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scared incase i break down at funeral

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traceycat

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tomorrow is my daughters fiances funeral and ive got myself in a bit of a state incase i break down crying. i want to stay strong for my daughter but until it all actuly happens i dont know how im going to react. im scared that when i see her wee face and see her so upset that i wont be able to stay strong for her :(
 
traceycat said:
tomorrow is my daughters fiances funeral and ive got myself in a bit of a state incase i break down crying. i want to stay strong for my daughter but until it all actuly happens i dont know how im going to react. im scared that when i see her wee face and see her so upset that i wont be able to stay strong for her :(
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Tracey theres no fast and set rules at a funeral I know you want to stay strong for your daughter but you loved her fiancee to and trying to keep your feelings hidden may make it more harder for you x I know its easier said then done but your daughter wont feel any less for you however you react at her mans funeral x ,your a wonderful mum but you also have a heart and feelings.
I hope it all goes ok tomorrow as much as days like that can x
you and your daughter and all will be in my thoughts
 
Hi Tracey,

I recently buried my husband and everyone cried. It is hard and you will not know until you are actually there how you will respond. (((hugs)))
 
I think Steff's hit the nail on the head there - the main thing is that you will be there. Hope all goes well, will be thinking of you. X
 
Steff said:
Tracey theres no fast and set rules at a funeral I know you want to stay strong for your daughter but you loved her fiancee to and trying to keep your feelings hidden may make it more harder for you x I know its easier said then done but your daughter wont feel any less for you however you react at her mans funeral x ,your a wonderful mum but you also have a heart and feelings.
I hope it all goes ok tomorrow as much as days like that can x
you and your daughter and all will be in my thoughts
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thankyou steff, reading what you said has realy reasured me that i shouldnt be afraid to show my feelings at the funeral, we all loved him and i will be there for her even if i do cry. thanks huni x
 
cherrypie said:
Hi Tracey,

I recently buried my husband and everyone cried. It is hard and you will not know until you are actually there how you will respond. (((hugs)))
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im very sorry to read that you lost your husband, hugs to you aswel x
 
Twitchy said:
I think Steff's hit the nail on the head there - the main thing is that you will be there. Hope all goes well, will be thinking of you. X
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yeah what steff said made alot of sense and has reasured me that its ok to cry.
thankyou for thinking of me x
 
I will be thinking of you all tomorrow Tracey. As has been said, don't be afraid to let your feelings show, you will be sharing your grief together.
 
Northerner said:
I will be thinking of you all tomorrow Tracey. As has been said, don't be afraid to let your feelings show, you will be sharing your grief together.
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thankyou alan, i realy appreicate all yours and the others support and kind words x .
 
It's okay to break down at funerals, it shows you care. It's your chance to say goodbye which is a sad occasion. I hope all goes well and I'm very sorry for your loss, thoughs are with you and your daughter! Xxxx
 
traceycat said:
tomorrow is my daughters fiances funeral and ive got myself in a bit of a state incase i break down crying. i want to stay strong for my daughter but until it all actuly happens i dont know how im going to react. im scared that when i see her wee face and see her so upset that i wont be able to stay strong for her :(
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You may breakdown, but it's only natural. Your daughter will know that you are there for her. please except my sincere condolences. You, your daughter and her fiances family will be in my thoughts. With heartfelt sympathy Sheena
 
Good luck for the funeral Tracy. It won't be easy for any of you - whether you cry or not is not important - just be yourself and grieve as you need to.

{{{{Traceycat}}}}
 
Traceycat and family. Thinking of you all today

Cherrypie so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.
 
just seen this, sending you much love and hugs, i think it just shows you are a normal human to cry at a funeral for you daughters fiance, will be thinking of you all
 
well we all got through today, it was a very sad day and like most of you told me emotion will just happen, i did cry but after all your lovely comments i wasnt afraid to show it, i huged my daughter an we both cried, everyone was crying in the service. and im so proud of my lovely daughter, she coped brillianty and i know her fiance would have been proud of her aswel. it was a lovely service and we are all gonna miss him dearly but we know hes in a better place now free from pain. R.I.P.
thank you all again for all your support and kind words, they realy mean alot 🙂
 
It is so sad, but I am glad that you were all able to be there for each other and share your precious memories Tracey.
 
Tracey I'm happy to see you got through it best you could darling. X x x
 
I'm glad you were supporting each other, well done, remember it might sounf final but its not, he will always be there in your hearts.

John
 
I'm glad all went ok for you, and your daughter, today. It is so hard to know how you will react. We buried my mum, on monday. It was a lovely service, but we all sobbed our hearts out. Things take time to come to terms with. I still can't believe mom has gone. It's mothers day tomorrow and it really hurts that I have no mother anymore. We must all help each other through these sad times. Is your daughter living with you? Huggs and cuddles, as well as thoughts and prayers are sent from me to you all.
 
spiritfree said:
I'm glad all went ok for you, and your daughter, today. It is so hard to know how you will react. We buried my mum, on monday. It was a lovely service, but we all sobbed our hearts out. Things take time to come to terms with. I still can't believe mom has gone. It's mothers day tomorrow and it really hurts that I have no mother anymore. We must all help each other through these sad times. Is your daughter living with you? Huggs and cuddles, as well as thoughts and prayers are sent from me to you all.
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im so so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, my deepest sympathy to you at this very sad time hun.
no my daughter lives about 40 miles from home but we want her to come back home so she has the support of her family around her.
 
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