stig5882
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Hello, I am a newbie here and I joined the forum in the hope that someone can please help us as we are at our wit's end. My partners father who is 82 yrs old has had the worst few months imaginable and it is breaking all our hearts to watch a once very active and friendly man turn into a veritable monster in front of our eye's, sorry....... let me try to explain the events of the last while.....
(1)...March /09 Dad had an eye test that showed 2 cataracts.
(2)...April /09 Operation to remove cataracts
(3)...4 days after operation Dad was sent to Canterbury Hospital for tests and found out that the remaining kidney was only performing at 8% he will have to have dialysis 3 times a week for rest of his life. (sorry, he already had 1 kidney removed due to a tumour 8 yrs ago).
(4)May /09 Dad feels giddy, confused and has trouble making sense of everything so again taken to Canterbury hospital. After further tests they find a brain tumour and refere him to King's Collage Hospital. They decide tumour is non malignant but due to his health they feel unable to perform surgery and prescribe steriods to reduce swelling etc. and say he has to take medication to prevent epyleptic fits.
So after a couple of weeks in hospital Dad is again released and we all are trying hard to get to grips with all that has happened but poor Dad is totally confussed, has lost all his confidence in himself, understandably very depressed and suicidal......
Now along with all his problems is....Mum. (what do I mean by a problem?)
Well, Mum is 82 yrs old and has had Parkinson's Disease since she was 37, she has had 3-4 strokes in the past few yrs and is totally dependant on Dad for everything as the only movement she has is the slight movement in her right arm, she cannot stand, walk, wash or dress herself, on a good day she can manage to feed herself but her mind is a clear as a bell and still manages her banking etc. herself (with Dad's help) Dad has taken her everywhere from Land'send to Jonogroats, they used to have at least 2 holidays a year, belonged to the local Bowl's club and went on long country walks (Dad would push Mum in her wheelchair when she became to ill to manage it with her walking aid's etc.) Now you can understand why he feels so useless?
(5) June /09 ...After all this Dad feels very panicky and confussed one evening and the warden of the flats where they live rang us to say she had phoned for an ambulance as she was very worried. After another hospital admittence we find he has diabetes and needs to be injected with insulin twice a day............Now we have had a diet sheet pertaining to his kidney failure and a diet sheet for his diabeties but Dad is having real problems understanding about the amounts of food etc. and we keep finding him stuffing any food he can find down his throat as he is so hungry all the time.
PLEASE can anyone tell us what he should & shouldn't be eating, also the approx ammounts he is allowed as he is eating enough cereal for 3 men every morning and because they are so called *allowed foods* he can't understand why he cant have 3 weetabix, a bowl of shreddies & a bowl of porridge for his breakfast.....we are at our wit's end.......
(1)...March /09 Dad had an eye test that showed 2 cataracts.
(2)...April /09 Operation to remove cataracts
(3)...4 days after operation Dad was sent to Canterbury Hospital for tests and found out that the remaining kidney was only performing at 8% he will have to have dialysis 3 times a week for rest of his life. (sorry, he already had 1 kidney removed due to a tumour 8 yrs ago).
(4)May /09 Dad feels giddy, confused and has trouble making sense of everything so again taken to Canterbury hospital. After further tests they find a brain tumour and refere him to King's Collage Hospital. They decide tumour is non malignant but due to his health they feel unable to perform surgery and prescribe steriods to reduce swelling etc. and say he has to take medication to prevent epyleptic fits.
So after a couple of weeks in hospital Dad is again released and we all are trying hard to get to grips with all that has happened but poor Dad is totally confussed, has lost all his confidence in himself, understandably very depressed and suicidal......
Now along with all his problems is....Mum. (what do I mean by a problem?)
Well, Mum is 82 yrs old and has had Parkinson's Disease since she was 37, she has had 3-4 strokes in the past few yrs and is totally dependant on Dad for everything as the only movement she has is the slight movement in her right arm, she cannot stand, walk, wash or dress herself, on a good day she can manage to feed herself but her mind is a clear as a bell and still manages her banking etc. herself (with Dad's help) Dad has taken her everywhere from Land'send to Jonogroats, they used to have at least 2 holidays a year, belonged to the local Bowl's club and went on long country walks (Dad would push Mum in her wheelchair when she became to ill to manage it with her walking aid's etc.) Now you can understand why he feels so useless?
(5) June /09 ...After all this Dad feels very panicky and confussed one evening and the warden of the flats where they live rang us to say she had phoned for an ambulance as she was very worried. After another hospital admittence we find he has diabetes and needs to be injected with insulin twice a day............Now we have had a diet sheet pertaining to his kidney failure and a diet sheet for his diabeties but Dad is having real problems understanding about the amounts of food etc. and we keep finding him stuffing any food he can find down his throat as he is so hungry all the time.
PLEASE can anyone tell us what he should & shouldn't be eating, also the approx ammounts he is allowed as he is eating enough cereal for 3 men every morning and because they are so called *allowed foods* he can't understand why he cant have 3 weetabix, a bowl of shreddies & a bowl of porridge for his breakfast.....we are at our wit's end.......
