Hello everyone,
I hope I have put this message in the right place as i have not joined a forum before!
I am 32 and my partner is 33 we have two children together 2 and a half and six months. He has had type 1 diabetes since he was six years old.
He has never really looked after himself particularly well in that he doesnt do blood tests unless he is asked and then only reluctantly. Before we had children he didnt even have a testing machine. He only goes to diabetic appointments if i make him go and he always underplays the severity of his hypos. He has hypos where he needs intervention and he is unaware whats happening at least twice a month on average, mostly during the night. He has never been offensively aggressive until this week but he is often very defensively physical when we try to give him sugars and he seems to have superhuman strength during these episodes. he gets annoyed if i tell anyone he has diabetes and he never tells me about hypos at work when they happen, or his parents house or anywhere. basically he seems to always be in some state of denial.
Last sunday the hypos went to a new level, he woke me by grabbing me by the hair shouting bi**ch and punching me in the head repeatedly. I couldn't get through to him or stop him and he severely beat me. I thought i was going to die and all i could think was to keep him away from the children, the youngest had been sleeping in the bed next to me and she also took a knock though thankfully she is fine. i managed to get away, unlock the front door and bang on our neighbours door which is right next door, i think the cold air may have have brought him round to some extent because he seemed to realise then that he was low and something was happening. by this point i had had punches all over my head and large clumps of hair ripped out where he was grabbing me. fortunately our 2 year old didnt wake up when all this happened because i was screaming for help and he was punching me, no idea how we could ever explain that if she had seen it.
anyway he was mortified when he came round and realised what had happened and we have had to deal with social workers etc as me and the baby were taken to hospital. they are not carrying on with us as they are satisfied it is not domestic violence which it isnt. in his normal life he is kind and gentle and not at all aggressive. he says he can never forgive himself for what happened. he says he will change his attitude to diabetes and testing etc but already 4 days later he was set to go out to work after skipping breakfast this morning if i didnt make him come back and eat something.
i guess im just asking if anyone else has experience of this aggressive behaviour? or the denial of having the condition? im scared to go to sleep next to him now and scared for our childrens safety too. i know it wasnt him that did that but it was so frightening i really felt i was going to die.
I hope I have put this message in the right place as i have not joined a forum before!
I am 32 and my partner is 33 we have two children together 2 and a half and six months. He has had type 1 diabetes since he was six years old.
He has never really looked after himself particularly well in that he doesnt do blood tests unless he is asked and then only reluctantly. Before we had children he didnt even have a testing machine. He only goes to diabetic appointments if i make him go and he always underplays the severity of his hypos. He has hypos where he needs intervention and he is unaware whats happening at least twice a month on average, mostly during the night. He has never been offensively aggressive until this week but he is often very defensively physical when we try to give him sugars and he seems to have superhuman strength during these episodes. he gets annoyed if i tell anyone he has diabetes and he never tells me about hypos at work when they happen, or his parents house or anywhere. basically he seems to always be in some state of denial.
Last sunday the hypos went to a new level, he woke me by grabbing me by the hair shouting bi**ch and punching me in the head repeatedly. I couldn't get through to him or stop him and he severely beat me. I thought i was going to die and all i could think was to keep him away from the children, the youngest had been sleeping in the bed next to me and she also took a knock though thankfully she is fine. i managed to get away, unlock the front door and bang on our neighbours door which is right next door, i think the cold air may have have brought him round to some extent because he seemed to realise then that he was low and something was happening. by this point i had had punches all over my head and large clumps of hair ripped out where he was grabbing me. fortunately our 2 year old didnt wake up when all this happened because i was screaming for help and he was punching me, no idea how we could ever explain that if she had seen it.
anyway he was mortified when he came round and realised what had happened and we have had to deal with social workers etc as me and the baby were taken to hospital. they are not carrying on with us as they are satisfied it is not domestic violence which it isnt. in his normal life he is kind and gentle and not at all aggressive. he says he can never forgive himself for what happened. he says he will change his attitude to diabetes and testing etc but already 4 days later he was set to go out to work after skipping breakfast this morning if i didnt make him come back and eat something.
i guess im just asking if anyone else has experience of this aggressive behaviour? or the denial of having the condition? im scared to go to sleep next to him now and scared for our childrens safety too. i know it wasnt him that did that but it was so frightening i really felt i was going to die.
What contact has he had with his diabetes team since this happened? If he really wants to turn things around in order to ensure that this is never repeated then he needs to get lots of help coming to terms with his diabetes and learning how to get much better, and safer, control of his blood sugar levels. If he drives then he is potentially breaking the law if he does not test before driving.
