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Dating us diabetics
- Thread starter Darren w
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It's only a big deal if you make it so! You're a normal bloke who happens to have to take certain actions/drugs to stay healthy. I probably wouldn't mention it on a first date, but by the 2nd or 3rd you will know whether you want to see them again and can introduce the subject gently. Any later than that and it could become the elephant in the room. Good luck! 🙂
I know your question was about using this site for dating, but don't quite see how that would work.
I know your question was about using this site for dating, but don't quite see how that would work.
AJLang
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Hi Darren Please try to not let the diabetes affect you dating. I've been diabetic since I was two and have very rarely been single since I was 16 - I'm now 44. Diabetes does not have to affect having a relationship so I wish you all the best with finding your perfect partner
bennyg70
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Never had an issue - The right woman for you will be very understanding and get as involved as you are in the daily dealings you have.
If you find somone who dosnt "Get it" - Get rid!
The idea of dating another diabetic - I wouldnt rule it out, but I wouldnt go lookign for that specifically!
Get your self on plenty of fish! Highly recommend it! I gave it a try after a string of unsuccessful relationships for various reasons. Went on there to try something different to hitting it off at the pub etc! 2 years later were living together, with a baby on the way! 🙂
If you find somone who dosnt "Get it" - Get rid!
The idea of dating another diabetic - I wouldnt rule it out, but I wouldnt go lookign for that specifically!
Get your self on plenty of fish! Highly recommend it! I gave it a try after a string of unsuccessful relationships for various reasons. Went on there to try something different to hitting it off at the pub etc! 2 years later were living together, with a baby on the way! 🙂
Pumper_Sue
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Hi Darren,
no to the dating agency concept as far as I am concerned.
This is a family forum and there would perhaps be the chance of someone very unsavory joining the forum for the wrong reasons 😱
That aside, being diabetic just means you have a gone wonky pancreas, except for having to inject or pump the life saving insulin you are no different than anyone else 🙂
As LeeLee say's diabetes is only a problem if you let it. 🙂
no to the dating agency concept as far as I am concerned.
This is a family forum and there would perhaps be the chance of someone very unsavory joining the forum for the wrong reasons 😱
That aside, being diabetic just means you have a gone wonky pancreas, except for having to inject or pump the life saving insulin you are no different than anyone else 🙂
As LeeLee say's diabetes is only a problem if you let it. 🙂
Mark T
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I think the diabetes is possibly a red herring in this case.
I know many people who are single and looking for partners. It's not just a diabetes thing and if doesn't mean you are unattractive (but you are not my type 😛).
For the right partner it's unlikely that the diabetes will matter much at all (and if it does, perhaps it's not the right person).
It is a difficult thing to try find the right person. Unfortunately there was too much blind luck and fluke involved for me to give any useful advice 😉 other then "persevere".
I know many people who are single and looking for partners. It's not just a diabetes thing and if doesn't mean you are unattractive (but you are not my type 😛).
For the right partner it's unlikely that the diabetes will matter much at all (and if it does, perhaps it's not the right person).
It is a difficult thing to try find the right person. Unfortunately there was too much blind luck and fluke involved for me to give any useful advice 😉 other then "persevere".
Northerner
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It;s not a stupid idea at all Darren, I do actually know some couples who are both T1 or T2 - some are members here 🙂 However, that doesn't necessarily mean that another Type1 would be good at understanding your diabetes and how you deal with it - there can be some quite conflicting ideas between people which could result in more friction than if only one person had diabetes.
I think that as you grow more knowledgeable and confident about dealing with your diabetes, the thought that it might be a good feature in a potential partner will fade and you will simply be looking for the right partner to share your life with.
I'm presented with a bit of a more restrictive pool of prospective partners, in that it has to be Kate Bush 😉
Steff
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nowt wrong with an age gap r/ship lol, theres a wide variety at the meets really from about 20 upwards to 70 i reckon
Mark T
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Well at the next meeting in London, I reckon the youngest attendee will be 4 and the oldest somewhere in their 60's and probably quite a few in-between.
