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Christmas

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Libralady

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Just wondered how everyone copes with Christmas and eating with family. My husband is Type 2 has been for several years. he is 76 and overweight mainly stomach. He does not pay attention to diet despite several attempts after yearly blood tests have been too high. He has just admitted he does see the point at his age and he is always hungry and does not want to give up foods he likes. It worries me and each time he has a yearly blood test I worry is this time he is put on insulin and of course they will take his driving licence away until he is stable with no hypos and this would make life hard with no transport.

Our son is 50 and has type 1 since he was 2 years old my husband never really wanted to learn about Diabetes so I had to had no choice. It is not helped by me eating everything and anything after being on a low fat diet for 18 months and waiting gallbladder surgery I lost 4 stone from too low fat and not eating enough due to pain. Now surgery has been done I have gained 2 stone hate myself for this and want to lose it, but no willpower and just don't want to give up eating what I like. We both have other health problems including painful arthritis and what with the cost of living we don't go out that much mainly just shopping and to family sometimes. I know it all sounds a bit of an excuse but it is all so depressing. Going back to Christmas we will be going to family a lot of us I remember what it was like when I had gallstones eating salads all the time even though I liked them whilst other family members ate lovely chillies etc and lovely puddings. I sometimes did not want to go. Sorry for the rant feeling very down at the moment and as I suffer from anxiety and don't sleep well I just find this all so difficult.
 
At least if you also want to lose weight there is no reason why a dietary regime that is a good one for your husband wouldn't be of help to you and then at least you would not be making different meals of have things in the house that he shouldn't really be having.
Have a look at this link as it is an approach that is low carb based on REAL food. https://lowcarbfreshwell.co.uk/
From what you say it is something which needs to be taken seriously.
If you look at some of the meals in the link then you may only need some substitutions for the high carb foods which he is having and still have meals you enjoy.
The website sugarfreelondoner has some great low carb recipes for cakes and puddings as well as other meals which could help with making you feel you are not missing out.
 
I'll still be buying myself some treats this Christmas, just maybe not as many as previously. So far I have a small pack of dark chocolate lebkuchen and a bag of chocolate almond rocks (chopped up almonds in chocolate). Since kids don't eat Christmas cake I'm not making one this year, but I will have some Christmas pudding with nice liqueur cream. And one of my kids likes Mince pies so there will be a box of them and I may have one. I haven't decided what exactly to do about the sides for the dinner yet, usually at Christmas I go all out and make bread sauce (just for me, kids and my partner don't have it) so maybe I'll drop that this year. They like roast potatoes and Yorkshires so they'll still be on the table and I'll probably have small portions of those.
 
Just wondered how everyone copes with Christmas and eating with family. My husband is Type 2 has been for several years. he is 76 and overweight mainly stomach. He does not pay attention to diet despite several attempts after yearly blood tests have been too high. He has just admitted he does see the point at his age and he is always hungry and does not want to give up foods he likes. It worries me and each time he has a yearly blood test I worry is this time he is put on insulin and of course they will take his driving licence away until he is stable with no hypos and this would make life hard with no transport.

Our son is 50 and has type 1 since he was 2 years old my husband never really wanted to learn about Diabetes so I had to had no choice. It is not helped by me eating everything and anything after being on a low fat diet for 18 months and waiting gallbladder surgery I lost 4 stone from too low fat and not eating enough due to pain. Now surgery has been done I have gained 2 stone hate myself for this and want to lose it, but no willpower and just don't want to give up eating what I like. We both have other health problems including painful arthritis and what with the cost of living we don't go out that much mainly just shopping and to family sometimes. I know it all sounds a bit of an excuse but it is all so depressing. Going back to Christmas we will be going to family a lot of us I remember what it was like when I had gallstones eating salads all the time even though I liked them whilst other family members ate lovely chillies etc and lovely puddings. I sometimes did not want to go. Sorry for the rant feeling very down at the moment and as I suffer from anxiety and don't sleep well I just find this all so difficult.

At least if you also want to lose weight there is no reason why a dietary regime that is a good one for your husband wouldn't be of help to you and then at least you would not be making different meals of have things in the house that he shouldn't really be having.
Have a look at this link as it is an approach that is low carb based on REAL food. https://lowcarbfreshwell.co.uk/
From what you say it is something which needs to be taken seriously.
If you look at some of the meals in the link then you may only need some substitutions for the high carb foods which he is having and still have meals you enjoy.
The website sugarfreelondoner has some great low carb recipes for cakes and puddings as well as other meals which could help with making you feel you are not missing out.
Hello and thank you for your reply. Thanks also for the links I will take a look. My husbands recent blood tests were all normal apart from the HBCA (is that the right word) which was the same as last year. I will keep encouraging him but there is only so much I can do. It is sad really as losing weight would reduce is blood sugar help with arthritis and also with his asthma. Hope you have a lovely Christmas
 
I'll still be buying myself some treats this Christmas, just maybe not as many as previously. So far I have a small pack of dark chocolate lebkuchen and a bag of chocolate almond rocks (chopped up almonds in chocolate). Since kids don't eat Christmas cake I'm not making one this year, but I will have some Christmas pudding with nice liqueur cream. And one of my kids likes Mince pies so there will be a box of them and I may have one. I haven't decided what exactly to do about the sides for the dinner yet, usually at Christmas I go all out and make bread sauce (just for me, kids and my partner don't have it) so maybe I'll drop that this year. They like roast potatoes and Yorkshires so they'll still be on the table and I'll probably have small portions of those.
Thanks for your reply. Your Christmas treats sound good. I hope you have a lovely Christmas.
 
Hello and thank you for your reply. Thanks also for the links I will take a look. My husbands recent blood tests were all normal apart from the HBCA (is that the right word) which was the same as last year. I will keep encouraging him but there is only so much I can do. It is sad really as losing weight would reduce is blood sugar help with arthritis and also with his asthma. Hope you have a lovely Christmas

What is his hba1c?
 
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