Did other people feel like this too?

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Hi I went to hospital recently in the early hours for stomach pains and completely by chance was diagnosed with diabetes. I had had no symptoms apart from feeling thirsty at night. I spent 4 days in hospital and am on metformin tablets as well as insulin injections 4 times a day. Im 25 and live on my own and have a good job, great friends and my mum has been so brilliant but for some reason I am just not coping well. One minute im fine, the next in tears sobbing and then getting wound up over the little things. Today was my first day back in work after being off for the easter holidays but all day I have just felt depressed and miserable.
I know that im not pyhsically ill as such but im just thoroughly miserable but I cant explain why. I am having issues with my persaonal life and my boyfriend just broke up with me tonight and my dad and I have have had a strained relationship for a few months I dont get along with my stepmum and even though I made an effort to speak to him after I found out he has not contacted me since my stepmother screamed at me in the street for no reason. I just feel really down and obviously the issues in my personal life are contributing to it all but ever since I found out I have felt different and not in a good way. I find writing to be really cathartic I have been writing a diary which has helped me a little bit.
I just wondered if anyone else felt like this after they found out and does it get better? I feel really silly as well because iv always considered myself to be really strong but this has just knocked me over and because its not something which I can see or is directly affecting me I feel like its not a massive thing and that these feelings are really silly
 
*waves hand in the air* me! I feel like this sometimes. Not as often as I used to but as my levels have gotten better so has my "depression" (sorry its just easier to explain that way). Today - cried on and off all day about everything and nothing - but then my bloods have been high all day which is prob not helping the mess that is my head anyway. I used to write poems when I felt down & now I write a blog (I'm not as good as others are at blogging - I tend to forget to do it). You're really not on your own here and if your on facebook let me know and I'll add you on there too if you like - theres a few of us on there.

Sorry for the essay xxxx
 
Hi Tiffany, welcome to the forum🙂 It's not surprising that you are feeling so low. Coping with a diagnosis of diabetes is hard enough in itself, suddenly having to devote time each day to managing it and getting used to all the ups and downs of it is a big thing. Added to that all the other stresses and you are being overwhelmed. It's a great idea to write things down, and you should also record all your numbers (meter readings, insulin doses etc.) so you have something to go through with your DSN at your next appointment.

I'd really recommend getting hold of a copy of the book Type 1 Diabetes in Children, Adolescents and Young Adults by Ragnar Hanas - this is an extremely well-written book that gives you some great information about every aspect of dealing with Type 1, including the times when everything gets you down.

Please keep writing here, there are many people who will do their best to help and support you, and never feel silly about asking anything - no questions are considered 'silly' here!
 
Hi Tiffany and welcome to the forum, sounds very similier to me im type 2 and just gone onto a injection called byetta im feeling some of the symptoms but even before this i was very emtional going from one day to another with a bag of emotions, it must be doubley hard with all the stress in your personal life and im sorry to hear your relationship with your boyfriend has broken down at the best of times its always nasty to deal with.We will endevour to help you out whereever we can and anything you need to ask just ask people on here are very kind and always want to help.
 
Hi Tiffany

please be kind to yourself. You are bound to be getting waves of emotions right now. You will be getting that from your breakup never mind your diagnosis. Part of what you are feeling is a form of bereavement - you are grieving for the life you had and the life you thought you would live, and there is some confusion thrown in there as to how this will all effect you.

I hope that your DSN is keeping in touch with you - in these early days.

Its fine to get upset and normal - just try not to get upset with yourself for being upset. You may be strong but we all have a point where are coping reserves become depleted - its not a failing its just what happens.

Try to find some time when you do something you like whether that be reading, exercise, a bath. Just time when you can be you.
 
Tiffany,
This is a huge thing that has just happened to you - you wouldnt be normal if you didnt feel down! You may be able to get help from your GP if you think you need professional councelling or similar - but just be re-assured that this is all very normal and you will come out of this phase when things have settled down. Give yourself some tlc and keep writing that diary - you will be able to look back on it in the future and realise how much better you will be feeling.🙂Bev
 
Hi Tiffany....

BIG HUGS!!! You are really not the only one, diabetes is a big thing to take on, you just need some support, the good news is you have come to the right place :D

Everyone here is lovely so have a good look around the site...sure you will make friends :D

I'm 26 and was diagnosed nearly 7 years ago, diabetes is very up and down but so is life and it will get easier...promise.....

S x
 
hi welcome to the forum xxx it does get easier i promise especially as you'll have the support from this forum now xx
 
Hi Tiffany and welcome to the forum.

I am reading a book as recommended on here about the first 12 months of diabetes and laughed at the chapter describing how you really want to believe the diagnosis is wrong. Sounds as if we all go through it and it is normal.

