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Marlene Faircloth

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hi all I'm a newbie and I'm struggling. I was diagnosed in June this year with t2diabetes and I crave sugar even more than i ever did before. I think my mind has just rejected the fact I have diabetes at all. I have no symptoms so I think im ok. I'm really looking for some support. I was treated so badly by a nurse when I first found out I feel really intimidated. Can anyone help me. I need to know how you guys deal with the condition and what were the first changes you made and how. Please say you can help.
 
hi all I'm a newbie and I'm struggling. I was diagnosed in June this year with t2diabetes and I crave sugar even more than i ever did before. I think my mind has just rejected the fact I have diabetes at all. I have no symptoms so I think im ok. I'm really looking for some support. I was treated so badly by a nurse when I first found out I feel really intimidated. Can anyone help me. I need to know how you guys deal with the condition and what were the first changes you made and how. Please say you can help.
Hi Marlene ,welcome to the forum .I suggest if you strongly feel you were treated badly by your nurse you go straight back to your GP . I know some nurses can be straight to the point if you don't follow their advice regarding diet ,exercise etc , this is for our own good , maybe you could tell us if you are on medication .
Try going back to your GP and expressing your concerns if you feel anxious about your nurses appointments , also try get yourself a copy of Type2 diabetes the first year, by Gretchen Becker . you will find this book a valuable tool with living with type 2 . I wish you well for next appointment .
 
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hi all I'm a newbie and I'm struggling. I was diagnosed in June this year with t2diabetes and I crave sugar even more than i ever did before. I think my mind has just rejected the fact I have diabetes at all. I have no symptoms so I think im ok. I'm really looking for some support. I was treated so badly by a nurse when I first found out I feel really intimidated. Can anyone help me. I need to know how you guys deal with the condition and what were the first changes you made and how. Please say you can help.
Hi Marlene, welcome to the forum 🙂 Very sorry to hear about your diagnosis, and particularly sorry to hear that you were treated so poorly by the nurse - that is totally unacceptable :( Don't worry, you will get nothing but friendly, practical help and support here, so please let us know if you have any questions or concerns 🙂

How did your diagnosis come about? Do you test your blood sugar levels at home, and have you been given any medication for your diabetes? You've identified two of the chief problems with Type 2 - it can make you crave sugary things, and often is free of other symptoms. The brain adapts to the 'new' situation of higher than normal blood sugar levels and starts to act as though they were normal, so you're not really aware of them. However, even if you don't have any obvious problems, high or swinging levels can cause significant health problems over time, so it's very important to get things under good control to reduce your risks. The sugar craving is because, even though your levels may be on the high side, your body is not able to use the energy from your food efficiently, so your brain mistakenly thinks you need more. Gradually, the craving will decline as you start to get your levels better controlled, but you do have to be determined and disciplined to overcome the craving. If you really must have something, I'd suggest a square or two of dark, high cocoa-content, chocolate (70% or preferably 85%) as this is relatively low in sugar. Ideally, when you crave something sweet, have something like nuts or cheese instead.

I would recommend reading Jennifer's Advice and Maggie Davey's letter for starters, so that you understand diabetes better (you might like to print a copy off for that nurse! 😱), and also get a copy of Type 2 Diabetes: The First Year by Gretchen Becker. Better understanding will help you to deal with it.

If you haven't been given a blood sugar meter and test strips, I'd highly recommend getting them. Testing your reaction to eating different meals is the best and quickest method of establishing what items in your diet you tolerate well, and what you might need to reduce or replace. Read Test,Review, Adjust by Alan S to understand how this works. The cheapest option we have come across is the SD Codefree Meter which has test strips at around £8 for 50 (High Street brands can charge up to £30 for 50 test strips)

Regarding what to eat - diabetes is chiefly about carbohydrates - bread, potatoes, pasta, rice, sugary items etc. What you are looking for are meals that will release their energy slowly and steadily, and the GL (Glycaemic Load) diet is designed to achieve just this, so certainly worth looking at - The GL Diet for Dummies is a very good introduction 🙂

Diabetes is a serious condition, but with the right knowledge and determination it can be managed well, and you will feel healthier and happier because of your efforts, so it's really worth it! 🙂 Don't overwhelm yourself by trying to make loads of changes all at once, take your time to absorb and understand things, and let us know at any point if you have a question, or if you just want to have a good rant - we'll understand! 🙂
 
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Hi Marlene and welcome to the forum. Its all about taking one day at a time and finding what works for you. Ive been diagnosed for almost 17 months now and still struggle some days, some days are better than others. This forum is great for help and advice and there are some very helpful people on here too. It takes some getting used to, but you will get there.
 
Hello Marlene. 🙂 I'm in denial too, but I read in Reader's Digest diabetic book that is the known first reaction so at least I'm running true to form!