Lauras87
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If I'm honest, diabetes seems ruin my love life.
My meditag is a huge give away as most blokes ask what it is then follows 20 questions & stupid comments - the best yet, can you catch diabetes 🙄 (didn't think holding hands meant you could catch
things)
I say go to the forum meets, you never know love may happen
My meditag is a huge give away as most blokes ask what it is then follows 20 questions & stupid comments - the best yet, can you catch diabetes 🙄 (didn't think holding hands meant you could catch
things)
I say go to the forum meets, you never know love may happen
Lauras87
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Plenty of fish?? Jesus he wants a relationship not a fruitcake!!!
I had to delete my profile due to the number of dirty messages I got 😱
It's got a reputation between me & my mates as we've all been on it & had horrible experiences.
But it's nice to know it worked for someone 🙂
Lizzzie
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Understand where you're coming from Darren.
I was diagnosed within three months of marrying a hardcore-climbing mountain bloke and coping with me hypoing half-way up a limestone multipitch (not to mention every time I've let the side down since by having a hypo or running out of insulin (we travel a lot) at an inconvenient time or on a glacier or when he just wanted to get *that* route done and needed a belay) brought out a gentle, compromising side to him I never knew he had. I'd have coped somehow if it was him who was diagnosed, but I'm very aware how difficult, tying and frustrating I'd have found it and just how much self-pity I'd have wallowed in at times to be saddled with it.
If your partner has diabetes themselves then sure, maybe there's none of that.
But your diabetic coping is never going to be equal and opposite: it will always feel like one carried the other a bit sometimes (and sometimes in life roles are reversed. My hubby now has depression - not triggered by my diabetes, I hasten to add!) I agree with Northerner, you will rarely cope together, in the same way. The fact you understand their condition better might not always be a good thing, either....
Best find someone who loves and respects you for who you are. Look for a common interest, not a common ailment; Who they are is so much more important than What they are (don't rule out diabetics, obviously!) And you will be amazed how much a caring non-diabetic can come to understand, live and tolerate it with you.
I was diagnosed within three months of marrying a hardcore-climbing mountain bloke and coping with me hypoing half-way up a limestone multipitch (not to mention every time I've let the side down since by having a hypo or running out of insulin (we travel a lot) at an inconvenient time or on a glacier or when he just wanted to get *that* route done and needed a belay) brought out a gentle, compromising side to him I never knew he had. I'd have coped somehow if it was him who was diagnosed, but I'm very aware how difficult, tying and frustrating I'd have found it and just how much self-pity I'd have wallowed in at times to be saddled with it.
If your partner has diabetes themselves then sure, maybe there's none of that.
But your diabetic coping is never going to be equal and opposite: it will always feel like one carried the other a bit sometimes (and sometimes in life roles are reversed. My hubby now has depression - not triggered by my diabetes, I hasten to add!) I agree with Northerner, you will rarely cope together, in the same way. The fact you understand their condition better might not always be a good thing, either....
Best find someone who loves and respects you for who you are. Look for a common interest, not a common ailment; Who they are is so much more important than What they are (don't rule out diabetics, obviously!) And you will be amazed how much a caring non-diabetic can come to understand, live and tolerate it with you.
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megga
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In one way i know what your saying, life would be eiser with someone with D. My Mrs is a saint, and i am a better person for being with her, but sometimes i feel fustrated, foods and when she wants to go for a long walk ect, and then there is the other side, if we go for a night out, she wont drink much and let her self go as she is to concerned i might go hypo ect.
But all relantionships are give and take, and her little faults are over shadowed by the good things.
As for your looks, well i dont bat that way, but if i did, i'd be wearing tight shiny red shorts and stroking your hand lol.
But all relantionships are give and take, and her little faults are over shadowed by the good things.
As for your looks, well i dont bat that way, but if i did, i'd be wearing tight shiny red shorts and stroking your hand lol.
Lauras87
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Megga, you do worry me at times
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