So annoyed and upset

[Tina63]

Oh Oliver, I feel so sad for you. My own son (17) goes mad that I want to be so involved in his diabetes. I just want to make sure he keeps as well as he possibly can, and find it heartbreaking you are not getting any support at home.

As a parent I felt so overwhelmed at the start, so being the actual young person with diabetes I can only imagine how hard it must be.

Seriously though, this forum really saved me in the early weeks and months. I have learnt so much about diabetes, and when I have felt low these wonderful people have lifted me. Please, if you feel you can't talk and get any support at home, please keep posting on here. People really do care and understand and offer support. I know it's not the same as having someone give you a real hug and let you let go of some of your emotions, but it really is theraputic being able to 'sound off' when you feel sad/angry/confused and getting some response.

It's so good that you have recognised the need to get some proper help and hopefully your diabetes nurse will come up trumps for you. If you possibly can, try and explain how you get no support at home and how low you feel, and you really need as much support from the diabetes team as they are prepared to give you. Admit you hadn't taken it seriously in the past but that you now want to change. If they are worth anything, they will only want to help you. And don't worry if you get emotional, they have seen it all before. It is a massive thing to deal with, but with the right support and help you will start to get things properly under control and that in turn will make you feel so much better, both mentally and physically.

Sending you lots of love, and hope things go well at your appointment.

Take care.
Tina

 

[Oliver1992]

Thanks Tina feeling little bit better today as it a new day , just wanna sort my diabetes out and be happy . Hopefully when gl the hospital il get help just I'm not the sort off person tell my feeling face to face to nurse tho I just let it build up

 

[Newtothis]

Thanks Tina feeling little bit better today as it a new day , just wanna sort my diabetes out and be happy . Hopefully when gl the hospital il get help just I'm not the sort off person tell my feeling face to face to nurse tho I just let it build up

Hi Oliver, just remember your diabetic nurse will become your best friend on your journey - she is there to advice, support and most of all listen - I promise that once you've got your emotions off your chest you will feel a whole lot better; he/she won't judge you. Keep posting on this site; we're all here to help. Take good care of you and throwing you a hug {{ }} Amanda xx

 

[tomtat]

Hi Oliver, Can't offer much help with the diabetes, only found out a month ago that I had it but I do know what it's like to feel lonely & depressed & my heart goes out to you. Have you a good friend you can share with? Sometimes they're better than family, not so critical.In the end, you're the most important person so don't worry about anyone else, just yourself. Sending you a big hug via the e waves x

 

[Tina63]

I'm not the sort off person tell my feeling face to face to nurse tho I just let it build up

Dare I say 'Typical Man!!!' I know it's hard to bare your soul if you are not comfortable sharing your feelings, but it's a bit like being an addict, admitting you have a problem is half the battle. At least telling your nurse you are serious about changing things will I am sure get you on the right road. It may just help her be even more sympathetic if she knows you get no support at home. Sorry, not nagging, honest!

Glad to hear you are feeling a little happier today. See, just talking to us lot helps! Keep taking it one day at a time, and come on here for a bit of a chat from time to time.

Keep your chin up.
Tina

 

[NatB]

So sorry you can't speak to your dad. Sometimes it's easier to speak to someone not emotionally involved.Do u have any friends that you could talk to? Have you tried to do some form of exercise? I joined the gym again and have found it is a new focus and my levels have come down so much. Also made some great friends. 🙂

 

[smile4loubie]

So sorry to hear you're having a rough time Oliver. I never used to take my diabetes seriously either and actually its mainly due to the support I got from the wonderful people on here that I do/can now. They've helped me in sooooo many ways. Wish I could do more to help but please keep posting on here 🙂 if they can help me change my life around they can help anyone! Stay strong, think positive and I'm sure you can achieve anything.

Big hugs
Loubie xx

 

[Oliver1992]

Thanks every 1 for all the advice and surrport on here, prob don't help that I given every thing up to try sort my self out i haven't had a fag for 2 weeks or drop off alcohol 🙂

 

[Northerner]

Thanks every 1 for all the advice and surrport on here, prob don't help that I given every thing up to try sort my self out i haven't had a fag for 2 weeks or drop off alcohol 🙂

With all that on your plate it's no wonder you are feeling emotional Oliver. Stick with it, I guarantee you will feel 100% better once you've got it under control! 🙂 Well done on quitting the ciggies - one of the best things you can do when you have diabetes 🙂

 

[Oliver1992]

Thanks I crave a fag but always tell my self no a really wanna sort my self out

 

[smile4loubie]

Thanks every 1 for all the advice and surrport on here, prob don't help that I given every thing up to try sort my self out i haven't had a fag for 2 weeks or drop off alcohol 🙂

Well done. That's brilliant!!!! Be very proud of yourself for that xxxx

 

[lesgunn]

Hi Oliver,

Glad you're feeling better. It's tough when parents can't grasp how you're feeling and what this does to you.

As a fellow north easterner, I know that mums and dads can come across as brash and uncaring, but perhaps underneath it all, your dad is scared too. There again, it could be ignorance! Only you can gauge that...

I've only been on this forum for what feels like 5 minutes, but the people are welcoming and you'll always get support. As for giving up the cigs, well done. If you think that's been bad, you should have seen me being dragged away from the Pie counter at Greggs the day after I was diagnosed...!

Take care 🙂

 

[Oliver1992]

Every day I get crave for 1 but I say no 🙂 gunna go gym Tuesday hopefully x

 

[NatB]

Brilliant u r going to try the gym. I'm sure it will make u feel better.
Well done on giving up the smoking. I can't relate to it though as I have never done it but seen my family members suffer the long term effects of it.
I have everything in moderation including a drink at the weekend.
Keep at it. We are all here for you. 🙂
Natb

 

[ageez]

Well done

Hi,

I think you are very brave coping with your type 1 by yourself. Don't listen to the negative views of your Dad.

Keep up the good work with the cigs and enjoy going to the gym - that will help your blood sugars, as well as giving you a sense of well-being.

This diabetes business is hard. Just keep thinking about your bright future and you will see that the hard work is worth it.

 

[Oliver1992]

Yh ima go gym help me focus I been out work for 2 months as I feel I can't work way I'm feeling ATM I wouldn't be able to fully comit to sorting self out my health come first before working

 

[nitaduck]

sorry to hear you having a hard time right now oliver - hope you find the support you need from your family and in the meantime keep on here it helps i have found that out recently - good luck mate