Hi I've struggled with mental health so long am on medication for this half the time I feel ok more than half I feel so anxious about work that I won't do a good job or will get told off for something and I hate to admit it but sometimes it makes me struggle with looking after myself I'm really trying to sorry to moan but just feel need to post this somewhere
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Thanks for being so open and honest with us @corriefan
Stress, anxiety, mood disruption, and depression can make looking after yourself really hard. Especially when you have the feeling that your “brain is full of bees”, or that you are wading through porridge and everything takes a huge amount of effort.
Lots and lots of folks on the forum will understand just what you are going through. You aren’t alone, and we are rooting for you to find ways to get through this tricky patch, and find ways to make things easier.
One of our members @SB2015 shared her experiences of finding ways to cope with diabetes and depression here
Hope it helps you see that you aren’t alone, and that things can improve.
Stress, anxiety, mood disruption, and depression can make looking after yourself really hard. Especially when you have the feeling that your “brain is full of bees”, or that you are wading through porridge and everything takes a huge amount of effort.
Lots and lots of folks on the forum will understand just what you are going through. You aren’t alone, and we are rooting for you to find ways to get through this tricky patch, and find ways to make things easier.
One of our members @SB2015 shared her experiences of finding ways to cope with diabetes and depression here
Hope it helps you see that you aren’t alone, and that things can improve.
silver minion
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Sorry to hear that you are struggling with your mental health. It's fine to post and off load your worries. Are you able to get CBT in addition to medication to help with your anxiety triggers?
I did a CBT course several years ago as I was struggling to cope with recent diagnosis of serious illness in my immediate family which happened at the same time as my redundancy and a stressful new job. It helped me a lot and got me through a very difficult time.
Please look after yourself and don't be afraid to ask for help. There are other people on this forum who live with mental health issues in addition to their diabetes. Nobody will judge you.
I know how you feel i to have stuggered with my mental health have posted on here about it and peeps have been great in suppoting me feel free to post away any thing you say will be supported by peeps are you in contact with mental health services if not ask gp to refer you
Would love to give you a hug will u setal for a verchal one
Would love to give you a hug will u setal for a verchal one
Alan44
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Hi @corriefan Mental health issues, stress, depression can mean different things to different people, but talking about it can help and you have done 100% the right thing to post on here.
Keep posting and as @everydayupsanddowns has said, "you are not alone"
Alan 😉
Keep posting and as @everydayupsanddowns has said, "you are not alone"
Alan 😉
@corriefan struggling with mental health is one issue I do not have to deal with but fully understand your problem. I have worked in a very stressful role for a number of years and understand totally that feeling about not being good enough or making mistakes. It is a horrible feeling and to be honest when it impacted me I really struggled to overcome the problem. Fortunately I had a great boss who both sought to reassure me while making sure that others did not give me a hard time for some small mistakes I had made.
Have you spoken with your manager or team lead to see if they can help you, even some words of reassurance around your performance can be a real boost to the confidence and help you through the difficult days. You should might want to consider rebuilding your self belief. Everyone makes mistakes, but when the odd mistake happens don't panic, assess how material it might be and in pretty much every case you will realise that its not a material issue. If it is a material issue talk to your boss straight away, most bosses I have are happy to help fix things, it makes them look good and as you were up front they are very unlikely to get upset.
I used to support and negotiate multi million pound contracts and I only remember one mistake actually being material and that was down to the supplier not acting in good faith.
Have you spoken with your manager or team lead to see if they can help you, even some words of reassurance around your performance can be a real boost to the confidence and help you through the difficult days. You should might want to consider rebuilding your self belief. Everyone makes mistakes, but when the odd mistake happens don't panic, assess how material it might be and in pretty much every case you will realise that its not a material issue. If it is a material issue talk to your boss straight away, most bosses I have are happy to help fix things, it makes them look good and as you were up front they are very unlikely to get upset.
I used to support and negotiate multi million pound contracts and I only remember one mistake actually being material and that was down to the supplier not acting in good faith.
SB2015
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Hi @corriefan . Very pleased that you felt able to post about how you are feeling.
Whatever it is that causes distress/anxiety it can tend to take up too much of our life, and dominates our other actions and thoughts. I was pleased that people on here encouraged me to get support and to be honest about how I was feeling.
At work, have you spoken to anyone about how you are feeling? It is easy to focus on things that you might get wrong, but can be helpful to identify the things that you are doing day to day that are working. These are easy to ignore, because you take them for granted. A long time ago when I started teaching someone advised me to keep a book of happy moments. Just small things that had happened. I needed to spend time on sorting out problems that had arisen or finding ways to support students that were struggling, but it was also good to recognise the successes from the day. No need to work on those -but good to celebrate them before getting down to the problem solving. I still have the book and it was good to look st when I had times that I felt that ‘everything was going wrong’
You mention that you sometimes don’t take care of yourself as well as you would want to. There is a lot to do in dealing day to day with our diabetes. We will never get it perfect because that is totally impossible, and there are times when we just need to do the basics to keep us ticking over.
Keep posting. You are welcome to have a rant, moan, … The forum is a great place for that.
Whatever it is that causes distress/anxiety it can tend to take up too much of our life, and dominates our other actions and thoughts. I was pleased that people on here encouraged me to get support and to be honest about how I was feeling.
At work, have you spoken to anyone about how you are feeling? It is easy to focus on things that you might get wrong, but can be helpful to identify the things that you are doing day to day that are working. These are easy to ignore, because you take them for granted. A long time ago when I started teaching someone advised me to keep a book of happy moments. Just small things that had happened. I needed to spend time on sorting out problems that had arisen or finding ways to support students that were struggling, but it was also good to recognise the successes from the day. No need to work on those -but good to celebrate them before getting down to the problem solving. I still have the book and it was good to look st when I had times that I felt that ‘everything was going wrong’
You mention that you sometimes don’t take care of yourself as well as you would want to. There is a lot to do in dealing day to day with our diabetes. We will never get it perfect because that is totally impossible, and there are times when we just need to do the basics to keep us ticking over.
Keep posting. You are welcome to have a rant, moan, … The forum is a great place for that.
CliffH
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Have you received any support from psychological therapies professionals? If not, you may want to ask whoever's prescribing your medication (a psychiatrist?) to refer you to your local NHS psychological therapies service.