fed up!

[D_G]

Getting to the point where everything is getting too much again

Blood sugars for the last couple weeks not been the best and having to do corrections and more insulin has lead to a little bit of weight gain which has not helped! Confiddence taken a dip also due to my psoriasis being on show as the weather is warming up....my teeth are just falling apart and I have no money to do anything about them, I know for a fact I need 4 teeth sorted out and I worry what may happen not only this but my mums depression is worsening and I just feel like I have nothing! I have no health, no money, no confidence and a non existant love life it seems!

I'm fed up of being diabetic, fed up of being anemic, fed up of my teeth and weight....oh and to top it all off today I came on (sorry guys)

sorry for the moan and sorry iv not posted in ages

X

 

[Northerner]

Really sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time Nikki If you can summon up the motivation to get a bit of exercise in that can often help with your mood, and also help with reducing insulin requirements and weight. Do you have an NHS dentist? If you were able to travel to Southampton my dentist (who isn't NHS) is really excellent - doesn't do any work that isn't essential, very friendly practice and his charges are similar to NHS charges but he spends as long as it takes - NHS dentists are effectively on piece-work so get through stuff as quickly as they can. PM me if you'd like his number.

Hope your luck changes soon, and that your Mum feels brighter soon too.

 

[Pumper_Sue]

Getting to the point where everything is getting too much again

Blood sugars for the last couple weeks not been the best and having to do corrections and more insulin has lead to a little bit of weight gain which has not helped! Confiddence taken a dip also due to my psoriasis being on show as the weather is warming up....my teeth are just falling apart and I have no money to do anything about them, I know for a fact I need 4 teeth sorted out and I worry what may happen not only this but my mums depression is worsening and I just feel like I have nothing! I have no health, no money, no confidence and a non existant love life it seems!

I'm fed up of being diabetic, fed up of being anemic, fed up of my teeth and weight....oh and to top it all off today I came on (sorry guys)

sorry for the moan and sorry iv not posted in ages

X

Hi Nikki,
sorry to hear you are down in the dumps.
Being anemic doesn't help Is this being sorted if not why not?
Your Mum's depression is she getting help for this and are you getting the help you need regarding your mum? If you are not make your GP aware so a help package can be put in place for you too.
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))
Dentist.... NHS provide a free service for low income or people on benefits.
Even if working you can claim reduced rates depending on income.

http://www.nhs.uk/servicedirectories/Pages/ServiceSearch.aspx?ServiceType=Dentist&WT.mc_id=030901

http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1781.aspx?CategoryID=74&SubCategoryID=74

 

[D_G]

I see from the lack of replies I have been away from the forum for too long

Thankyou alan and sue for the comments I have recently joined a new dentist which is nhs but not yet had my first appointment as it costs almost 20 quid a time and can't afford it this soon! I'm thinking of asking about dental plans and seeing if there is any help I can get but thanks alan for the suggestion what are his proices like?

Sue, thanks for those links when I get home on my computer I will check them out 🙂 I am taking iron tablets for my anemia I was just stating that I wud rather not have it lol seems like I have everything under the sun: diabetes, anemia, syatica and psoriasis to deal with is too much not to mention hayfever flaring up time to time! Just feel so unlucky and I know I'm not the only one I just wish to walk in a healthy persons shoes if only for a day

Hope your both ok and I appreciate ur replies xx

 

[Northerner]

Things have been fairly quiet lately Nikki, so don't think people are ignoring you! 🙂 It's horrible when you have so many things all going on at the same time, especially if you can't enjoy what should be the best time of the year because of your psoriasis and hay fever My dentist charges similar rates to NHS, I usually pay about ?30 for a check up I think, a bit more if he takes x-rays, and I think it was about ?70 -80 when I had a tooth taken out, but that was quite some time ago, before I was diagnosed. Since diagnosis I haven't had any problems so I think it was my undiagnosed diabetes that was causing my problems before.

Are you getting any treatment for your psoriasis? My dad has had that quite bad for the past 20 years or so, but in the last couple of years he's had some amazing success with UV light therapy - might be worth asking your GP about if you haven't already tried it.

Perhaps you can target one thing to tackle rather than feeling overwhelmed by everything? Set yourself one achievable goal and work hard at achieving it - success at something, however small, can give your self confidence a boost 🙂

Hope things brighten up for you soon 🙂

 

[hyper-Suze]

I see from the lack of replies I have been away from the forum for too long

Thankyou alan and sue for the comments I have recently joined a new dentist which is nhs but not yet had my first appointment as it costs almost 20 quid a time and can't afford it this soon! I'm thinking of asking about dental plans and seeing if there is any help I can get but thanks alan for the suggestion what are his proices like?

