A new update on mom

[Northerner]

No good news, I'm afraid. They are keeping mom asleep, for the moment. Her blood pressure is really low and she is now on heart meds. She might have to go on dialysis. Consultant said she is very poorly, infact critical. I really don't know what to think or expect.

J hope that things are looking better in the morning, and that you are able to get some rest tonight.

 

[ukjohn]

Spiritfree

I'm sorry to hear your news about your mums situation, the only thing I can say is that my prayers and thoughts are with you and your familyand of course for some improvement by the morning. Easily said I know, but try and get some sleep yourself.

John.

 

[margie]

If the Drs said that your Mum needs ICU for a long time - then she will probably be kept a sleep for a while. The relative I mentioned earlier was kept asleep for about 5 weeks. Its really hard not knowing what will happen, as you asked for prayer yesterday, maybe praying would help you now ?

 

[Twitchy]

Thinking of and praying for you, your mum & sister. Xxx

 

[Flutterby]

Sorry, Spiritfree, I've only just seen all this. I am so sorry for you and your family and you are in my thoughts at this time. Lots of love, Karen.x

 

[shirl]

Hi Spiritfree,

Have you had any news of your mum today? I have been praying for you and your family. I do hope that there has been some improvement no matter how small,

You are in my thoughts and prayers,

Take care,

Shirl

 

[spiritfree]

Hello all. No good news at all I'm afraid. We've been told that tha chances of mom recovering is almost zero. She now has tubes, into her neck, doing something to her kidneys. She is still sedated and the consultant said she would be very distressed and in a lot of pain if she was woken. I know she is terrified of dying. The general thought is to withdraw life support and medication and leave her sedated to slip away peacefully. I have not seen her since the operation. My sisters have and say she looks like a little frail old lady, That is not the mom I want to remember, She used to be really glamerous. I still struggle with how dad died, 4 years ago. I sat and held his hand. It was horrific and I am still having counciling for that. I really can't do that again. Please don't think I'm selfish.

 

[shirl]

I'm so sorry to hear your news Spirit, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care,

Shirl

 

[Northerner]

You must do what is right for you spiritfree, I am sure your Mum would not want to cause you such distress, so please don't feel guilty. If she is sedated then she wouldn't be aware of your presence, and I imagine she would want to be remembered at her best, not as she is now.

 

[Twitchy]

Dear spiritfree, i am so so sorry. I think what Northerner has said is spot on - i know if it was my kids in your place i would understand & not want them to be distressed. Thinking of & praying for you & all your family at this terribly difficult time. Xxxx

 

[Steff]

Spirit so sorry they has been no positive news for you and the family x
Alan is right in what he says YOU need to deal with it your way and no one on here will see you as selfish neither should your family members come to that hun xxxxxxx

 

[cherrypie]

Dear spiritfree,
Nobody wants to watch their parents gradually slip away and I can understand fully why you cannot bring yourself to see Mum. Too many painful memories of when Dad died and nobody is fit to judge your decisions. It is not uncommon for people to prefer not to so please do not beat yourself up about it.
Memories are what helps us at times like this so try and think of all the good times you have had with Mum.
Thinking of you at this sad time. xxxx

 

[sally43]

So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you. x

 

[spiritfree]

It's just gone midnight and the hospital has rang and told us mom has taken a turn for the worse. We hope to be able to go over there tomorrow. However the nurse will phone us during night if she is getting near to her d****. I am going to see her if I can and give her a last peck on the cheek and put some flowers to put on her. I feel like I am living a nightmare. I live in the same lane as her. I can see her house out of my window. I have always seen mom and dad every day of my life. Sometimes I think it is worse because of us all living so close.

 

[Twitchy]

Hello Spirit - I think you are very brave, and your mum would be very proud of you. I know this situation is so so hard, I just hope you know there is so much love, good wishes and prayers surrounding you from us here on the forum. You will survive this, I know from experience how hard it is but just get through one day at a time - just keep going & know we're here for you.

With love, twitchy xxxx

 

[Northerner]

Have courage spiritfree, our thoughts are with you.

 

[margie]

I feel like I am living a nightmare. I live in the same lane as her. I can see her house out of my window. I have always seen mom and dad every day of my life. Sometimes I think it is worse because of us all living so close.

Dear spiritfree - I can feel the pain in your posts. I think you are stronger that you think. I hope that you and your family members can draw together for support. Don't be afraid to accept help that is offered as it will give you some breathing space to deal with what is happening.

I hope that your Mum had a peaceful night and that you managed to get some sleep.

{{{{ spiritfree }}}}

 

[vince13]

We've been away for a couple of days and I've only just caught up with your thread here. I can only add my own thoughts and prayers for you, your mother and your family at this difficult time.

If it's time for your mother to pass on, I pray she has a peaceful end and that you can get to see her to say your goodbyes.

Keep strong and look after yourself. God bless.