Hello,
My partner has been diagnosed with diabetes quite late in life and is finding it hard to control his bloods... he frequently feels depressed and I am left feeling helpless to make him feel any better....Any suggestions? I really want to do something to help him but I have no idea what to do.... Thanks.
Hi and welcome LB,
You don't say what type of diabetes your partner has, or how it is controlled, or indeed for how long he's been diabetic.
Diabetes is a shock to many, if not all of us when diagnosed, it appears to mean we have to stop doing so much of what we've spent our life doing because we enjoyed it and had the freedom to do it. Diabetes doesn't stop us from doing everything, but we need to do things in moderation and be more controlled.
Your diabetes care team should be able to assist you as Steff suggested, often the GP isn't the best person to care for the day to day aspects of diabetes, your practice nurse who specialises in diabetes may be better able to support you, as to may a dietician.
However, nearly all of these professionals are text book diabetics, they know what we should do and shouldn't do, but they don't always appreciate or understand some of those things are hard or may not work.
Diabetes management is a team effort and part of that team is you and your partner, you need to make changes to your lifestyle to help them with theirs. In it together, you have to face the mood swings and anxiety, well you should understand how thinks are working or not working in your partner. If your partner is in agreement for you to join in all or part of the appointments with various members of his support team you can both learn, understand and adapt together.
You're in a good place to let off some steam, and to discuss how you feel and what you see. If you can get your partner to join, either under the same account or even under an alias
😉 then he can share his experiences with a bunch of people and I'll bet you a few here have been where you both are!