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Dont u just feel dat sum people r like reli stupid sumtimes cus i was havin a crappy day so i decided 2 hav a few more biscuits than usual. but my mate was bein reli inconsiderate and for the whole day kept on sayin ahh ye ur gonna be havin high sugar levels and told my faily wen they came home (cus my mate was ova at my house). and my family was like shes only sayin it cus she cares but she was bein nasty 😡 and sarcastic on purpose. now its gonna be akward at school any suggestions about wat to do/say?

Rant now over ta... Smile.
 
Dont u just feel dat sum people r like reli stupid sumtimes cus i was havin a crappy day so i decided 2 hav a few more biscuits than usual. but my mate was bein reli inconsiderate and for the whole day kept on sayin ahh ye ur gonna be havin high sugar levels and told my faily wen they came home (cus my mate was ova at my house). and my family was like shes only sayin it cus she cares but she was bein nasty 😡 and sarcastic on purpose. now its gonna be akward at school any suggestions about wat to do/say?

Rant now over ta... Smile.

Glad you enjoyed your rant. :D
99% of it I could not understand due to text speak any translaters in the house please? 🙄
 
Glad you enjoyed your rant. :D
99% of it I could not understand due to text speak any translaters in the house please? 🙄

Sorry sue,

Here is my translated version...

Dont you just fell like some people are really stupid sometimes because i was having a crappy day so i decided to have a few more biscuits than usual. But my mate was being really inconsiderate and for the whole day she kept on saying your blood sugar levels and she told my family when they came home as my friend was at my house. My family was like shes only saying it because she cares but she was actually being nasty and sarcastic on purpose. Any suggestions about what to do/say?

Rant over now ta... Smile.
 
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Dont u just feel dat sum people r like reli stupid sumtimes cus i was havin a crappy day so i decided 2 hav a few more biscuits than usual. but my mate was bein reli inconsiderate and for the whole day kept on sayin ahh ye ur gonna be havin high sugar levels and told my faily wen they came home (cus my mate was ova at my house). and my family was like shes only sayin it cus she cares but she was bein nasty 😡 and sarcastic on purpose. now its gonna be akward at school any suggestions about wat to do/say?

Rant now over ta... Smile.
Hiya Smile,

Rite b4 I say anythin I've got a type 1 diabetic son, so in some ways can relate to how u feelin. I promise I wont say out sarcastic or owt.
People are stupid and sumtimes say daft thing, and r totally inconsiderate to how you feel.
Yes, ur mate stated the obvious. We all ave crappy days n reach 4 things to cheer ourselves up with. 2day it was you and you ad a couple more biccies than you should, we are all allowed bad days. Maybe you fed up with it all, and wanted to take control of what you ate etc.
Your friend mite ave told your family because she cares, but you feel like she was tryin 2get u in to trouble, Nathan mates used to do exactly the same n he felt like you do.
In the end I used to tell his mates it was ok, he could ave it, was no big deal, eventually the novelty wore off with them.
Next time beat her to eat and tell them first, that way u feel more in control, and your family will know b4 hand why u got high sugar levels, then u can acommodate your insulin..Be honest and open im sure u'll gain even more respect from them.
As a skool on monday, just b cool act like usual, say thank you to her 4 showing concern,but please dont do it again its not helpful. Move on
Thinks always look better in the morning.
Hope this helps hun, chin up, just remember your doin really well and in control.
Heidi 😛
 
You asked the same question as I was going to Sue. I couldn't understand the majority of it either lol :confused:
 
If she was purposely being sarcastic and nasty, she can't be a very good friend. Sounds like one of those outspoken bully type friends who you kind of like but they aren't particularly nice to you. So my advice would be to tell her that she was being nasty and that you can eat what you like and then go and hang around with anyone who is usually nicer to you!
 
Sorry sue,

Here is my translated version...

Dont you just fell like some people are really stupid sometimes because i was having a crappy day so i decided to have a few more biscuits than usual. But my mate was being really inconsiderate and for the whole day she kept on saying your blood sugar levels and she told my family when they came home as my friend was at my house. My family was like shes only saying it because she cares but she was actually being nasty and sarcastic on purpose. Any suggestions about what to do/say?

Rant over now ta... Smile.