Sue, thanks for those links when I get home on my computer I will check them out 🙂 I am taking iron tablets for my anemia I was just stating that I wud rather not have it lol seems like I have everything under the sun: diabetes, anemia, syatica and psoriasis to deal with is too much not to mention hayfever flaring up time to time! Just feel so unlucky and I know I'm not the only one I just wish to walk in a healthy persons shoes if only for a day

Hope your both ok and I appreciate ur replies xx

Hiya!
I have been online for a bit but mostly in the pregnancy bit, but the forum does appear quiet tonight so don't worry about the replies...maybe its all men reading who can't relate to the PMT bit!!!!

Anyway, bottom line is, we all get really bad days and I too have put on weight, 2 stone to be exact, I was horrified when at clinic! I've had to go and buy new work trousers in next size up. I got these from Primark as I plan on exercising and getting back down a size, plus everything is expensive so Primark is fine with me!

I think what you need to do is look to do something this evening which will lift your sadness, watch your fave film on dvd, (even tho you mentioned weight, treat to a choccy bar for 1 night!), pop to a mates house for a chat or if your period is annoying you, maybe an early night with a hot water bottle, I assure you (and hope) that things will look different and a bit brighter in the morning.

MAybe your down in the dumps is due to a few things, if your control has lost control/on the rise, this can attribute to feeling down, weight gain can affect confidence and feeling down as can the trusty monthlies.

Sorry to hear your mum isn't well, my o/h has mental health, he has depression and also health anxiety. Yes, the doc needs to be aware of any situation and if you are a carer for her while she is depressed, you need light relief and breaks or it can suck you in too. Please, please be careful of this, is there any other support network you can rely on to care with you for your mum? Some NHS areas run local health promotion sessions and give carers access to free gym passes, swimming passes or aerobic classes. This would give you relief, meet new people(possible new love life) and also free fitness! (I know this because I am a gym instructor who volunteers for such a programme!)

Hope you manage to feel a bit brighter and however you feel, remember to take your meds and rant on here as much as you like...the number of replies isn't a popularlity comp! I joined yonks ago and now back in the swing of it!

 

[hyper-Suze]

Things have been fairly quiet lately Nikki, so don't think people are ignoring you! 🙂 It's horrible when you have so many things all going on at the same time, especially if you can't enjoy what should be the best time of the year because of your psoriasis and hay fever My dentist charges similar rates to NHS, I usually pay about ?30 for a check up I think, a bit more if he takes x-rays, and I think it was about ?70 -80 when I had a tooth taken out, but that was quite some time ago, before I was diagnosed. Since diagnosis I haven't had any problems so I think it was my undiagnosed diabetes that was causing my problems before.

Are you getting any treatment for your psoriasis? My dad has had that quite bad for the past 20 years or so, but in the last couple of years he's had some amazing success with UV light therapy - might be worth asking your GP about if you haven't already tried it.

Perhaps you can target one thing to tackle rather than feeling overwhelmed by everything? Set yourself one achievable goal and work hard at achieving it - success at something, however small, can give your self confidence a boost 🙂

Hope things brighten up for you soon 🙂

In our area, NHS costs ?16/17 for a check up and ?45 if xrays, fillings or extractions

ooh, I forgot to mention about psorisis, again, don't forget that it can get more aggravated if you are stressed and down. So taking into account your current worries, this could make it worse. A friend of mine has this and find it gets better in the summer due to the sunlight and warm weather. That UV treatment sounds it is onto something there!

 

[teapot8910]

Getting to the point where everything is getting too much again

Blood sugars for the last couple weeks not been the best and having to do corrections and more insulin has lead to a little bit of weight gain which has not helped! Confiddence taken a dip also due to my psoriasis being on show as the weather is warming up....my teeth are just falling apart and I have no money to do anything about them, I know for a fact I need 4 teeth sorted out and I worry what may happen not only this but my mums depression is worsening and I just feel like I have nothing! I have no health, no money, no confidence and a non existant love life it seems!

I'm fed up of being diabetic, fed up of being anemic, fed up of my teeth and weight....oh and to top it all off today I came on (sorry guys)

sorry for the moan and sorry iv not posted in ages

X

Sorry to hear you're having a rubbish time at the minute Nikki unfortunately you get times where everything comes at once and on top of D it's a lot to handle. I've recently had a 6 week or so 'blip' but am back on track now and have a date this weekend! (also have a non-existant love life). Don't apologise, we all need to vent at times!

Sending you lots of big hugs xxxx

 

[D_G]

Thanks guys yer i think its all getting on top of me and its a bit overwhelming! doesnt help that its that time of the month and i have the urge to eat everything in sight!! Argh!

