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elwoodlpool

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Hi all,,

Were do i start now ive ended up financially in a mess with things too the worry from it and and the stress of being diabetic, plus all the neglect court case involving my late mother has got me back into old ways..

Ive been drinking alot and i know its wrong but im really struggling to cope things have been that bad ive thought sod it id be better off dead,

I had the test results back from my test since i got put on a higher dose of blood pressure tablets and they were fine..

But the amount im drinking is bad, and well its the only way i seem to be able to cope..

Ive been doing so well but id say the last 3 months have been awful...


Jesus whats happening to me??


Mark
 
Sounds like you're having a tough time. I hope telling us has helped and that things start to sort themselves out soon for you.
 
Thanks Caroline

i suffered bad with depression but its like its come back 10 fold..All i think now is sod the diabetes im better off dead....I have another eye test on friday and im panicing..Its all getting too much to cope..


Mark
 
I do hope that things will start to improve soon but Mark, have you got any support out there at all? Is there anyone you could go to for a bit of moral support or even some counselling? We're always here for you but it seems to me you could do with a bit more practical help than we can offer.
 
Thanks Alison,,

I have been reffered for councilling but heatd nothing at all,

Id say the lkast 3 years have been unreal to me and my family and its like its all hit me. Mum's neglect case,Money,My partner lost her dad being diabetic..
Feeling worthless hating myself. It hit mr the other day im worth more dead to my kids than alive as i have life insurance i cant see a way out. And i think what else is there to look forward too except complications from this bloody illness too..

Im sorry to go on just needed to vent some steam

Mark
 
In times of need you have came to the place that you know can give you some support.................theres good days and bad days, you may feel more bad than good recently.

Although you are drinking heavily, and for me personally I can agree it does help take all your problems away, you have acknowledged it and know its wont be helping in the long term.....

Get to the GP for help if you need something to pick yourself up a bit as it seems you can get quite panicky about things. Take all the help you can get from anyone who is offering it, whether it be emotionally or financially....

Good news with the BP, I am on a lot too, but its doing the job....


Keep calm buddy..............
 
elwoodlpool said:
Hi all,,

Were do i start now ive ended up financially in a mess with things too the worry from it and and the stress of being diabetic, plus all the neglect court case involving my late mother has got me back into old ways..

Ive been drinking alot and i know its wrong but im really struggling to cope things have been that bad ive thought sod it id be better off dead,

I had the test results back from my test since i got put on a higher dose of blood pressure tablets and they were fine..

But the amount im drinking is bad, and well its the only way i seem to be able to cope..

Ive been doing so well but id say the last 3 months have been awful...


Jesus whats happening to me??


Mark
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Hi Mark - sorry that you are feeling so awful - have you had any news on the counselling that you were going to have. If not have a word with your Dr and see if things can be escalated in some way.

You've had a lot of difficult things to cope with. Can you talk to your partner or is she still grieving for her Dad?

You need to find some help - have a look at the local colleges and see if there are any local courses that you could attend, or if there are any free counselling services where you live.

If you tell us a town or city someone may know of free services in the area.
 
Drinking alot dont help anyone does it,,I seem to get on track then then the day after something else comes and slaps me down.


Mark
 
Hi Mark

when you are depressed any bad thing seems a lot worse, try planning some nice things that you and your family can do together.

In some areas there are organisations that do free counselling, but whilst you are waiting you can attend stress management of self-esteem courses. Your Dr may be able to put you in touch - or someone may be able to suggest somewhere if you tell us your home town.
 
Thanks Margie,,

I just need to get back on target,,

I think i can identify the 3 biggest things making me feel so low

Mum's case

Diabetes

Money..


there the deamons i cant shake and at the moment i worry about my sanity too

Mark
 
Hi Mark, if you've been referred for counselling but not yet heard anything, perhaps its time to go back to the doc for more help, make a fuss - tell him again how bad things are - are you on any anti D's and if not perhaps they'll help you temporarily until you're on an even keel again.

Regards and chin up lad, things will pick up eventually - honest.
 
Yeah i will call them today and make a fuss. I really need help because few days ago i met with the social services over mums serious case review, But it kicked off the horrific nightmares again. I had many graphic nightmare after mums death and that set me up to be a complete bag of nerves i used to have to sleep in the other room because id be screaming in my sleep...


Mark
 
Hang in there Mark. Hope you get the support you need soon.

M
 
elwoodlpool said:
Yeah i will call them today and make a fuss. I really need help because few days ago i met with the social services over mums serious case review, But it kicked off the horrific nightmares again. I had many graphic nightmare after mums death and that set me up to be a complete bag of nerves i used to have to sleep in the other room because id be screaming in my sleep...


Mark
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Sorry - I had to go out - but if you haven't called the Dr yet then tell them what your wrote above. You shouldn't be having to endure such horrific nightmares.
 
Hi Mark, you sound like you are going through a really tough time. Like Margie says, write everything down that you have written on here, including the nightmares and feeling like you would be better off dead and take it to your GP. I had been down for a long time, and only when I got so bad I couldn't cope anymore I went to see my GP and explained exactly what had been happening, I am now on mild anti-deppresants and I feel so much more in control of my life. Life is worth living, but sometimes it is hard to see that. Please speak to someone soon, best wishes xxx
 
Ive called the Gp today and been told by there secratary that im not an important case and i can see the Dr the end of next month..


GREAT EH..


Mark
 
Mark, that's attrocious. It's not up to the receptionist to say who is and who is not 'important'. I'd call again and insist on speaking to someone, even it's a short telephone appointment, I'm sure they can find five minutes to talk to you.
 
Mark - the medical side has already been covered, but for the financial / debt aspect, you would be best finding help from debt and benefit specialist advisors eg CAB, welfare rights, law centre etc - different places help in different areas. However, don't pay a company for such advise - free advisors are nearly always more skilled / experienced, and don't take % of refunds, benefits etc, so you keep all that's owed to you.
 
I am grateful for all the advice on here i really am, Just got to keep going i guess. But at the moment it all feels so difficult.


Mark
 
Hi Mark

You've done well to list the things that are troubling you the most.

Could you go one step further and list the things that you can actually do about them. ie. things that you have control over and can influence.

The biggest problem with depression and panic attacks is worrying about things you can't control. If you can prioritise the things you can, you may be able to start by doing those things, which may take the edge of the overall problem.

Maybe you could contact an advisor (citizen's advice?) about your money problems ?
They can suggest ways of consolidating your debts or minimising your outgoings, etc
Your diabetes will sort itself out if you do the basics and try your best to cut down on the drink. That'll just add to your carbs and put weight on. But you know that, so just do your best and congratulate yourself every time you resist.

You can sort it out Mark, but one thing at a time. Don't ry and tackle everything at once. You're only human. 🙂

Rob
 
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