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A new update on mom

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spiritfree

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Tonight mom has gone for major surgery. We have been told that she probably won't survive it. If she does she will be in intensive care for a long time. I feel really muddled up. My thoughts are all over the place. Please say a prayer for her tonight.
 
My thoughts are with you, and I hope that the operation goes well for your Mum {{{spiritfree}}} Take care my dear.
 
I am so very sorry, I am thinking of you all. Be kind to yourself tonight xxx
 
Keeping you in my thoughts at this difficult time xxx
 
Thoughts and prayers are with you; your mother and your family. Take care x 🙂
 
Thoughts and prayers spirit with you at this difficult time xx
 
Thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time Spiritfree, and may god through his strength guide the surgeons through their work.
 
Our thoughts & prayers are with you & your family. xxx
 
Sending good wishes to you and your Mum Spirit. (((((((((hugs))))))
 
wishing your mum (and you) all the luck and strength in the world. I hope you can give us good news next time you are here.

We are all thinking of you. xx
 
It is no wonder that you are muddled. You're going through a very tough time and do not know what the outcome will be.
We are all rooting for you and you are in our prayers and thoughts.
Take care. xx

Maisie.
 
Thank you for your kind replies. Mom has had 10 hours of surgery, 7pm last night 'till 5am this morning. The consultant said she held up well during the surgery. However she is being kept asleep this morning and is on a ventilator. However he said we must still be prepared for worst outcome. To look at her, she is so frail, but to get through 10 hours major surgery she must be very strong. She had veins taken out of her leg to use for a mesenteric bypass. She had the same operation, around 6 years ago but plastic veins were used. These have gone nasty and caused the problem she has now.
I don't know much about these things, but is a ventilator the same thing as life support? I will keep you all posted.
 
spiritfree said:
Thank you for your kind replies. Mom has had 10 hours of surgery, 7pm last night 'till 5am this morning. The consultant said she held up well during the surgery. However she is being kept asleep this morning and is on a ventilator. However he said we must still be prepared for worst outcome. To look at her, she is so frail, but to get through 10 hours major surgery she must be very strong. She had veins taken out of her leg to use for a mesenteric bypass. She had the same operation, around 6 years ago but plastic veins were used. These have gone nasty and caused the problem she has now.
I don't know much about these things, but is a ventilator the same thing as life support? I will keep you all posted.
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Glad to hear that she has come through the surgery 🙂 Not sure if a ventilator is classed as life-support, it may just be to help her with her breathing and conserve her strength. Wishing for the best possible outcome {{{spiritfree}}}
 
It sounds like your mum is doing well - i know it's horribly scary for the family when someone you love is in icu or on a ventilator but i guess the plan is to give her body the best opportunity to recover strength before they let her come round - kind of an enforced bed rest as it were? Hope you are feeling ok in yourself & taking care of yourself too. Thinking of you often, Twitchy xxx
 
I am sorry that I didn't see this till now.

Seeing someone in ICU is really scary - this must be really traumatic for you all. The ventilator will be doing your Mum's breathing for her.

When a relative was in ICU the staff knew that recovery would be slow and that long term ventilation would be necesary - so they did a tracheotomy.

Your thoughts are probably all over the place - most hospitals have a chapel which may help you. If you feel that talking to the chaplain yourself or a visit from the chaplain will help then have a word with the staff and they should be able to arrange for a visit.

I don't know what faith you are but if your Mum is a Catholic - call a priest(if you haven't already done so) - for the sacrament of the sick.


Sending you hugs {{{{}}}}
 
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A ventilator can be used as life support in cases where a person can't breathe without support, but can also be used to give a person a chance to rest, as breathing takes energy.

A tube into a tracheostomy (hole in throat) is more comfortable than a tube through nose or mouth and down the throat, which causes gagging when a person regains consciousness. Often they are kept unconscious for their own comfort, then brought round when anaesthetists, nurses, other staff and family feel the time is right.

ICU are scary places, so don't be afraid to ask staff what is happening, what pieces of equipment do, how your mum is responding etc.
 
Thanks everyone. I have not been over to see mom, as the nurses have advised against. She is still asleep and would not know we were there. My sister has gone to see if she can get any information on what is going on. The hospital is clsed to visitors as it has the sickness & diarreah, winter sickness bug.
 
Hospitals sometimes have different visiting arrangements for ICU (ie round the clock rather than an hour here and there) - so even though visitors are not generally being allowed ICU might be an exception.

I hope that you sister hears some good news.
 
No good news, I'm afraid. They are keeping mom asleep, for the moment. Her blood pressure is really low and she is now on heart meds. She might have to go on dialysis. Consultant said she is very poorly, infact critical. I really don't know what to think or expect.
 
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