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Hi, Newbie here. for my Partner

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TeresaW

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Yes, partners live with diabetes too. We often have to pick up the pieces when things don't go so well. But we love 'em.

I'm Teresa, My partner Chris is T2, diagnosed following a heart attack in 1991 at the age of 34. Until then,he had no idea he was even possibly diabetic, in fact had just completed a charity cycle ride from John O'Groats to Lands End, and the medical prior to that, did not show diabetes.(or they missed it).
Anyway since then he's been like a cat with nine lives, having had a second heart attack, a minor stroke, a left leg amputation, the discovery of only one kidney, and a severe reaction to a drug recently prescribed that cause not only severe hypo (1.3) due to being unable to eat, but stage 2 acute kidney injury because of dehydration. We nearly lost him, and I never want to go through that again. Paramedics were brilliant and I thank God they decided to take him in even when they got his levels back up after two hours. They saved his life that day.

So we are still in recovery, he was discharged from hospital three weeks ago. He has had good control of his diabetes since we discovered he's lactose intolerant, back in 2011 after he lost his left leg, but we now know he has only one kidney, which had a little wobble last year, with proteins in his urine, but was discharged by the renal unit to be reviewed annually. Now this recent episode.

That's about it. Typical of some, he spent many years in denial, calling it 'fighting' it. but he wasn't, he was ignoring it, refusing to make the changes needed saying he wasn't going to let this dominate his life. This time, with the AKI, the wake-up call has really shaken him up, and he is happy to be almost meat free in his diet now, just eating a little chicken now and then, no more than twice a week. Lots more cooking for me, but he's doing well on it and actually enjoying it.
 
Hi TeresaW and welcome to the forum.
So sorry to hear about all Chris' medical problems. It must be very difficult in knowing what to cook for him with both T2D and only one kidney.

I hope somebody with experience will be along soon to give you some support and advice.
 
Hi @TeresaW and welcome from me too. You've both been through a heck of a lot!

The Food & Carbs section is full of excellent ideas for meals, but given the complications you may have to adjust. A lot of T2s eat a lot of meat as it's carb free but given the heart problems that may not be such a good idea. He's lucky to have you to look after him and cook the right foods, and hopefully it's the start of a new, healthier Chris.

Any questions, no matter how silly they may seem, will be answered here. It's a lovely friendly forum with a wealth of knowledge to help us all.

Best wishes
 
Yes, partners live with diabetes too. We often have to pick up the pieces when things don't go so well. But we love 'em.

I'm Teresa, My partner Chris is T2, diagnosed following a heart attack in 1991 at the age of 34. Until then,he had no idea he was even possibly diabetic, in fact had just completed a charity cycle ride from John O'Groats to Lands End, and the medical prior to that, did not show diabetes.(or they missed it).
Anyway since then he's been like a cat with nine lives, having had a second heart attack, a minor stroke, a left leg amputation, the discovery of only one kidney, and a severe reaction to a drug recently prescribed that cause not only severe hypo (1.3) due to being unable to eat, but stage 2 acute kidney injury because of dehydration. We nearly lost him, and I never want to go through that again. Paramedics were brilliant and I thank God they decided to take him in even when they got his levels back up after two hours. They saved his life that day.

So we are still in recovery, he was discharged from hospital three weeks ago. He has had good control of his diabetes since we discovered he's lactose intolerant, back in 2011 after he lost his left leg, but we now know he has only one kidney, which had a little wobble last year, with proteins in his urine, but was discharged by the renal unit to be reviewed annually. Now this recent episode.

That's about it. Typical of some, he spent many years in denial, calling it 'fighting' it. but he wasn't, he was ignoring it, refusing to make the changes needed saying he wasn't going to let this dominate his life. This time, with the AKI, the wake-up call has really shaken him up, and he is happy to be almost meat free in his diet now, just eating a little chicken now and then, no more than twice a week. Lots more cooking for me, but he's doing well on it and actually enjoying it.
Very sad Teresa & Chris hopefully you 2 are both ok after all this, all the best to both of you....
 
Hello @TeresaW welcome to the forum.

I read your full post on the General message board what a very sad post.

Here`s some info on Gliptins,

Take care you and Chis we are here for you.
Thank you Karnak, that's very useful. As the hospital had advised use of Gliptins if diarrhoea returns after trying Metformin I wanted to push those instead. Not sure if the GP will agree, but this gives me at least a little information to start with.
 
Hi @TeresaW and welcome from me too. You've both been through a heck of a lot!

The Food & Carbs section is full of excellent ideas for meals, but given the complications you may have to adjust. A lot of T2s eat a lot of meat as it's carb free but given the heart problems that may not be such a good idea. He's lucky to have you to look after him and cook the right foods, and hopefully it's the start of a new, healthier Chris.

Any questions, no matter how silly they may seem, will be answered here. It's a lovely friendly forum with a wealth of knowledge to help us all.

Best wishes
He does like his meat, especially chicken or pork so I can limit his red meat a lot. Following the illness he went off meat a little, but I think he'll soon be back on it. Sadly he loves his carbs too, so limiting them will take a bit more effort, especially bread. while he's gluten free because it's gentler on a sensitive gut, it's still high carb, Right now he's limiting himself to two slices a day, and we are getting proteins from pulses, eggs, greens and the little bit of chicken he has, and Quorn.
One sniff of bacon though and his resolve will weaken. 🙂
 
Very sad Teresa & Chris hopefully you 2 are both ok after all this, all the best to both of you....
sorry, didn't mean to come across as sad, it's not, we're really bouyant, especially today, as we got through another emergency that we didn't see coming, and he's on the up. His depression which came with the relentless diarrhoea recently has lifted today, and things are looking good. Just need to get his BM down and that isnt' going to happen without some help.
 
Hi TeresaW and welcome to the forum.
So sorry to hear about all Chris' medical problems. It must be very difficult in knowing what to cook for him with both T2D and only one kidney.

I hope somebody with experience will be along soon to give you some support and advice.
Thank you Ian
 
Very sad Teresa & Chris hopefully you 2 are both ok after all this, all the best to both of you....
Besides the exhaustion, physical and emotional, and torn out hair? Haha, yes we are fine, things are looking much, much better now. Thank you
 
Hello @TeresaW and welcome to the forum.
I have just read both your postings, and thank you for sharing your experiences.
Chris and yourself have had a great deal to endure and it is good to hear that you have come through with such resilience.

There is a great deal of experience and knowledge on the forum, and we will always try to help if we can with any questions.
Please keep posting and let us know how it's going, or just to let off steam if you need to.
 
Hello @TeresaW welcome to the forum.

I read your full post on the General message board what a very sad post.

Here`s some info on Gliptins,

Take care you and Chis we are here for you.
I have been on Gliptins must be going on 10 years, and I found they helped me control my appetite better than Metformin.
 
Welcome to the forum @TeresaW

So sorry to read of Chris’s illness. You have both had a difficult time.
Very pleased that you have joined us. There is a wealth of experience that you can tap into and people are always happy to answer any questions that you have.
 
Welcome to the forum @TeresaW

So sorry to read about everything you and Chris have been going through.

Hope the forum gives you a safe and friendly place to ask questions, compare notes and ideas, or just let off steam. We can‘t offer medical advice, and any suggestions or thoughts will only be the basis of one person’s experiences, but it can be very helpful to consult the ‘hive mind’ for ideas, strategies and suggestions that you can try yourselves or discuss with Chris’s GP. 🙂
 
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