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Annual Review

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My son went for his annual review today. I don't actually know anything. He won't tell me his HbA1c so I suspect that means it's bad. It was 12.3 a month ago, 12.8 the month before that, and as I haven't seen any change in his insulin usage, I don't suppose it's much different.

However, the one really positive thing to come out of it was that the psychologist sat in on the main session. He is now going to see him early January, and has told him he has quite an intensive plan for him. For a start he will see him weekly, for a month or two, then as things hopefully start to improve he will pull back a little, but expects to be seeing him for at least 6 months.

Yessssss! At last.

I know I am treating this like a lifeline, but my lad did seem to like the chap, so that in itself is something. There is other stuff now going on at home now too (husband has decided he wants separation after 25 years of marriage) so my lad will need all the support he can get at the moment. He has made the team aware of our current situation, maybe that's what swayed it, but I have been asking for help for him way before this all kicked off.

My lad also seems keen on a certain young lady all of a sudden........... so watch this space! She has her own health issues and he is very sympathetic to her situation, and they have discussed their respective conditions, so I see it all as positive. It's also made him realise that though he may think he has problems, others can be just as bad, or even worse.

I think over the next few days a bit more information with trickle out, it usually does. We will get all his blood and urine test results in a letter in a couple of weeks.

So fingers crossed everyone, I really am hoping January brings the breakthrough I have been hoping for.

Tina
 
That does sound positive Tina. I really hope that this can turn things around for him - both the sessions with the psychologist and the young lady! 🙂

I am very sorry to hear about your other problems though, and hope that you are OK.
 
Oh good - and Oh heck, Tina {{{Hugs}}}}

Been there done that. Survived.

Can't give anyone else advice on the subject, but I can certainly offer empathy.

Hope everything goes Ok for your son. And indeed, for you.
 
Thank you both of you for your kind comments. Yes, I am a survivor, so I will be fine. Very messy and unsettling at the moment, but my lad will stay with me, hopefully in the home we currently live in.

It's actually bringing us closer together, though sometimes there are flare-ups, but today was a classic example of togetherness. My husband always goes up in the loft for the Christmas tree and decorations, but of course this year he didn't. I just mentioned to my lad this morning that Christmas will go ahead no matter what, and if need be I would go and buy a small Christmas tree and cheap decorations, but he offered to have a go at getting in the loft for me. He admitted he has a real fear of heights, and spiders, but got on the ladder all the same, went up in the loft and brought it all down.

We then spent a lovely hour together sorting out the tree and the lights, and shared a nice lunch together. We have also invited a close family friend, the childrens' Godmother down for Christmas which she has accepted, so actually we are all really looking forward to it now.

Of course my son may want to go out and visit his new ladyfriend........!
 
Wow, Tina...really glad to hear the positives about your son, and so, so sorry about your troubles. I don't know what to say other than that from everything you've said to date, you sound like an amazing, loving & strong person & whatever life throws at you all, your son has an awesome rock & anchor in you. For what it's worth, we're here for you. Xxxx
 
Hi Tina. What a roller coaster. Good about the psychologist and the girlfriend, sorry about everything else. Hope your Christmas is the start of things getting better! x
PS My sister's son was on a bit of a downward spiral until he got a girlfriend 6 months ago (he's the same age as your boy, and his dad left last year, also after 25 years). The girlfriend has been a huge force for good ... He is now miles happier and working harder at school 🙂
 
Thank you all for your lovely support. Despite all the problems, there are quite a few positives in life at the moment. My lad has settled into college life really well and has in fact in the last week fully passed his first level of Accountancy exams, AAT level 2. After the dismal AS levels last year (all Us) to pass this with no problems whatsoever (6 exams in total and passed all first time) has been a great relief both to him and me. He is loving college life. He is in a class of mixed people, ages, sexes, nationalities, and is really enjoying it. They meet socially as well as at college, and once a week tend to either go out for a meal and a drink or two, or go to the cinema.

He still has his two closest friends from school days at home who he goes out with (at different times) and he also has a social group of ex-6th formers he meets up with from time to time too. Then there are his work crowd from his weekend job, so he is Mr Sociable. The only slight worry in the back of my mind is alcohol. He is almost 18, his 2 closest friends have already turned 18 so are out buying beers etc on a regular basis, and of course his college friends range in ages from 16 to 29. He did go on his works Christmas do just over a week ago, and a lot of alcohol was consumed. I slept with my door open and peeked in on him a couple of times (he would kill me if he knew) but though he was very chatty, he was ok. He claimed to have drunk absolutely loads, beers, spirits, the lot. How much he did drink could have been seriously exaggerated though. Still, we got through that, just have to survive his 18th now!

So, life goes on, and Christmas is just on the horizon. I am trying to get my head into gear over it - this time next week it will nearly be all over again - bah humbug!!! Life is certainly never dull anyway!

Tina
 
Hi Tina.

Just to add some inadequate words of support.

I hope new beginnings can bring you and your son closer. And it may help him to open up with his emotions. I hope so. And that his new friend can persuade him that insulin isn't so bad after all.🙂

Rob
 
Hi Tina

Sorry you have been dealing with some difficult problems - I can hand on heart say you'll get through it as I and many others have, you have a lovely positive approach which is half the battle.

Sounds like your son is beginning to get the support he needs and hopefully 2013 will be a new start for you both 🙂🙂

With very best wishes xx
 
Sounds like he's turning the corner - slowly. I'm glad to hear he's at last getting help from a psychologist (fingers crossed it will help).

And well done passing those exams 🙂
 
See if he wants to invite girlie over for Xmas or Boxing Day tea?
 
Tina Hi -what a lot on your plate but at least there are some positives on it too!!! well done for the exams and maybe this girlie will change his outlook on things- everything crossed for you
 
Hi Tina, just catching up. I sincerely hope your boy is turning the corner and is coming out good at the other end. All your hard work is coming up good.

Sorry to hear about your separation, I can't offer any words of advice so im just sending you my love and hugs xxx
 
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