Now you have been diagnosed cut yourself some slack and if others around you can't do the same, come on here because the support on here is priceless. Just reading other threads and learning, learning, learning is helping me cope.
 
Hi Tiffany

Welcome to the forum.

That is exactly how I felt most of the time when I was first diagnosed it does get better though and the days you feel like that are few and far between. It is perfectly normal to feel like you do when first diagnosed after all it is a lot to deal with and if your blood sugars are still all over the place it's bound to make you feel even worse. This site has helped me lots through bad times and I'm sure it'll help you too x
 
Hi Tiffany, welcome to the forum.
 
Dear Tiffany,

Your feelings aren;t silly at all. Diabetes is a stupid, annoying, frustating and sometimes alienating experience. When i was first diagnosed with type two i cried a lot, i felt that somebody had just completely pulled the rug from under me, when i thought i'd just got it vaguely under control (hang on, who was i kidding?). Even Mama Mia! reduced me to tears (and i don;t think it was Pierce Brosnan's singing...). I found that coming here and meeting more people with the same problems as me (or at least quite similar problems to me) really helped me. I can rant and moan when i want to rant and moan and somebody will always reply with sympathy or advice. It's nice to feel that people understand what you're going through. So welcome to our forum, we're pleased to meet you, if you have any questions feel free to ask them, we'll try to help. if you just want to get it all off your chest that's fine too.

Rachel
 
Hi Tiffany,
Welcome to the forum! Your feelings are not silly at all. Diabetes is a big deal. It takes time to take it in and adapt your life around it. Don't underestimate this. We have so much to deal with, unless you've been there its impossible to understand.
My own emotions have been up and down too. I found I was ok initially because there is so much to take in, but a couple of weeks after diagnosis, I hit the wall. It is all part of the process, tho difficult to see it that way at the time. Its a bit like a grief reaction, as in reality we are mourning the life we knew, and trying to adapt to the new normality. But, it really does get better. Soon you'll find you've forgotten about it for a few minutes and then even longer - which can be a real revalation, and that you're back to getting on with your life.
The folk on here are fab - come here often and post loads. There is always someone around who can give support. You have had a lot to deal with recently, you're reaction is entirely normal in the circumstances.
Glodee
 
tiffany,
My advice is this. Treat your diagnosis as a new start.
You now need to live your life in an 'ordered' way, to get the best out of it for yourself.
Noone, other than another diabetic will understand this position; so what, it's your life and it's up to you to make the best of it you can.🙂
 
Thanks so much to you all for your kind replies it has meant so much. I couldnt really put my finger on it as to why I feel so sad all the time iv been on a few benders as well which realy isnt like me I dont usually drink much at all. Obviously the total dickhead I had for a boyfriend didnt help! Although he nows says he misses me. Bloody knob! I apologise as well for my terrible language I have no idea where I get it from but I am really bad for swearing so my apologies if I offend anyone!
I really couldnt understand but someone has just hit the nail on the head. I am grieving for my old life the one I knew before, the one that I liked before I discovered I had this. I have had a good couple of days my mum has been great and Im lucky to have a job which keeps me very busy so it take smy mind of things at least for a little while.
It feels great to be able to talk to people who understand and who I dont really know. I dont know if that makes sense but I want to be able to say things about myself and other people without being judged.
Just wanted to say thanks🙂
 
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Just wanted to apologise I didnt see the message at the top of the screen about bad language before I posted and used some chioce words. I apologise sincereley I didnt think about who might be reading and although not an excuse, I am very new to the boards and hadnt read the rules before deciding to vent it was selfish of me and I can assure you it wont happen again
Thanks
 
tiffany said:
Just wanted to apologise I didnt see the message at the top of the screen about bad language before I posted and used some chioce words. I apologise sincereley I didnt think about who might be reading and although not an excuse, I am very new to the boards and hadnt read the rules before deciding to vent it was selfish of me and I can assure you it wont happen again
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Hey tiffany dont worry its an emtional time hun, ive had numerous wrist slapping in my time on thiese boards xxx:D
 
tiffany said:
Just wanted to apologise I didnt see the message at the top of the screen about bad language before I posted and used some chioce words. I apologise sincereley I didnt think about who might be reading and although not an excuse, I am very new to the boards and hadnt read the rules before deciding to vent it was selfish of me and I can assure you it wont happen again
Thanks
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Hi Tiffany, thank you for your apology 🙂 As you are new and going through a lot I didn't want to come down heavy-handed with you. Use asterisks if it helps! :D
 
just like all the others welcome to the board🙂 at diagnose i had a spell in the hospital and on metforman at the moment tho now the doc is about to give me something else as well.

its like a brevement process at the moment you may have good days and bad this if and when its happens is normal.

good luck on your new journey and dont let the B####r beat you(diabetes)

as a normal rule this is a good site to vent your anger and fustrations:D
 
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