Take it a day at a time. Read lots, watch all the documentaries that seem to be on at the moment, D is very popular at present. 🙂 They scare the wits outta me! If I need a reason to be good I just watch one of them. Horrific. Would put me right off pigging on 4 Weetabix, ice cold milk and 2 tablespoons of sugar! 😱
 
Hello Marlene. 🙂 I'm in denial too, but I read in Reader's Digest diabetic book that is the known first reaction so at least I'm running true to form!

Take it a day at a time. Read lots, watch all the documentaries that seem to be on at the moment, D is very popular at present. 🙂 They scare the wits outta me! If I need a reason to be good I just watch one of them. Horrific. Would put me right off pigging on 4 Weetabix, ice cold milk and 2 tablespoons of sugar! 😱
 
I am only just over a week of being diagnosed. I've gone straight in for a low carb diet as my blood sugars were very high. I've also upped my exercise from my normal 20 minute walk lunch time to 30 minutes plus the odd 5 minutes on my stepper in front of TV.

I don't have sugar cravings now, think shock did it! I did have symptoms of thirst and excessive weeing!
 
Hi everyone and a massive thank you to all who took the time to respond to my first post. I'm truly grateful to you all. I have t2 diabetes but so far I'm not symptomatic and I'm not on any medication either. I still can't get my head around the fact that I have diabetes and I guess that's half the battle. I have had no help from my doctors at all just the diagnosis. As I said before I was treated so poorly by one of the nurses because I have other health issues as well ,she literally said if I didn't take some medication for high cholesterol then I was to literally make a complaint or get lost. So I left feeling really upset . To be truthful I don't really want to go back but I know I have to. I guess I need to read more information and decide where to start. I'm overwhelmed.
 
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Hi Marlene, sorry to hear that they were so unsupportive..... At the end of the day you are the customer & it should be all about customer service. I hop you have options to transfer to another practice.

As for the D, for the most part I don't have any symptoms on a day to day basis..... My meter holds me accountable though & it's a constant nag (in a nice way) to make sure I eat well & don't slip back into a carb laden diet. Believe you me, there are many members of this forum who did not show any symptoms but still received a T2 DX.
 
While they may need to be clear with patients there is no excuse for rudeness and of compassion. When I saw my GP with my symptoms she was a bit cold and just said she would get a blood test and then she had to ring me a day later with results!

I find it helps to either rehearse what you want to say to doctor/nurse or to write it down. I had a little note book with me when I saw the Diabetic nurse for first time and reeled off my queries! She was a bit bemused but answered my questions!

If you feel you are not getting a good service say so in a nice way and if she curtly tells you to complain, say "thank you, can you direct me to the practice manager". Then complain!!!
 
Well I was going to enquire what reaction you'd had from the surgery to your complaint - cos I wouldn't have needed to be told to do that more than once without complying!

Nobody but nobody in this world can force you to take ANY medication. They can only ADVISE you to. They can prescribe it. You don't actually have to have the prescription filled at the pharmacy if you don't want to. I'd rather you didn't - I worry about people flushing unwanted drugs down the loo, if enough people do it then the water supply will get contaminated with God knows what - and I personally never wish to take certain drugs especially not unknowingly in my tea!
 
Hi Marlene and welcome.🙂 Next time you see that nurse, tell her she should be taking tablets for her lack of empathy...there's no excuse for treating people badly, it's incredibly unprofessional.😡 Personally, I've found reading up on diabetes has been an enormous help...and using this forum too. We all need an understanding gang for sympathy and laughs - you'll certainly get that here.😛
 
Hi, Marlene. I'm new as well. The first thing I did was follow the advice of my Nurse, and check out this forum.
The second steps were to follow the initial advice and read Jennifer's Advice and Maggie Davey's letter
I ordered a glucometer, and copy of Type 2 Diabetes: The First Year by Gretchen Becker. I'm still waiting on the GI Index book.
I find the First Year book very good. I think it neither overwhelming or condescending. I'm only up to day 5 in the book, but I am absorbing what I read.
Also having the glucometer makes me feels as though I have some control. Or at the very least I am getting feedback that is objective and feel as though I can make a plan from that.

Good luck!
S.
 
Hello Marlene and welcome to the Forum. As an NHS worker (not a Nurse or Doctor) I find it appalling that you have been treated so badly. At present I am at high risk and have had to make some changes. My GPs and the Lifestyle Nurse were very kind and helpful which is what you need at a time like this. It is bad enough being told you have something like this without unpleasantness to go with it. My GP told me I was eating far too much fruit as, even though it was "naturally occurring sugar", the body still has to process it. She was very nice about it, not telling me off. Also I was very greedy with dried fruit which I suspected was not a really good idea. I did not realise that you also have to watch pasta, potatoes, bread, processed cereals and rice too. The information here is invaluable.

I know there are local Diabetes Support Groups. If there is one in your area maybe you could also get some support there. I don't go to one at present as I feel I should not as I am only "high risk" and am on a prevention course.

You will get a lot of support on here. I am very glad I joined as I find everyone a tremendous help. There are some great recipes too in the food queries and recipes section.
 
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