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Giving up

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Roberte

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Hi has anybody else been through a phase when they just eat anything and just feel like giving up battling diabetes! Help ! I’m just on a continuous down fall .
 
Hi, I'm sure there are many people that have found themselves where you are now but I can't say I have, after suffering 2 eye complications already with a strict diet and good control I couldn't face the risks of neglecting it and straying, have you got any support around you? You could even ring your GP surgery and ask for a little more support as it sounds like your going through burn out
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Managing Diabetes doesn’t stop and it is something that we all have to take account o all the time, so it is understandable at times to find it all too much. I certainly did but I have come out the other side.
I found it useful to focus on small achievable targets as well as having to accept that living with my Diabetes was now part of my normal life.

It would be helpful to know how you manage your diabetes. Are you on meds? Insulin?
This will help us tailor the advice that we give.

I took a long time to ask for help, but eventually spoke to my consultant and GP and found the counselling that I got a big factor in my recovery.

Is there anything particular that has triggered how you feel at the moment?
 
Yes - many times through the years @Roberte, and I wish I could provide an easy answer.

Are there particular issues that are causing more problems at the moment? if so let us know what they are and we will always try to help.

For me when these dark times happen, I try to focus on the positives of what I have achieved so far, and some of the benefits of a new lifestyle. Also if I do have a major lapse, try to limit it's time, forget it and move forward with the good things again as soon as I can. Also I try to think through what the triggers are to this happening and to see if there is anything I can do to avoid them.
It can be a very hard thing to do though, so keep posting and sharing can be a big help.
 
... and I really like a quote I saw
Diabetes has no memory. Every new day is a new start.
 
grovesy said:
May be you could try by making small steps to make changes.
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Great suggestion @grovesy @Roberte Why not decide on one thing you are going to work on today. Just one. And then action it and make it happen. You can do just one thing differently today as a small step to getting back in control
 
Very much so, and many times! I didn’t realise how much food was linked to emotions for some people. If someone had asked me, pre diabetes, ‘Are you an emotional eater?’, I would have said no. I’ve found though, that eating and food are very much linked to how I’m feeling, even if it’s subconscious. I’ve ‘fallen off the wagon’ many times, got frustrated, angry, raged, felt sorry for myself, got angry with others eating what they wanted, but somehow managed to get back on it. I’m currently doing ok. It’s usually seeing or hearing a reminder of how important it is to keep good control that gets me back on track. I’ll probably let things slip again, but the importance of controlling our blood glucose, keeping active and watching our weight have other benefits too. I’m probably more active now. I’ve lost a stone. I feel fitter. These things have an impact on daily life with or without diabetes. If I’d carried on the way I was, I’d probably be 2 stone heavier by now. Thank you for asking the question.
 
All the time.

Well not all the time but the thought is certainly there in the background making itself heard.
 
Yes - but only when something else is upsetting me @Roberte - and that's the truth. Knowing full on too damn well that the only person who's gonna suffer is me, hasn't put me off. If you analyse it, it's a form of self harm, a cry for help. Sooo - ask yourself what you're upset about?

The thing that's worked for me is to fight back - but secretly only for myself, because then only I will know that I have won! - so, actually dealing with my diabetes like a model patient - because I'll be buggered if I'm gonna let you/them/it kill me!

Then of course when I'm feeling better about myself because of how good I've been, I'm much better able to deal with most of the c**p life hurls at me.

I'm quite verbally belligerent, and that works with me - but ask me to undo a Libre sensor or fight my way out of a paper bag and I'm stuffed!
 
I've been a bad girls since lockdown and still in the naughty habit mode.

Got my Hba1C next month so all will be revealed.....
 
Hi thank yo so much for replying to my post . I’m a type 2 and on 500G metformin Twice a day . I also suffer from depression which sometimes brings me so low and take citalopram for that . My problem is I just can’t stay away from the binge eating of food I should not eat . I’ve lost motivation to get fit and seem on a downward spiral. The advice you are giving me on here about taking one step at a time is a fantastic idea . I was exercising with long walks through the forest ,when we’re allowed our 1 daily exercise . But when here things started to get better I just stopped the walks comply. I think I’d better get out walking again and stop feeling so down on myself as I can beat this ! Thanks for your comments and support and in a way it’s refreshing to hear that I’m not alone .
 