Suze, thanks for the advice, im not a carer i dont live with my mum, its a complicated story that i cant explain alot on here...she recently tried admitting herself to hospital and i just cant deal with it all again ( i have had to call an ambulance for her twice before when i was a bit younger) i didnt have a very happy childhood i suppose...at one point we were all living in a safe house but i dont want to go into all that...she is getting help and they are trying to move her so she lives closer to family...not that she has alot and it doesnt help that my sister is still denying her visits to see her own grandchild

as for the psoriasis i have cream for it, uva isnt needed as i have it mildly but still not a confidence booster! especially in the summer months! i just feel i am so young and i dont wanna have to deal with all this...why cant i be like my friends and be happy and not moan all the time i swear that they are all getting fed up of my moaning

 

[shiv]

Hey 🙂

Sorry you are having a rubbish time. Wish I could help! Just to let you know I'm thinking of you x

 

[D_G]

Hey 🙂

Sorry you are having a rubbish time. Wish I could help! Just to let you know I'm thinking of you x

Thank you, that means alot to me🙂 i am hoping to make the brighton meet! im checking out the trains to see if i can afford it as i really want to go! hope your ok too x

 

[Robster65]

Hi Nikki.

Can't really add anything of practical help except to say that anti-D's can cause tooth problems.

I haven't seen a dentist for 2 or 3 years due to lack of NHS and fear of costs. It's not a brilliant system we have.

Hope you can climb out of the darkness soon and see improvements where you can't right now.🙂

Rob

 

[Blythespirit]

Hi D-G,

Only just logged on and this is my first post tonight so I wasn't ignoring you either. You know, when I'm feeling down, thinking no one cares is the first thing that happens to me too. I hope you can see from the replies you've had now that we do indeed care about you and understand how you are feeling. You have a lot on your plate right now and you're right, it's not fair. I hope you can start feeling more positive soon. Take care. XXXXX

 

[bigpurpleduck]

Hi Nikki,

Sorry you're having such a rough time and feeling so down. I completely understand where you're coming from re all the health conditions and feeling too young. I'm partially sighted on top of diabetes (unrelated) and the combination of the two has quite an effect on my life. I feel like I shouldn't have to worry about my eyes, feet & kidneys at 21.

But alas, I do. Sometimes when it all gets too much all you can do is the bare minimum and push yourself through it. Keep taking your insulin, but I'd suggest not worrying about the results of tests for a few days - sounds like you could do with a bit of a break.

Perhaps a visit to your GP may be worthwhile if you've been feeling low for a while. Explain all of the problems you're facing - all your health conditions, weight gain, supporting your mum. He/she may be able to help with some of the issues, but could also refer you to a counsellor. Everyone goes through down times and having someone impartial to talk to about everything can really help. If you don't have a supportive GP, perhaps try your diabetes care team - whatever works for you.

Keep ranting on here too, hun - we're here for you.

((((Hugs))))

 

[shiv]

I feel like I shouldn't have to worry about my eyes, feet & kidneys at 21.

This sentence almost made me cry at my desk. It's so true.

Nikki it would be FAB if you could make it to Brighton 🙂

 

[Dizzydi]

Hope you start to feel better soon and get sorted. It is just god dam awful when you feel out of sorts. xxx

 

[AnnW]

I agree, one problem at a time ... Probably the best way forward.

I was feeling particularly fed up yesterday and happened to see a youngish man striding out on an artificial leg..... It made me think. Not just to feel what rotten luck for him having lost his leg, but admiration for how he was coping. He was wearing shorts almost to say... Look, I'm fine !
It did actually cheer me up a bit.

Hope you feel better soon, prob the time of the month hasn't helped either.

Take care.

🙂

 

[tracey w]

Sorry you are feeling so dowm i hope you feel better very soon, xx🙂

 

[AJLang]

Sorry for my delay in replying to your thread. I completely understand that there are times when it can all feel like it is too much and that life is completely unfair. I've just been throught over two years of worsening sight (including 5 lots of eye surgery), gastroparesis, frozen shoulder in both shoulders together with neck and back problems and several family members dying.............at times I thought that I would never feel cheerful or happy again...........but things do go better, there is light at the end of the tunnel so please do try to remember that soon you will a lot brighter and happier. Take things easier with the diabetes for a short while and try to focus on the fun things that you enjoy - take each day at time, maybe even each hour, but try to build something nice and enjoyable into each day whether it's having a drink, going out for a walk, gossiping with friends/colleagues to whatever you know that you enjoy when you don't feel so down. It does sometimes take a lot of effort to try and enjoy these things when every thing else feels so bad but the more you try to schedule something nice into each day the easier it will get. I'm glad that I got to the end of the dark tunnel and I'm absolutely loving life again.....I know that there will be more difficult times ahead and that I may not always be as positive then....but as much you can try to make the most of the good things that you have.....even when it's something as "small" as waking up in the morning and knowing that you have the opportunity to enjoy another day

 

[Steff]

Hi Nikki sorry to hear things are so rubbish atm hun, dont ever think because of a lack of replies we dont care, its just sometimes of the day are quieter then others,can you not visit your little niece to give you a boost, i know when im down seeing my little niece via skype always picks me up little children dont realise just how good they are at lifting others spirits xx