Thanks for the translation 🙂
Now is what you do is give a lecture on diabetes. This is the best way to shut anyone up.
Ask her if there is a law against eating biscuits.
Point out in a nice adult way that you can eat biscuits all you do is cover the carbohydrates with insulin.
Then go into detail of how many units you need for x amount of carbs. I bet that's the last you will hear about it. :D
If she does persist then tell her quite firmly that if you want a nany you will ask rent a nanny to provide you with one 🙄
 
Hi Smile, can I ask, did you cover the biscuits by taking more insulin? If you didn't and ate them because you knew that it would push your sugars high, then I think your friend was right to be a little concerned, although maybe not to the point of grassing you up! Sometimes, when people are having a bad time, they feel they have a need to 'punish' themselves, and diabetics unfortunately can do this by deliberately avoiding proper care with their diabetes. If you're having a bad day, please take it out on something else - go and smash some old plates in the garden or something! - but please take good care of yourself. 🙂

p.s. Thanks for the translation too! I have studied Arabic, Russian and Chinese, but txtspeak is beyond me!😱:D
 
Hi Smile

sorry you were having a bad day, biscuits are nice as a treat, and a great comfort food.

Next time you friend tells you you are having too many biscuits tell her she needs something to make her sweeter natured too.

It is not so easy for non diabetics to understand our extra need for comfort foods when we are having a bad time. My way round it is to have a sugar free day, and I serve things like blancmange (I know it is high in carbs, but worth it to make a point) without sugar and things like grapefruit. I also serve a very reduced salt meal which most people hate. Most people agree food tastes pretty yuch minus the salt and sugar.

I hope you are feeling happier.
 
Hi there!

I understood every word in your post. I think you should tell your friend that if you had wanted her advice then you would have asked her for it. Also make it clear that it is your choice whether you want a biscuit or not! I am not saying i agree that you should have had it without insulin, but it is your choice and if your levels go sky high - then you will know the reason why!
Your friend was mean to tell your parents - but maybe she thought she was 'helping' you and doesnt want you to have 'out of control' levels? Perhaps it was done with good intentions? I think you need to talk it over with her - calmly - and try to understand it from her point of view - and hope that she understands it from yours too!

You obviously know the effects of food without insulin - and i understand that if you were feeling bad you wanted to 'rebel' - but perhaps you should limit yourself to not doing this too often. Or perhaps you are so fed up you need someone to talk it over with? Perhaps someone outside of the family? Is there a nice teacher you could talk to? 🙂 Bev
 
Oh my gosh,i just found out at school today that my so called 'mate' has been telling everyone about the biscuit incident and saying that i hav no control when it comes to my diabetes, that im abusing it and i am irresponsible. Now most of class is talking about me (just great). Also she said that if hav a stupid sugar attack then she cant be arsed to look after me or help me, so i told her where to stick it but i am just so annoyed at her for tellin everyone😡 as their was NO need. Arghh i am just so angry at her, she had no right to tell every one and then say such things to me. I dont know wat to do now?! Help please...

PS thank you everyone for your advice, i dont know what i would do without you 🙄
 
Oh my gosh,i just found out at school today that my so called 'mate' has been telling everyone about the biscuit incident and saying that i hav no control when it comes to my diabetes, that im abusing it and i am irresponsible. Now most of class is talking about me (just great). Also she said that if hav a stupid sugar attack then she cant be arsed to look after me or help me, so i told her where to stick it but i am just so annoyed at her for tellin everyone😡 as their was NO need. Arghh i am just so angry at her, she had no right to tell every one and then say such things to me. I dont know wat to do now?! Help please...

PS thank you everyone for your advice, i dont know what i would do without you 🙄

Hi smile

This girl isnt a true friend to you, she had no rite to say anything and she just being nasty.. you certainly dont need friends like that in your life hun.
She a ignorant little b****. You have every rite to be angry at her.. Tell her while you have diabetes to which you are in good control and have other really supportive friends.. she on the other had needs a personality transplant to which there no known remedy..Lol
Take care
Heidi
🙂
 
Hi smile yes ur mate was totally wrong to say that to all your mates at school, i agree with sasha she is arrogant and needs to think carefully about what she has said and done. By the way you were so right to tell her where to stick it because if shes a friend and is acting like that then you definately dont need her, your better off without her to be honest babe. x
 
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Thanks Heidi and Tasha,

She was definately bang out of order plus i hav other friends who do worry about me but they say stuff in a nice way and dont go blurting out personal stuff like this. I thought maybe i was being a little too harsh but no im not and you guys are right :D thanks
 
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