Roberte said:
Hi thank yo so much for replying to my post . I’m a type 2 and on 500G metformin Twice a day . I also suffer from depression which sometimes brings me so low and take citalopram for that . My problem is I just can’t stay away from the binge eating of food I should not eat . I’ve lost motivation to get fit and seem on a downward spiral. The advice you are giving me on here about taking one step at a time is a fantastic idea . I was exercising with long walks through the forest ,when we’re allowed our 1 daily exercise . But when here things started to get better I just stopped the walks comply. I think I’d better get out walking again and stop feeling so down on myself as I can beat this ! Thanks for your comments and support and in a way it’s refreshing to hear that I’m not alone .
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I’m T2. Also take metformin but now it’s 1 x 500mg a day. I take escitalopram 20mg daily and have done for about 18 years or so.

You really are not alone.

What’s your diet like?
 
Roberte said:
Hi thank yo so much for replying to my post . I’m a type 2 and on 500G metformin Twice a day . I also suffer from depression which sometimes brings me so low and take citalopram for that . My problem is I just can’t stay away from the binge eating of food I should not eat . I’ve lost motivation to get fit and seem on a downward spiral. The advice you are giving me on here about taking one step at a time is a fantastic idea . I was exercising with long walks through the forest ,when we’re allowed our 1 daily exercise . But when here things started to get better I just stopped the walks comply. I think I’d better get out walking again and stop feeling so down on myself as I can beat this ! Thanks for your comments and support and in a way it’s refreshing to hear that I’m not alone .
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That's a brilliant plan, if you love walking in the forest then worth the effort. I always feel better after a walk in the woods. Also remember to be very kind and supportive to yourself. Whilst taking one step, try saying, I am doing very well. I find the messages I tell myself influences my mood greatly. I know you are doing great, and look forward to hearing about your walk in the forest. Sending loads of support.
 
Roberte said:
I think I’d better get out walking again and stop feeling so down on myself as I can beat this !
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Great idea @Roberte Start with a plan of even a 15 minute walk a day. Make it a habit and when you are comfortable you can plan what to work on next. This is a huge mountain we all have to climb and the only way of doing it is one step at a time.
 
Roberte said:
Hi thank yo so much for replying to my post . I’m a type 2 and on 500G metformin Twice a day . I also suffer from depression which sometimes brings me so low and take citalopram for that . My problem is I just can’t stay away from the binge eating of food I should not eat . I’ve lost motivation to get fit and seem on a downward spiral. The advice you are giving me on here about taking one step at a time is a fantastic idea . I was exercising with long walks through the forest ,when we’re allowed our 1 daily exercise . But when here things started to get better I just stopped the walks comply. I think I’d better get out walking again and stop feeling so down on myself as I can beat this ! Thanks for your comments and support and in a way it’s refreshing to hear that I’m not alone .
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I too have suffered from depression over the years. I feel I have to do exercise you like and not exercise for the sake of it, though having said that I hate my Exercise bike, but I use daily as 3 years ago I had a knee replacement, and find the difference in my knee if I don't use.
I have changed things myself over where I would binge then eat a meal, if I binge I now can skip the meal till the next one.
 
Forests are stunning this time of year with all the autumn colours, I’m off for a walk myself with my camera to see if I can get any good shots. Always energises me.
 
I find that cooking something helps - for instance roasting a chicken or a pork shoulder joint - with crackling - and putting a (metal) dish of vegetables underneath the roasting rack, then pouring in some stock or gravy at the half way stage (must be a metal dish) and then just eating until stuffed results in the possibility of going off track reducing to almost zero.
Although I have some higher carb foods around as I cook for my husband they have little attraction for me from the other side of the table and with so much in between such as more meat or veges.
I find it helps to prepare for what you intend to eat - like getting the joint out of the freezer the previous evening, so you are anticipating the good and proper meal for some time beforehand.
 
Don’t forget SSRIs, I think Citalopram is one, can increase your desire for carbs, and can affect motivation. Try not to give yourself such a hard time as this may not be you, it may be the tablets!
 
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