Oh dear Billy, you do have a problem. Bread, rice, pasta and spuds are all baddies for us diabetics in that they convert to glucose very quickly, one reason athletes use them for fast energy. Those of us on insulin can adjust for the carbs, but it's not so easy when you're on pills or diet and exercise, which is why adapting your diet is so important. Milk and milk products can be a problem was well because of the lactose, but there the fat content may slow the rise in BG levels.
You might try a few alternatives such as Bergen bread which some of our members swear by, and sweet potato which I love and has exactly the same 'comfort' factor as ordinary spuds but is lower carb. You can do everything with that last that you can do with a normal spud so it's really flexible too. There are pasta alternatives as well, but I'll leave it to one of the others to list those for you, I've never tried them and don't know what to recommend.
Any chance you can teach yourself to like veg?