everyone else for best wishes x everyone of you has cheered me up

Glad your feeling better steff your posts and friendship to me as a stranger have been such a help to me, bigs hugs flying your wayXXXX

 

[emmasamduke]

Unusual for me i know as im normally so bubbley and happy , but god today is one of those days when i just cant get out of a lull, my son came up to me this morning and said mum whats the matter your not smiling i picked him up sat him on my knee and hugged him , he knows when im down you see and always manages to pick me up.One reason i think im down is in the last 2 weeks i have fell out with 2 really good mates of mine and im beginning to think it must be me im a really rubbish mate , 1 is bad enough but losing both of them is abit of a coincidence,1 gal i will never speak to again as she has really really hurt me bad but the other she is the one i really miss she made me laugh out loud with her charisma and beaming smile, I dont know what it is but i pushed them away and now im stuck on my own, sometimes i need to hear a freindly voice but ive gone and buggered that up now , im lost and i feel really alone.. what do i do ?😡

hiya steff glad 2 hear ur feeling better, just red all replys and are close 2 tears what a great lot u are chin up girl .😱

 

[tracey w]

sorry you are feeling upset, really am.

others have posted some great advice, i am no one to give advice on friendship etc, since diagnosis i have been quite short with people at times and cannot help it. I think its difficult enough to try an hold daily life together without the added pressure of diabetes, then someone will say something and bang i will give them a piece of my mind.

Hope you sort things with your friends soon, take care xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Proudspirit]

phone friend 2.. or send flowers and tell her you miss her. That would work for me..

 

[Steff]

i deleted her mobi number 🙄

 

[Caroline]

Hi Steff, glad to hear you are feeling better. I know what you mean about being the one who always has to make the first move. If you think your friend is worth it, and you get your writers head on you have nothing to loose.

 

[Steff]

i know i started it last night but kept scribbling bits out and starting again , was like a scene from a movie balls of paper screwed up everywhere lol

 

[Caroline]

i know i started it last night but kept scribbling bits out and starting again , was like a scene from a movie balls of paper screwed up everywhere lol

Why don't you try it on the computer? I use microsoft word or the wordprocessor on the lap top, then I cam come back to it and re word it and put bits in or take them out until I am completly happy with it. You then have the choice of hand writing it or printing it off. I print mine as most people can't read it when I use a pen. I'm realy a frustrated genius...